You will either look back in life and say,
“I wish I had”
“I’m glad I did”.
~ Zig Ziglar
It’s amazing that how a single decision can change a person’s entire life. We make choices based on our own preferences, sometimes because of other people’s influence, but still this decision will have a great impact on us, just like how we will decide on what path we will choose, the path we will create for ourselves or the path that was created for us?
As I grew older I became more conscious of the actions and decisions I make, I always say that I don’t care about what other people would think of me, but I guess I still do. As a kid, I have always been following instructions that my family gave to me, they make decisions for me that I just casually agreed to, and ever since then I feel like I need their approval of the things I do. I sometimes feel like I’m so naive, which doesn’t help, of course.
Can’t I make decisions for myself? Can’t I make decisions that involve my future? Sometimes question like this struck me, because after all I am the one who is going to live it, the life I will have, the path I will take, depends on it. I already lived 1/4 of my life, and I still feel like I always depend on others too much to the point that even the simplest decision for others to think was still hard for me. What I wanted was just to feel like I can create decisions that I made myself (which I have felt now), the people who surround us, especially our parents are here to guide us but is it really necessary for them to interfere? I mean it’s understandable at some point, they always want the best for us, but also sometimes the best for them was the worst for us. Creating this decision should have a mutual understanding and agreement on both sides, we can’t just shove our ideas to each others mind, we need to make them understand and of course understand them as well. But at this point we just need to prove our point, we want them to hear us, so our thoughts must be heard, we need to speak up, enough of having that fear, because this idea of us having fear that our parents won’t even try hear is out won’t do any good, we don’t know what will happen if we don’t even try. We are talking about our dream, we can’t just give up on it just because they want something different for us.
I have always believed that in making decisions, especially the one that is about chasing our dream, the most important thing is our happiness. We should do the things that make us happy, it is vital for us to know where our heart truly belongs and what it wants, and also to find our passion to do certain kinds of things because this will help us to know where we will settle for what we still don’t know.