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The Comfort in Misconception

Life will never be fair on you if you only look at disdain and inconvenience.

Let me break it all down for you.

Each one of us has gone through something contemptuous that led us into the irreversible fate of our being. We may not agree as to how another’s path unfolds but we can incline ourselves into understanding.

Do not engage yourself into thinking that those people who hurt you will ever return to collect the knife they left behind your back. Zebras do not change their stripes, people shed skins dictated by season alone.

People will always have something to say, so do your piece anyway. A wise guy told me once that everyone is entitled to an opinion, but not everybody matters. Never commit yourself into becoming everyone’s cup of tea. You can’t please a roomful of people and you don’t have to.

Do not make it your job to save people from the hell hole they put themselves in the first place. You are accountable only to the unfolding of your future. You can exhaust yourself fussing on how they will turn out or you may take that opportunity to create a masterpiece that is your own.

People who detest you would say they knocked you down, but focus on the ones who saw you land on two feet; these are the ones you should keep. Sometimes, it takes crossing an ocean to get out of people’s shadow. When you do, spend no more time doubting your decisions. Look back but don’t dare go back.

Do not bother yourself with all those shade thrown at you. Pity the ones who never actually move since the day you left. Stop giving them the satisfaction of seeing you stoop down their level. Stop sacrificing your peace of mind to get even with someone who clearly hasn’t found theirs. What Susie says of Sally says more of Susie than of Sally. Insecurities resonate the loudest and it was their choice to let it speak for them anyways. As much as you desperately want to put people in their proper place, don’t. Sometimes it’s better to keep your peace and let it pass. Stay in your place – that way they can’t reach you.

Learn to find comfort in being misunderstood. Give up battles that no longer serve you. At the end of the day, it is not about the number of battles you’ve won; thump only the right ones. Grow up to get a glow up.