Surviving LDR

But why do people still continue to be in this kind of relationship when the probability is more to fail than to triumph?

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Long Distance Relationship, three simple words but connotes complexity. Why? Simply because it’s hard, and I think many would agree with me that when you are in this kind of relationship, the word itself is synonymous to difficult. This is because there are a lot of things you can do which is a necessity to make any relationship work. Actually, some would say that “it sucks.” You don’t get to be intimate with your partner, deny if we must, but it is essential when you would like to last long with a partner. A long distance relationship compensates to having more disadvantages than advantages. There’s more to lose than to gain. Statistics show that two out of ten survive. But why do people still continue to be in this kind of relationship when the probability is more to fail than to triumph? Why not embrace the inevitability of it not going to work, instead of enduring the pain that would later on constitute to separation. Why contest when you are not sure to be winning in the end. People are eaten up by paradox of life which if I may say functions quite well too many of us. I say this because I know how it feels like. I would understand how people in these kinds of relationships feel because I am in one. It is difficult to put it together. It is impossible to make it ordinary when it is not. What I wanted to say is that there are a lot of demands that this relationship calls out for. A lot of love, respect, time, communication and trust are needed to make it truly work. But when you hope, and believe that love is existent despite the distance, I think that you would be able to get through anytime including LDR. And for those who are trying to make it work; here are some pointers that might help you to keep your long-distance relationship into place.

Accept the fact. It gives you bliss to know that you love someone and that person loves you back. But what good does it do, if you are far way from each other. The idea of being away from the person you love is just appalling. Then again, when you are in LDR, you ought to accept the fact that you are far away from each other. You have to remember that for quite some time, there’ll be no touching, hugging, and kissing or if whatever ways of affection you do to show your partner how you love him/her. But, be mind of that everything is just temporary, and that you will be together soon.

Conquer the distance. This goes hand in hand with the latter. If you have accepted the fact, then you would try to find ways to ease the separation. If you can, then try to go to where he/she is at. This shows your sincerity of how much you wanted to be with that person. If can’t, then do yourself a favor, and resist from reminding your partner the limitations of your relationship, and how far apart you are from each other. Instead, try to conquer the distance by making him/her feel that he is just a  jeep away.

Get connected. In any relationship, close or far from each other, communication is essential. It is one of the ways to express the like and dislike to progress your relationship. However, what LDR couples should be reminded of is that they are merely communicating with the means of various gadgets and applications. And with the technology we have now there are many possible ways wherein you could communicate with your partner. But that’s not the problem is it? Not being able to talk in person puts your relationship in a grave situation. The important thing to remember is to talk, chat, do a phone call or even a video call. It is not as good as being able to do it personally, but you have to settle for most resources you have.

Display faith. When in this kind of relationship, you must understand the word “trust”, not only in terms of being able to define it, but also to comprehend. You ought to give it fully and truly to your partner. You have to dealt with the idea that he or she is far away, but you have to be confident that you won’t be exchange for anyone else. It is good to protect yourself from vulnerabilities, but you should not let it eat you up. You must see to it that you show how much you trust him/her, and that trust should not be betrayed.

Drop the troubled mind. No matter how confident a person is, sometimes the LDR demons are just there to tickle you. You would think what he or she might be doing during the time your phone calls weren’t answered. You feel uneasy when you don’t get or hear the answers from him or her. These are just some of the reasons why you engage to fights that should have never occurred. You have to refrain from inviting ill-thoughts that would make you feel uneasy and less secure. You have to drop the “what ifs” because it enhances you chances of having arguments, eventually break-up.

Be understanding. Because of distance, time, work, and the separation would make couples easily give up. But when you accept the fact that you are in this kind of relationship. Then you also have to back it up with your patience and understanding. You have to pull your strings to the most possible stretch you can, for you to be of the same pace with your partner. You have to give up the idea of thinking about “you” instead the concept should be always “us”. When either of you understand each other’s situations; then it’ll be simpler for both of you. It is easier said than done then again, nothing comes off easy.

