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Surviving LDR

But why do people still continue to be in this kind of relationship when the probability is more to fail than to triumph?

Long Distance Relationship, three simple words but connotes complexity. Why? Simply because it’s hard, and I think many would agree with me that when you are in this kind of relationship, the word itself is synonymous to difficult. This is because there are a lot of things you can do which is a necessity to make any relationship work. Actually, some would say that “it sucks.” You don’t get to be intimate with your partner, deny if we must, but it is essential when you would like to last long with a partner. A long distance relationship compensates to having more disadvantages than advantages. There’s more to lose than to gain. Statistics show that two out of ten survive. But why do people still continue to be in this kind of relationship when the probability is more to fail than to triumph? Why not embrace the inevitability of it not going to work, instead of enduring the pain that would later on constitute to separation. Why contest when you are not sure to be winning in the end. People are eaten up by paradox of life which if I may say functions quite well too many of us. I say this because I know how it feels like. I would understand how people in these kinds of relationships feel because I am in one. It is difficult to put it together. It is impossible to make it ordinary when it is not. What I wanted to say is that there are a lot of demands that this relationship calls out for. A lot of love, respect, time, communication and trust are needed to make it truly work. But when you hope, and believe that love is existent despite the distance, I think that you would be able to get through anytime including LDR. And for those who are trying to make it work; here are some pointers that might help you to keep your long-distance relationship into place.

Accept the fact. It gives you bliss to know that you love someone and that person loves you back. But what good does it do, if you are far way from each other. The idea of being away from the person you love is just appalling. Then again, when you are in LDR, you ought to accept the fact that you are far away from each other. You have to remember that for quite some time, there’ll be no touching, hugging, and kissing or if whatever ways of affection you do to show your partner how you love him/her. But, be mind of that everything is just temporary, and that you will be together soon.

Conquer the distance. This goes hand in hand with the latter. If you have accepted the fact, then you would try to find ways to ease the separation. If you can, then try to go to where he/she is at. This shows your sincerity of how much you wanted to be with that person. If can’t, then do yourself a favor, and resist from reminding your partner the limitations of your relationship, and how far apart you are from each other. Instead, try to conquer the distance by making him/her feel that he is just a  jeep away.

Get connected. In any relationship, close or far from each other, communication is essential. It is one of the ways to express the like and dislike to progress your relationship. However, what LDR couples should be reminded of is that they are merely communicating with the means of various gadgets and applications. And with the technology we have now there are many possible ways wherein you could communicate with your partner. But that’s not the problem is it? Not being able to talk in person puts your relationship in a grave situation. The important thing to remember is to talk, chat, do a phone call or even a video call. It is not as good as being able to do it personally, but you have to settle for most resources you have.

Display faith. When in this kind of relationship, you must understand the word “trust”, not only in terms of being able to define it, but also to comprehend. You ought to give it fully and truly to your partner. You have to dealt with the idea that he or she is far away, but you have to be confident that you won’t be exchange for anyone else. It is good to protect yourself from vulnerabilities, but you should not let it eat you up. You must see to it that you show how much you trust him/her, and that trust should not be betrayed.

Drop the troubled mind. No matter how confident a person is, sometimes the LDR demons are just there to tickle you. You would think what he or she might be doing during the time your phone calls weren’t answered. You feel uneasy when you don’t get or hear the answers from him or her. These are just some of the reasons why you engage to fights that should have never occurred. You have to refrain from inviting ill-thoughts that would make you feel uneasy and less secure. You have to drop the “what ifs” because it enhances you chances of having arguments, eventually break-up.

Be understanding. Because of distance, time, work, and the separation would make couples easily give up. But when you accept the fact that you are in this kind of relationship. Then you also have to back it up with your patience and understanding. You have to pull your strings to the most possible stretch you can, for you to be of the same pace with your partner. You have to give up the idea of thinking about “you” instead the concept should be always “us”. When either of you understand each other’s situations; then it’ll be simpler for both of you. It is easier said than done then again, nothing comes off easy.

Make time. It is not difficult to comprehend what needs to be done. There are lots of complexities to remember when in this kind of relationship. You don’t need to find the time. You must irrevocably have to make time. You ought to put your priorities in placed. You tend to lessen everything such as sleep, socialization, and even limiting your pastime. All these in exchange for you to talk and share moments just like regular couples do.

