An Open Letter to Everyone Who Can’t See My Worth

Before you point out your fingers at me, I am now giving you the chance to reflect on your life and all the wrongdoings you have committed. Seriously, you have a long way to go before you reach where I…

To everyone who insulted me since I am not working in a traditional office-based job, please lend me your ears even just for now.  I work night and day just to make ends meet, I have accepted multiple home-based clients, I was able to put up my start-up IT business with my husband, and yet you’re still looking for my mistakes.

What have I done wrong?

What do you expect from me to reject me this way?

Did I hurt anyone?

OR simply because you can’t take the risks I’ve done to be where I am right now?

To my long-time friends, thank you for deeply understanding my situation right now, even if it takes hundred times to convince me to go on a date night with you when I’m closing deals with clients. Yet, you’re all here to love and accept me unconditionally, even if you already have a hundred reasons to leave me. I know my shortcomings, and I promise to make it all up to you as soon as I meet both of my personal and career priorities.

Please know that all of you are not my last priority, it simply means that we understand each other and I really appreciate your effort to support me.

To my loving and selfless soon-to-be husband, thank you for believing to my goals, especially for everything I want to do in my life without any objections, for opening my eyes to opportunities that I unintentionally overlook. My dear love, every time you pick me up when I’m trying to ignore the broken pieces of me, it always reminds me that I always have someone that I can count on to, someone that is more than willing to love and protect me even during my worst days.

To my beloved naysayers everywhere I go and whatever I do, I really admire all of you to have the guts to speak against me even without knowing my story. You don’t know what I have been through, my sacrifices I have made and other kind of relationships that I chose to leave because it has become toxic anymore.

Before you point out your fingers at me, I am now giving you the chance to reflect on your life and all the wrongdoings you have committed. Seriously, you have a long way to go before you reach where I am today, because no matter what you do, no matter how much you hate, you will never be with me, you deserve to be there at my back and watch me as I grow and continuously loving myself.

The more you hate me, the more it shows how sad your life really is. Don’t spend too much time looking for my mistakes, learn to improve yourselves and please stop hating me; it won’t bring you any good at all.

Dad, I want you to know that I am really sorry for everything I have done to make you suffer and be disappointed. I know I am not in the position where you really want me to be but please know that I am a work-in-progress, stop judging me that I’m only a housewife right now.

You don’t know how much it hurts me knowing that my father hates me and questioning my priorities in life. Open your eyes and soften your heart on me, I know you really love me that much to the point that you keep on nagging me, it’s still me, your first born with an exciting life waiting to explore.

Sincerely,

Work at home soon-to-be-a bride.

 

Judith

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Marilou Mae Amparo ACT183 I think I start building my ideal self, when I enter college because before I thought that I am already enough my skills my knowledge or whatsoever but then i realized that Im not thats why now I am aiming to be like someone. And I think I already started it but in slow progress. My ideal self was my former classmate before, because he always have time studying and socializing and I dint know how he did that. ” I work night and day just to make ends meet, I have accepted multiple home-based clients,… Read more »

justlive
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When i was a kid I develop my ideal self. I dream that someday I will have my own company that i will pay everything with my own money my ideal self before is a person who can stand by himself and I also dream before to have super powers but those are in the past.

The writer build her I deal self when she said that she will become a bride “soon to be bride” she also dream a thing in the future and she establish her ideal self

Raymond Del Rosario
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I. The Ideal Self, because presents the way she wants her life to be.

II. The Ideal Self, because she believes that she’s a “work in progress.” She is on the process of being what she wants to be in her life.

Mharian Mabahin
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“thank you for believing to my goals, especially for everything I want to do in my life without any objections, for opening my eyes to opportunities that I unintentionally overlook” this line will surely touches everyone’s heart. Its overwhelming to hear that someone could accept you just the way you are. without any doubt, just you. Accept regarding you flaws.

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Mharian Mabahin
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“thank you for believing to my goals, especially for everything I want to do in my life without any objections, for opening my eyes to opportunities that I unintentionally overlook” this line will surely touches everyone’s heart. Its overwhelming to hear that someone could accept you just the way you are. without any doubt, just you. Accept regarding you flaws.

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Anne Klein Serrano

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It represents the concept of Ideal Self, because she stated the things that she wants to do in the future even its hard to please everyone.

Patricia Marie S. Estacio
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I. At a young adult age I started building my ideal self, wishing for a perfect job, doing what I really love to do and many impossible version of myself.
II. The line in the article the made creation of ideal self is “I know I am not in the position where you really want me to be but please know that I am a work-in-progress, stop judging me that I’m only a housewife right now.”

Katrina Perez
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This article depicts ‘the ideal self’. As what she had said, she’s a work-in-progress that shows the gradual building of herself up to the ideal self.