Make time. It is not difficult to comprehend what needs to be done. There are lots of complexities to remember when in this kind of relationship. You don’t need to find the time. You must irrevocably have to make time. You ought to put your priorities in placed. You tend to lessen everything such as sleep, socialization, and even limiting your pastime. All these in exchange for you to talk and share moments just like regular couples do.

Make plans. Being in a a long-distance relationship is really difficult. It is definitely a challenge for you and your partner. However, if you make plans together, there would always a glitter of hope. You heighten the fire when you put more wood in it. This goes the same with couple in LDR, when you feed each other happy and positive thoughts, and plans to do things together, it makes any feeling lighter. It would be developing to something where you want to lead it to. Having to know what plans is set for both of you gives you a feeling of security.

Let us remember that this type of relationship is not flowers and butterflies. It is like going to a war and unsure of winning. Then again, when you truly love a person, you should be willing to have certain sacrifices to make it work. When in love, we can’t protect ourselves all the time. There is no bullet proof to anything that would come along. In order to triumph over things, we must work hard for it. Remember that the curse of true love never run smooth. And in order to be together, couples often undergo difficulties and trials. We just have to remember that in any relationship, survival is not about considering all the factors you do not have control of, instead its exploring and utilizing all possible ways you can.

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Ronnel Palenzuela
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Ronnel Palenzuela

LDR – a test of faith, patience, and trust. I guess we are all intertwined with an imaginary string, destined to be with someone else. Humans are dependent to each other, as observed nowadays. But we are not strings. We’re rubber bands. We resort to LDRs ‘cause circumstance told us so. It’s a test. After all, you’re not gonna realize how strong a rubber band is, if you don’t bend it. I’ve been in this situation in the past. It’s terrible. They say it depends on the person. I say it’s not. Days and weeks passed without her company, without… Read more »

Rohm Mendoza
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Rohm Mendoza

I didn’t experience this kind of relationship but I think it is very hard, it is just like when your parents are going to abroad. It is hard for us not to see them, their presence that is a habit for us to see. We don’t even know what they do everyday in their location even though we communicate with them using social media. It is hard because we people are emotional in terms of love, we always want that our love is always by our side and stick together everytime. When you are not with them, we usually call… Read more »

Kirby Moyano
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Kirby Moyano

never give up

Richer Waje
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Richer Waje

LDR is building strong trust and faithfulness.

Kurt Antonio
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Kurt Antonio

Long distance relationships are challenging. Much of the joy that we find in our relationships comes from the activities we can do together in person.Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it. Ra nom😊

Mark Garcia
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Mark Garcia

I love it!

Donjay Dhenn Dhenn
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Donjay Dhenn Dhenn

LDR i already encounter that, all you need is patience and trust each other.

Jim Trillana
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Long Distance Relationship is a test to a relationship to have a strong faith and trust to each other.

Camille Jane Aquitania
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Camille Jane Aquitania

Long Distance Relationship, is what I had experienced on my last ex-boyfriend. Based on it, it is hard to surpass those days and even time just to bond with our loveone. We can’t accept the fact that we can trust him/her when he/she is not with you a long time ago. It is hard to communicate with them, because of different hindrances. Why couples often resort to Long Distance Relationship, is that both of them has its own goal to complete, so not all the time, you and your loveone could be together. I think I could not survive this… Read more »

Jester Alan Miñon
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Jester Alan Miñon

I think why couple resort to Long Distance Relationship is that they wanted to test their capabilities of Love, how they are strong and true to loving someone even though they are far away and your moment won’t meet and just rely to each others trust. Being in a long-distance relationship is no one’s ideal situation. All the things that you would typically do with the person you love feel painfully out of reach. You can’t go on dates, or grab a drink after a particularly hard day at work; You can’t sleep in together and get brunch on weekends.… Read more »

Pam Añasco
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Pam Añasco

It’s always up to the person if the relationship will work regardless with the distance. As long as both are understanding, and matured enough, the relationship will work.
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Adrian Jay Olveros
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Adrian Jay Olveros

Lrd is need to trust and you should never give up. #hotshotsempi

Adrian Costales
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Adrian Costales