Make plans. Being in a a long-distance relationship is really difficult. It is definitely a challenge for you and your partner. However, if you make plans together, there would always a glitter of hope. You heighten the fire when you put more wood in it. This goes the same with couple in LDR, when you feed each other happy and positive thoughts, and plans to do things together, it makes any feeling lighter. It would be developing to something where you want to lead it to. Having to know what plans is set for both of you gives you a feeling of security.

Let us remember that this type of relationship is not flowers and butterflies. It is like going to a war and unsure of winning. Then again, when you truly love a person, you should be willing to have certain sacrifices to make it work. When in love, we can’t protect ourselves all the time. There is no bullet proof to anything that would come along. In order to triumph over things, we must work hard for it. Remember that the curse of true love never run smooth. And in order to be together, couples often undergo difficulties and trials. We just have to remember that in any relationship, survival is not about considering all the factors you do not have control of, instead its exploring and utilizing all possible ways you can.

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  1. Ronnel Palenzuela
    Ronnel Palenzuela

    LDR – a test of faith, patience, and trust. I guess we are all intertwined with an imaginary string, destined to be with someone else. Humans are dependent to each other, as observed nowadays. But we are not strings. We’re rubber bands. We resort to LDRs ‘cause circumstance told us so. It’s a test. After all, you’re not gonna realize how strong a rubber band is, if you don’t bend it.

    I’ve been in this situation in the past. It’s terrible. They say it depends on the person. I say it’s not. Days and weeks passed without her company, without her luscious eyes gazing right at my very soul, without her fragrant hair swaying through my face. It’s like looking at the night sky but without stars – cold, dark, and empty. It is unbearable. Weeks turned to months and months turned to a year. We’re strangers again. The experience has made me a much better person, but I wish I didn’t have to lose something so precious to learn it.

    Filipinos are emotional. I say it. LDR applies in our normal life too. When Overseas Filipino Workers leave their sons and daughters just for the sake of giving them a better life, or a silly metallic robot toy, or a doll that dances. They are doing that for love. I mean, it’s the strongest force in the universe.

    When your loved ones is around you and beside you, cherish the moment. Hug them. Tell them you love them. You’ll never know when time comes and you’ll never get the chance again.

  2. I didn’t experience this kind of relationship but I think it is very hard, it is just like when your parents are going to abroad.

    It is hard for us not to see them, their presence that is a habit for us to see. We don’t even know what they do everyday in their location even though we communicate with them using social media.

    It is hard because we people are emotional in terms of love, we always want that our love is always by our side and stick together everytime. When you are not with them, we usually call or text them just to say that you missed them.

    Some of my friends experience that kind of relationship and I am shocked that their relationship with their girlfriends were stronger even though they are in a long distance relationship and I asked them the secret. But it’s a secret I don’t want to tell it here. Hahaha!

  3. never give up

  4. LDR is building strong trust and faithfulness.

  5. Long distance relationships are challenging. Much of the joy that we find in our relationships comes from the activities we can do together in person.Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it. Ra nom?

  6. I love it!

  7. Donjay Dhenn Dhenn
    Donjay Dhenn Dhenn

    LDR i already encounter that, all you need is patience and trust each other.

  8. Long Distance Relationship is a test to a relationship to have a strong faith and trust to each other.

  9. Camille Jane Aquitania
    Camille Jane Aquitania

    Long Distance Relationship, is what I had experienced on my last ex-boyfriend. Based on it, it is hard to surpass those days and even time just to bond with our loveone. We can’t accept the fact that we can trust him/her when he/she is not with you a long time ago. It is hard to communicate with them, because of different hindrances. Why couples often resort to Long Distance Relationship, is that both of them has its own goal to complete, so not all the time, you and your loveone could be together. I think I could not survive this LDR for the next relationship that I will experience again soon, because it is hard, and there is a trust to provide, so that the relationship won’t last easily.

  10. Jester Alan Miñon
    Jester Alan Miñon

    I think why couple resort to Long Distance Relationship is that they wanted to test their capabilities of Love, how they are strong and true to loving someone even though they are far away and your moment won’t meet and just rely to each others trust. Being in a long-distance relationship is no one’s ideal situation. All the things that you would typically do with the person you love feel painfully out of reach. You can’t go on dates, or grab a drink after a particularly hard day at work; You can’t sleep in together and get brunch on weekends.