Lea Jane V. Pedarse
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We tend to make our own ideal self whenever we realized that we have something that other people do not have or we want to have something that other people have. Having an ideal self means that we realized that we have flaws and we are not perfect that is why we try to improve ourselves to be able to achieve our ideal self. On the other hand, I think this is the part of the article that reflects the creation of an ideal self, “I know I am not in the position where you really want me to be… Read more »

Dana Caluza
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I started living my ideal self when I was in grade school. My parents kept pressuring me that made me become a competitive person to the point where I hurt myself everytime I fail.

“Seriously, you have a long way to go before you reach where I am today, because no matter what you do, no matter how much you hate, you will never be with me, you deserve to be there at my back and watch me as I grow and continuously loving myself.”

Hazel Angelie Espiritu
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I. A person starts to build his ideal self when he can’t reach its contentment. I started building mine when I suffered from extreme sadness and when I lost my connection with God. I questioned my abilities and how miserable my life was. From there, I formulated an ideal self of mine that is near to perfection — an intelligent rich talented good-looking mammal.

II. “I know I am not in the position where you really want me to be but please know that I am a work-in-progress, stop judging me that I’m only a housewife right now”.

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Angela Mae Posadas
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Angela Mae Posadas

I started building my self when I became a teenager. It is because of a lot of circumstances that happened in my life which made me who I am now. I always dreamed of being a succesful woman.
The writer build her ideal self when he said thank you to everyone who insulted her

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Jenny Sylvia Eustaquio
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Jenny Sylvia Eustaquio

The thought of having an ideal self started when I was a kid. All of us have dreams which started when we were young. Along with that dream is depicting my ideal self and I am on the process of making my self similar to it. I look up to my aunt because she worked her way through her success. For me the parts of the article that indicates the creation of the ideal self is “I work night and day just to make ends meet, I have accepted multiple home-based clients, I was able to put up my start-up… Read more »

Mary Ann S. Luces
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For me, I think we start to build an Ideal self since when we are young, since the time when we knew people around us. Because for me, when we were young we all want to be like our mom or dad, our sister or our brother, or someone that we saw on TV. We started to think about our future, and our ideal self.
“To my loving and selfless soon-to-be husband,…” is the part of the article where it indicates the creation of an Ideal self.

Claire Cadorna
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ACT 182The article depicts “ideal-self”. The author is in the process of wanting to achieve here ideal-self. She has a lot of shortcomings but she wants to prove herself something.

Kezia Lucas
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LUCAS, KEZIA DOROTHY D.
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1. I think that the analogy used is that of the ideal self, which is, “A poor fit between child and environment sets in motion a process of self-alienated development in which an idealized image replaces the real self as the primary source of motivation and sense of identity.”

2. It is the Ideal Self because it shows her self idealizations. Also, the fact that she said that she is still a “work-in-progress” means that she’s still trying to become the ideal version of herself.

Peachy Galera
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I. I think this is a matter of loving someone who can’t loved you back. Meaning the author wanted to be himself of herself. He or she only wants freedom ad acceptance from the people surrounds him or her. But no one accepts and understand the author which makes the author hurt of course.
II. It is more of Real Self. Because the author is showing his or her personality but the environment is expecting him or her to do more and to be perfect in other word.

Kiana Rara
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Kiana Rara

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I. Since I was little, I’ve been having this ideal self of looking forward on what does it feel living in a castle and vowed by all people. As I grew up, I realized that being a princess is not my ideal self anymore. It become more of being a girl whose living her life according on what she wanted. And up until now, I’m still building up what my ideal self would be.

II. “your first born with an exciting life waiting to explore.”

Gail Benedicto Arciaga
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1. I think it is the Ideal self
II. The Ideal Self, because she wrote a lot of things above about on what she wants in the future

Lexine Bragado
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I started to build my ideal self when I entered college life. I’ve always thought of creating ideas that could help me grow as a person. I want to improve this, that and etc. I want it to actualize. I am not onfident enough to everything, feels so troubled everytime. That is why my mother is my ideal self up to this now. She is strong, a wise person, a fighter and everything. I really am admiring her. I love her personality as a woman. My past is not really that good. There are so many embarassing moments, rejections, hates,… Read more »

Anne Navarro
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I guess I started developing my ideal self since I was a kid. I have always wanted to be just like those Disney princesses ; beautiful, smart, brave, and independent. I dream myself to be as independent as them because I’m very much dependent on people. The writer’s ideal self is bride. A soon-to-be bride. She dreamt what her future would be.

She Mercado
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The analogy that was used to present the concept of Self is the concept of being the ideal self. The article depicts the ideal self because the author is going to do anything and everything in her power to reach that goal and in this case that goal is to embody all the qualities that her ideal self possesses. Her ideal self is created out of what she have learned from her life experiences, the demands of society, and what she admire in her role models.

MERCADO, Sheilla Mae O.
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