Long Distance Relationship is really hard. It requires patience and a lot of trust. This usually happens when your partner needed to do something in other place like for instance: work, school or a new home. LDR usually either weakens or strenghten relationships, makes the couple build their trust more, or in other hand it may cause doubts to your partner. Long distance relationships does not necessarily resort people to do it, usually they are forced for some reason like what i said earlier: work, school etc. Myself, i didn’t experience it yet. but if i ever experience it, i’d… Read more »

Kurt Antonio
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Kurt Antonio

Weekly5 -I dont experiences LDR and i think i resort this kind of relatioship because this can also help our future. Long distance relationships are challenging. Much of the joy that we find in our relationships comes from the activities we can do together in person.Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it. The migration rate of the filipinos are bigger because filipinos knows that we can get a higher income to other countries

John Simon
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John Simon

Once you experience this kind of relationship will gain more patience and this relationship can make a strong feelings to each other because there are so many struggles that you may encounter. This relationship will test your faith in your partner it depends on you if you cheat or be faithful. Most of the time you may feel lonely because you miss the person but in the end you will feel relived and complacent because you know that your partner have faith and trust on you. If you are trying this kind of relationship you gonna get ready for the… Read more »

Claire Francisco
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Claire Francisco

I don’t have any experience to this kind of commitment. Maybe people had no choice but to accept that their love ones is too far from them. The migration rate of Filipinos are bigger as compared to western countries because they don’t have a choice but to work abroad just to sustain their family needs. We should accept the fact that we can get more income in other countries. As far as i know most of couples nowadays are from online or social media, they first meet each other from messenger something like that. So definitely that’s the start of… Read more »

Jake Yñota
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Jake Yñota

Long Distance Relationship, a word that makes a couple strong and firm enough because of the struggles that they’re facing. Yes, it is hard for the couple that they are not being together everyday specially during their what so ever called “monthsary” and other stuff. But remember if you truly Love the the person which is your boyfriend/girlfriend, be strong and be patience with everything. As I have read there are a lot of tips to make your relationship stronger, and yes it is really helpful. I am in this kind of relationship right now and both of us are… Read more »

Sim Soria
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Sim Soria

– Typically, what ends up happening is that couples become victim of circumstance, where one partner finds themselves needing to relocate and/or someone is in the military at a local base and suddenly is notified that she or he will be deployed. Another example might be two people who met online fully aware they live fairly far from one another where it’s impractical to see each other on a regular basis, but nevertheless decide to romantically move forward. – I don’t have any experience in LDR and I don’t want to resort to this kind of relationship because long-distance relationships… Read more »

Ivan Kim Javier
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Ivan Kim Javier

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Pam Añasco
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Pam Añasco

Week 5 INF 182 One of the main reason nowadays of ldr is because of technology. Because of it, people tend to know people and date with the use of technology like the app called “tinder”. That’s why some couples who met online lives far away from each other, that’s only one of the reasons why couples are in a long distance relationship. I myself doesn’t have a experience with long distance relationship because for me, it is hard for two people that’s in a relationship to live far from each other. Also, one of the main reasons why there… Read more »

Ivan Kim Javier
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Ivan Kim Javier

Long Distance Relationship is a relationship that both partners are separated to each other. This type of relationship mostly happen when one of the couples work abroad or both living far to each other. For me, Long Distance Relationship tests love, loyalty, and respect of each couple. I have never been in a relationship but I believe that patience is the only key to survive this type of relationship because couples can experience sadness and trust issues. Lovers must avoid temptation and lust because it is the main torn that destroy a healthy relationship. Being in a LDR can build… Read more »

Ivan Kim Javier
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Ivan Kim Javier

Long Distance Relationship is a relationship that both partners are separated to each other. This type of relationship mostly happen when one of the couples work abroad or both living far to each other. For me, Long Distance Relationship tests love, loyalty, and respect of each couple. I have never been in a relationship but I believe that patience is the only key to survive this type of relationship because couples can experience sadness and trust issues. Lovers must avoid temptation and lust because it is the main torn that destroy a healthy relationship. Being in a LDR can build… Read more »

Myron Darrel Montefalcon
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Myron Darrel Montefalcon