    I never had Long Distance Relationship, but did know about LDR from my past (it’s complicated) but for me I would not resort a Lond distance relationsip why? For me because it is very hard. Why would I get myself into a situation that would make me feel hurt in the end. One thing I know about LDR is that “LDR does not WORK… Unless… It does” so the chances are huge to fail in a LDR first things first, it is hard, and second, I won’t presence of love from that someone, at the end of the day we’ll both just get hurt and broken. So why taking the risk of loving someone apart from you, as I learned, before I go into a relationship I’ll think first of what would be the outcome of the move I’ll be going to do, I should also use my mind in love and not only the heart itself.

    But for the Filipinos out there that is into a long distance relationship, I think it is those that are matured couples or simply married and they are successfully being in a LDR because of their maturity. A lot of teenagers in this generation is not that mature enough to handle such relationship for they are easily hurt in such little things.

  11. It’s always up to the person if the relationship will work regardless with the distance. As long as both are understanding, and matured enough, the relationship will work.
    INF-182

  12. Adrian Jay Olveros
    Adrian Jay Olveros

    Lrd is need to trust and you should never give up. #hotshotsempi

  13. Adrian Costales
    Adrian Costales

    Long Distance Relationship is really hard. It requires patience and a lot of trust. This usually happens when your partner needed to do something in other place like for instance: work, school or a new home. LDR usually either weakens or strenghten relationships, makes the couple build their trust more, or in other hand it may cause doubts to your partner. Long distance relationships does not necessarily resort people to do it, usually they are forced for some reason like what i said earlier: work, school etc. Myself, i didn’t experience it yet. but if i ever experience it, i’d do it if its necessary, because first of all, you love the person, yes, there is no physical affection shown. but if you love him/her you should trust him/her. if you love him/her you should know whats best for him/her. If you love the person, learn to understand. Usually, Filipinos are the most likely to migrate, why? because the system here in the Philippines is so shitty, that the wage here are so low that causes pinoys to migrate and work in other country for higher income so that they can provide for their own and their family.

  14. Weekly5 -I dont experiences LDR and i think i resort this kind of relatioship because this can also help our future. Long distance relationships are challenging. Much of the joy that we find in our relationships comes from the activities we can do together in person.Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it. The migration rate of the filipinos are bigger because filipinos knows that we can get a higher income to other countries

  15. Once you experience this kind of relationship will gain more patience and this relationship can make a strong feelings to each other because there are so many struggles that you may encounter. This relationship will test your faith in your partner it depends on you if you cheat or be faithful. Most of the time you may feel lonely because you miss the person but in the end you will feel relived and complacent because you know that your partner have faith and trust on you. If you are trying this kind of relationship you gonna get ready for the challenges that is coming to you and to your partner. Have faith and trust each other because in the end your partner will help you in those challenges that may come.

  16. Claire Francisco
    Claire Francisco

    I don’t have any experience to this kind of commitment. Maybe people had no choice but to accept that their love ones is too far from them. The migration rate of Filipinos are bigger as compared to western countries because they don’t have a choice but to work abroad just to sustain their family needs. We should accept the fact that we can get more income in other countries. As far as i know most of couples nowadays are from online or social media, they first meet each other from messenger something like that. So definitely that’s the start of having a long distance relationship because you can interact far from your location. But this article really show some tips that need to take note everyone having a long distance relationship.

  17. Long Distance Relationship, a word that makes a couple strong and firm enough because of the struggles that they’re facing. Yes, it is hard for the couple that they are not being together everyday specially during their what so ever called “monthsary” and other stuff. But remember if you truly Love the the person which is your boyfriend/girlfriend, be strong and be patience with everything. As I have read there are a lot of tips to make your relationship stronger, and yes it is really helpful. I am in this kind of relationship right now and both of us are understanding each other that’s why we’re still together, also have plans like with just a simple meet each other once a week so that the two of you wont be sad. Not all men are cheater, and not all women are faithful but still always remember if yoj really are a faithful guy no matter how your girl hurt or betray forgive them. Never hurt the person you Love?

  18. – Typically, what ends up happening is that couples become victim of circumstance, where one partner finds themselves needing to relocate and/or someone is in the military at a local base and suddenly is notified that she or he will be deployed. Another example might be two people who met online fully aware they live fairly far from one another where it’s impractical to see each other on a regular basis, but nevertheless decide to romantically move forward.