Long Distance Relationship requires commitment, trust, and undying faithfulness towards each other. I think that couples resort to LDR because first is because of the necessity, people who needs to work abroad to support their finances. Another thing is because of career path choices, wherein one of the couple would pursue his/her career to maximize whatever potential he/she have. Lastly, perhaps the couple met only virtually or online which makes their relationship long distance. I never experienced LDR. I don’t think I would ever involve myself in a LDR. I heard of the saying that in Love there is no… Read more »

Shelly Ancheta
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Couples resort to long distance relationship maybe because of financial problems. Sometimes, they have no choice but to sacrifice something for the sake of their better future. Maybe that is the only way to resolve their problems one by one. I still don’t have any experience about long distance relationship, but my parents does. I saw how they are really fighting for their relationship, up until now even though sometimes there are conflicts, these things will never be a hindrance for their love to stay strong and faithful. Maybe I can resort to this kind of relationship, but i’ll sure… Read more »

Basma Abdualla
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Basma Abdualla

Long-distance relationships it’s when partners are geographically separated from one another in some cases one of them is working or studying in a far place they couldn’t do anything about it , also some partners CHOSE to live that challenging relationship maybe because they want to get a little bit freedom to do what ever they wanna do without thinking about anyone or maybe being separated will make them grow as a persons . for me i have never experienced LDR , and i don’t think i can be in this kind of relationship because even when the technology is… Read more »

Yllian Kurt Montesa
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Yllian Kurt Montesa

Long Distance Relationship, depends in so many ways. There are a lot of possibilities where people encounter this kind of situation. Some reasons would be financial crisis, some would be getting away from toxic and irrelevant things and others have their own reasons and would likely take the opportunity to migrate/leave as their last resort. People tends to have a long distance relationship with the one they love unintentionally by means of having to choose between what they want to happen because of their interests or it could either be you’re forced to do because you need it. I have… Read more »

Jennifer Asilo
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Jennifer Asilo

Long distance relationship is not as easy as it seems to be. I’ve been in this kind of relationship for years and I can say say that there will always be the disadvantage and advantage. The disadvantage is you will always have doubts if you don’t have enough trust,because these days tempts are everywhere. The longing that you’ve been seeking from your partner to other people. You will always missed the person. And sometimes there are some important events that you will not be together because he is far away. Some advantages is that the love, trust, faith, patience will… Read more »

Jeza Dizon
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Jeza Dizon

There is no easy way to be in a long distance relationship. Being in this kind of relationship is only a matter of deciding if it is worth pursuing or if it is wiser for the couple to part ways and move on. Some couples resort to long distance relationships because they are separated from one another and yet, they don’t want the love they have to last just because of distance. I haven’t experienced long distance relationship. But I think, I can resort this kind of relationship because I believe that distance will not matter. Long distance relationships prove that… Read more »

Kent Alvin Gerald Aquino
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Kent Alvin Gerald Aquino

-Because sometimes most of them tend to make their relationship slow down. Infact, they loses time to each other. So they ended up theirselves to be in the LDR so that even though they only communicate through gadgets still the trust is there. So they often choose this to continue make their love strong or make a rest. -No, I haven’t experienced yet. -It depends on my partner if both of us agree or either one of us need a time to go and live outside our country. But I wouldn’t make our relationship ended up to LDR. -Because there… Read more »

Christiana Dimaunahan
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Christiana Dimaunahan

“Distance makes the heart grow fonder.” To some extent, I stand with this. However, I’m certain that no two people in love would voluntarily wish to be in a long distance relationship. For as long as the chance to be together both in heart and in body presents itself, what reason would couples have to spend their days oceans and deserts apart? Though it may be true that distance has no power to stain on love that is powerful beyond measure, it will never be a default choice to go through the extra miles if the need does not arise.… Read more »

Denise Erin Pamatian
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Denise Erin Pamatian

Why do couples often resort to long distance relationship despite the disadvantages in it ? So why there’s long distance relationship in the first place well there’s alot of reasons like there’s more money in there or they want to grab the opportunities in there so having LDR is really necessary. Well I don’t really have a lot of experience in LDR so I can’t tell for sure but if ever in future I would want to avoid having LDR relationship but if it’s necessary I think I will, well like the article tells it’s all about faith. Compare to… Read more »

Dorothy Ann Bohulano
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Dorothy Ann Bohulano

Bohulano, Dorothy Ann P. COM181 Why do couples often resort to long distance relationships? If they want to keep on their relationship and really have trusted,understand and care for each other, the couples really often resort on having an LDR, it may take time to overcome due to the struggles on long distance relationships, but having those love with each other, it will be worth it. Have you experienced LDR? No, I dont think I wouldn’t resort on having LDR, because even tho I can be independent for myself, I’m really emotional inside, just thinking your love one is on… Read more »

Jim Trillana
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Long Distance Relationship is a geographical seperated to each other. I experience this with my Father. My father is working abroad to earn a big salary just to provide for our family’s necessities. Like education, food, bills and other thing that need in our daily life. And another person in my life that also involve in this kind of situation is my love one. We apply to ourself of having a strong faith and trust to each other. Sometimes we argue but still we understand each other feeling behind of having a bad mood. Here in our country, many families… Read more »

Jim Trillana
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I experience this with my Father. My father is working abroad to earn a big salary just to provide for our family’s necessities. Like education, food, bills and other thing that need in our daily life. And another person in my life that also involve in this kind of situation is my love one. We apply to ourself of having a strong faith and trust to each other. Sometimes we argue but still we understand each other feeling behind of having a bad mood. Here in our country, many families experience on having this kind of situation. Like parents who… Read more »

Rein Simacon
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Rein Simacon

I don’t have any experience about LDR because many people believe that long distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously, in case you get your heart broken. But for me “If you want to live together, you first need to learn how to live apart.” Trust, patience, and genuine love.

Rein Simacon
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Rein Simacon

Im afraid to take risk about LDR because many people believe that long distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously, in case you get your heart broken. But for me “If you want to live together, you first need to learn how to live apart.” Trust, patience, and genuine love.

Ely James Bala
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LDR – People ever get themselves into long-distance relationships on purpose. Typically, what ends up happening is that couples become victim of circumstance, where one partner finds themselves needing to relocate. Another way that long-distance relationships get facilitated is when one person ends up spending a lot of time in a different state or city for either work or leisure, and forms a connection with someone there.

Jade Castillo
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Jade Castillo

LDR is indeed a challenge to the lovers. People in this relationship often resort to this because simply they are in love. Like what many people say, “Love conquers all”, in which, I think is the reason people are taking risk. Like what’s written above, there’s only 2 out of 10 in this relationship works. People think that even if the chance is small, still, it is a chance. Also, why not try if somehow, it is worth it? It may be a risk but they won’t be regretting someday. I never experienced LDR and I don’t know if I… Read more »

Lexter Almirol
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Lexter Almirol

LDR 3 words the same with I love you easy to say but its diffficult to show. That’s how LDR works and you can’t control the situation whether you like it or not my point is the situation of your relationship is destined to be what kind of it if you love each other truly no matter what the distance and circumstances you are truly honest and faithful to each other and you are not the one controlling the life of your love ones it is a choice because you are not doing it for yourself only maybe you are… Read more »

Miguel Carlo Vito
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Miguel Carlo Vito

First of all, relationships led to Long distance relationships because of migrations to other countries. Maybe because of family issues of oppurtunities in the said country but it is a test of faith, loyalty, love, and other elements if a relationship. I never experienced this kind of relationship because If I was given a chance this kind of relationship I wouldn’t want it. Because there is no physical contact and of course being away from the one you love is really hard. I cannot bear to have a relationship being awau from your partner. I am a clingy person so… Read more »

Luis Tobio
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Luis Tobio

Other couples resort to long distance relationships because there are some positive effects in having some distance from each other. One positive effect is is to have some time for yourself. Always make time in doing things you do alone. It will give you some time apart with your significant other, but at least you will have some new things to talk about and something to look forward in meeting each other again and would also serve as a breather.