    – I don’t have any experience in LDR and I don’t want to resort to this kind of relationship because long-distance relationships can be extremely difficult and challenging. You have to over-communicate, sacrifice time with friends and family, and even miss out on holidays and birthdays for your partner. Whether it’s accidental, spontaneous or planned, approaching the conversation about committing to a long-distance relationship with your partner requires a hard talk where you lay everything out on the table. According to Grant Langston, CEO of eHarmony, another factor that has a tremendous impact on whether or not a relationship will be able to handle long distance is the maturity of both parties involved. “There is a certain amount of maturity that’s needed to even attempt a long-distance relationship,” he says.

    – Many Filipinos have been leaving the country, not only to find work but to have a totally different life from the one they have in the Philippines. Working overseas could certainly mean less taxes and better wages. Filipinos are discouraged to stay in the Philippines because of the government system. The government officials are charged with corruption, and there are only limited benefits that the government can provide. Also, they want to break their life of routine in the Philippines and have a diverse experience. They want to discover greater things they could only possibly do in another country.

  19. Ivan Kim Javier
    Ivan Kim Javier

    Uwu

  20. Week 5
    INF 182
    One of the main reason nowadays of ldr is because of technology. Because of it, people tend to know people and date with the use of technology like the app called “tinder”. That’s why some couples who met online lives far away from each other, that’s only one of the reasons why couples are in a long distance relationship. I myself doesn’t have a experience with long distance relationship because for me, it is hard for two people that’s in a relationship to live far from each other.
    Also, one of the main reasons why there are ldr is because of one’s work like working abroad. Since other country offers much higher salary than the Philippines, filipinos tend to go abroad although he/ge will be parted from his/her partner. For me, that’s what we call sacrifice.

  21. Ivan Kim Javier
    Ivan Kim Javier

    Long Distance Relationship is a relationship that both partners are separated to each other. This type of relationship mostly happen when one of the couples work abroad or both living far to each other.

    For me, Long Distance Relationship tests love, loyalty, and respect of each couple. I have never been in a relationship but I believe that patience is the only key to survive this type of relationship because couples can experience sadness and trust issues. Lovers must avoid temptation and lust because it is the main torn that destroy a healthy relationship. Being in a LDR can build a strong feelings and trust to each others, as well as the urge to see and feel each other getting much stronger.

    Here in our country, we have a high percentage of OFW because the tend to provide the basic needs of their love ones. They are the real heroes of our country. Being resilient is a must for them despite of experiencing sadness. They work so hard to be able to build a better life.

  22. Ivan Kim Javier
    Ivan Kim Javier

    Long Distance Relationship is a relationship that both partners are separated to each other. This type of relationship mostly happen when one of the couples work abroad or both living far to each other.

    For me, Long Distance Relationship tests love, loyalty, and respect of each couple. I have never been in a relationship but I believe that patience is the only key to survive this type of relationship because couples can experience sadness and trust issues. Lovers must avoid temptation and lust because it is the main torn that destroy a healthy relationship. Being in a LDR can build a strong feelings and trust to each others, as well as the urge to see and feel each other getting much stronger.

    Here in our country, we have a high percentage of OFW because the tend to provide the basic needs of their love ones. They are the real heroes of our country. Being resilient is a must for them despite of experiencing sadness. They work so hard to be able to build a better life.

  23. Myron Darrel Montefalcon
    Myron Darrel Montefalcon

    Long Distance Relationship requires commitment, trust, and undying faithfulness towards each other. I think that couples resort to LDR because first is because of the necessity, people who needs to work abroad to support their finances. Another thing is because of career path choices, wherein one of the couple would pursue his/her career to maximize whatever potential he/she have. Lastly, perhaps the couple met only virtually or online which makes their relationship long distance.
    I never experienced LDR. I don’t think I would ever involve myself in a LDR. I heard of the saying that in Love there is no distance nor bounderies that can hinder love. But cut that tagline, I believe that in love, personal and intimate connection must be present to keep the relationship and to grow as a couple as well.

    I think that migration rate in the Philippines is high due to the poor economic status of our country. Unlike from western countries, the economy is stable and good enough to maintain a family.