Kristina Lau-a
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Kristina Lau-a

To love is to sacrifice, is what I always hear from other people. Long distance relationships are matter of fact the test of time, patience, resilience, love, faith, and trust for the couple. In this kind of relationship it will not always going to be rainbows and butterflies, considering you’re miles and miles away away from the person whom is really dear for you – well that could suck sometimes. In my opinion couples who resort to long distance relationship didn’t really mean to choose that, its like putting both of yourself into a latter and taking a part in… Read more »

Prince Warren Pujeda
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Prince Warren Pujeda

The type of relationship that is most common among teenagers is long distance relationships. It is because many teenagers fall in love so quickly and are “marupok”, they will never let their partners leave them even though they may have to separate. I am one of many people that find it difficult to stay in a long distance relationship for a very long time yet it depends on the lovers I think. Long distance relationships in my opinion are the hardest relationship to keep unbroken than other relationships. Yep. I’ve experienced long distance relationship. Of course, if you really love… Read more »

Jay Castillo
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Jay Castillo

People resort to Long Distance Relationships (LDR) because maybe more often its for work or school location decisions or maybe family’s decision to move to other places and many other circumstances that may have to result to living to another place. I also had encountered Long Distance Relationship in my life, its not a relationship between a partner but the relationship between my parents – they are both working abroad and only get a chance to see them once a year sometimes every other year. I think the reason why the migration rate of Filipinos are bigger compared to other… Read more »

Kim Ruiz
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Kim Ruiz

Long Distance Relationship or simply referred to us as LDR, It is a state where two couples are separated to each other while their relationship exist or on-going. I don’t have any experience yet in this kind of situation,But for me having a Long Distance Relationship is probably a big NO for me, Because when you’re far away from someone, We come to the point that we feel a bit of jealousy and feel suspicious on your partner’s side If ever I have a girlfriend (like for example). I will always keep an eye on her, on everything she does,… Read more »

Lourdes Nava
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Lourdes Nava

It’s no secret that long distance relationships are difficult. They tend to collapse under the weight of constant Skyping. Lots of them also fail for the same reasons no-distance relationships fail. Sure, there are couples who make long distance work, but they are rare. Being in a long distance relationship is obviously a terrifying idea, and clearly is not ideal. Usually, LDR occurs when a one person in a couple follows its course where there is a great opportunity e.g. (work, universities etc.) and the other has nothing to do about it but to support their partner. I have experienced LDR recently… Read more »

Kyla Dann Fadera
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Kyla Dann Fadera

LDR nowadays are very common, due to the fact that their partner needs to go in different place for them to sustain the needs of their family. Some LDR cases are experience by the students who studied in different Universities and took different course. As we all know, some Filipino have a long distance relationship because their partner came from different countries and they just communicate through social media. I myself experience that kind of relationship because my father work overseas. But when it comes to my love life I didn’t experience it because I don’t have a special someone… Read more »

Angela Dela Rosa
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Being in a relationship can be romantic and all but it can be hard and can be even harder for people being in a long distance relationship or LDR. There are just instances that couples have to be far away from each other and their reasons vary from the situations there are in. Maybe one of them have to leave because of family reason, studies or work. I haven’t been in a long distance relationship and I think if ever I will be in that kind of relationship it will be a big adjustment for us most especially for me.… Read more »

Jonathan Danniel Siaw
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Jonathan Danniel Siaw

LDR it is not an easy relationship because if you are in long distance relationship there some circumstances that will be limited. If there is a problem it is one of the hardest things to do because you are far from your love one. So you must earn your trusts each other and be faithful. Also show your efforts as a couple because this is one of the responsible things that the couples must do.

Aya Mancha
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Aya Mancha

Being in a relationship with someone can be tricky when there’s a whole heap of kilometers between you. I think why couple resort to Long Distance Relationship is that they wanted to test their capabilities of Love, how they are strong and true to loving someone even though they are far away and your moment won’t meet and just rely to each others trust. Being in a long-distance relationship is no one’s ideal situation. All the things that you would typically do with the person you love feel painfully out of reach. You can’t go on dates, or grab a… Read more »