  24. Couples resort to long distance relationship maybe because of financial problems. Sometimes, they have no choice but to sacrifice something for the sake of their better future. Maybe that is the only way to resolve their problems one by one. I still don’t have any experience about long distance relationship, but my parents does. I saw how they are really fighting for their relationship, up until now even though sometimes there are conflicts, these things will never be a hindrance for their love to stay strong and faithful. Maybe I can resort to this kind of relationship, but i’ll sure that we are both ready for what will happen next.

    About the migration rate, it is really obvious that the rate of Filipinos are bigger as compared to western countries. Why? Because we are already believed that other countries can give us a higher income. Filipinos chose to migrate to other countries so that they can get a higher income that will be enough to support their family’s needs. They don’t have any choice but to leave the country, even if there is misery in return.

  25. Long-distance relationships it’s when partners are geographically separated from one another in some cases one of them is working or studying in a far place they couldn’t do anything about it , also some partners CHOSE to live that challenging relationship maybe because they want to get a little bit freedom to do what ever they wanna do without thinking about anyone or maybe being separated will make them grow as a persons .
    for me i have never experienced LDR , and i don’t think i can be in this kind of relationship because even when the technology is developed now and you can contact with people all around the world so easily i believe that i need the face-to-face connection , like it’s mentioned in the article it’s like going to war and unsure of winning .
    the Filipinos migration rate are bigger than the western countries because:
    1 More jobs await Filipinos abroad , less taxes and more wages
    2 Some Filipinos feel that they are suffering in their homeland that’s why they want to escape ASAP to forget all the bad experiences that they had in the philippenes.
    3 Many Filipinos have family members or relatives abroad
    4 Many Filipinos want to have a diverse experience. Many Filipinos want to break their life of routine in the Philippines and have a diverse experiences .

    Taha , Besma A
    DMD
    DEN 183

  26. Yllian Kurt Montesa
    Yllian Kurt Montesa

    Long Distance Relationship, depends in so many ways. There are a lot of possibilities where people encounter this kind of situation. Some reasons would be financial crisis, some would be getting away from toxic and irrelevant things and others have their own reasons and would likely take the opportunity to migrate/leave as their last resort. People tends to have a long distance relationship with the one they love unintentionally by means of having to choose between what they want to happen because of their interests or it could either be you’re forced to do because you need it.

    I have encountered a long distance relationship once with my girlfriend. We needed to separate for awhile because we’re both going to college and due to different courses we have chose, we live in different place and had a different schedule too. Ahead of her, my first semester already started while she’s on her vacation due to different school we’re in. It was an adjustment for us not to be able to see each other frequently but still we manage to have time and communicate each other everyday.

    In terms of migration here in the Philippines, as we all noticed the economic growth is way too slower than our neighbor countries. Exchange rates are getting higher each year depending on the supply and demand factor. Laborers or the OFW’s has the huge percentage in migration, they would rather work in other countries to earn higher profits that would be doubled in peso if converted. To sustain and provide the needs of their families they sacrifice and go across the world to work.

  27. Long distance relationship is not as easy as it seems to be. I’ve been in this kind of relationship for years and I can say say that there will always be the disadvantage and advantage.
    The disadvantage is you will always have doubts if you don’t have enough trust,because these days tempts are everywhere. The longing that you’ve been seeking from your partner to other people. You will always missed the person. And sometimes there are some important events that you will not be together because he is far away.
    Some advantages is that the love, trust, faith, patience will be test in these situation. And it is good, that even that you are together there will always a time for growth for the both of you. You will not depend only with each other, you will learn that there is always some things that will make you grow when you are not together. I believe that love is not about yhe distamce or material things, its about how you help each other how you trust each others and it is how you trust God that your partner is the person he specially made for you. And lastly, they say that Love is true when that persons help you to grow with your career, moral values and faith with God.

  28. There is no easy way to be in a long distance relationship. Being in this kind of relationship is only a matter of deciding if it is worth pursuing or if it is wiser for the couple to part ways and move on. Some couples resort to long distance relationships because they are separated from one another and yet, they don’t want the love they have to last just because of distance. I haven’t experienced long distance relationship. But I think, I can resort this kind of relationship because I believe that distance will not matter. Long distance relationships prove that love has no boundaries. They prove that it can happen and it is possible for two people far away from each other.

    Migration rate of Filipinos are bigger as compared to western countries because the Philippines cannot afford to pay the workers a higher salary due to our country’s economical problems. Aside from that, many Filipinas marry a lot of foreigners which causes for the Filipino women to migrate. Most western countries are considered as developed countries that’s why they do not need to migrate anymore. Especially that they are perceived as the land of economic opportunity.

  29. Kent Alvin Gerald Aquino
    Kent Alvin Gerald Aquino

    -Because sometimes most of them tend to make their relationship slow down. Infact, they loses time to each other. So they ended up theirselves to be in the LDR so that even though they only communicate through gadgets still the trust is there. So they often choose this to continue make their love strong or make a rest.

    -No, I haven’t experienced yet.
    -It depends on my partner if both of us agree or either one of us need a time to go and live outside our country. But I wouldn’t make our relationship ended up to LDR.

    -Because there are many factors why our country’s migration rate was bigger than western countries. First thing first, many of us Filipinos thinks that more money will get to other countries compared in our hometown. Next, the economic rate in the Philippines is so high, so we Filipinos choose other countries who has low economic rate. Next, the environment, other countries had a better environment such as tourist spots and places. Lastly, the LDR, one parent choose to work for the other countries just for the higher salary paid to them.

  30. Christiana Dimaunahan
    Christiana Dimaunahan

    “Distance makes the heart grow fonder.”

    To some extent, I stand with this. However, I’m certain that no two people in love would voluntarily wish to be in a long distance relationship. For as long as the chance to be together both in heart and in body presents itself, what reason would couples have to spend their days oceans and deserts apart? Though it may be true that distance has no power to stain on love that is powerful beyond measure, it will never be a default choice to go through the extra miles if the need does not arise.

    Circumstances dictate the physical gap between couples. There are situations uncalled for that lead to either a one-sided or mutual decision to migrate to another country. Take for example in the Philippine setup, job opportunities are critically low for fresh graduates; hence, it would be for the future of both parties if the one in the unemployment line tries for a spot overseas. In addition, there are scenarios wherein the immediate family of one’s significant other decides to fly to and settle in another country, leaving the person with no choice but to pack up and go. The purpose of families migrating to different countries across the globe is almost always for a better life. Frankly, these days, the “better life” entails financial stability and greater opportunities.

    The migration rate of Filipinos is significantly and relatively higher than that of Western countries because of a number of reasons. The primary reason has something to do with the economic stability of the country. Western countries are richer and more developed than the Philippines, giving their residents little to no reason to leave their land, if not for leisure and vacation. More to jobs awaiting the Filipinos abroad, Philippine residents also deem their government hopeless. With that, they opt to settle elsewhere to be under a better administration. Other reasons for migration include desire to travel and explore, peer pressure, hunger for success, tampered safety in the country, and a significant quantity of relatives abroad.

    I may have gone on a one-month vacation in the United States back when I was still in my 3-year relationship, but I can’t say I’ve legitimately been on long distance. Being a million miles away even for an amount of time I’m sure was limited took a toll on our relationship. It was the toughest to make each other understand certain situations through chat and even on call. This vacation led to my partner choosing to give up on me even though there were only four days left before my flight back. It’s damaging what distance can do to two people who once promised each other eternal love and sacrifice. However, more to the pain of having years of love be given up on for something as weak as miles apart, I realized only the right person can get through such challenges with me. Only the right person will choose to keep trying to understand even when things are at their blurriest.

    My relationship failed all because of the obstacles brought by a month of vacation. Nonetheless, my heart remains steadfast. If the man I love happens to live even decades away, I will not hesitate to go through the labyrinth of sleepless nights and hopeless paranoias with him. Loving someone means sacrificing even your own comfort for his/her ambitions, stability, sanity, betterment, growth, and all other things in that nature. Maturity, commitment, communication, and support are what I cling onto in a partner. With that, not even the furthest distance could stop my heart from beating the syllables of his name. We are only apart in distance but we are close in soul. I will live for the counted days we get to be together because that would make both of us cherish each moment more dearly.

    Love is never real when it comes easy, after all.

  31. Denise Erin Pamatian
    Denise Erin Pamatian

    Why do couples often resort to long distance relationship despite the disadvantages in it ? So why there’s long distance relationship in the first place well there’s alot of reasons like there’s more money in there or they want to grab the opportunities in there so having LDR is really necessary. Well I don’t really have a lot of experience in LDR so I can’t tell for sure but if ever in future I would want to avoid having LDR relationship but if it’s necessary I think I will, well like the article tells it’s all about faith.
    Compare to western countries which has a big economy, more money and a lot of opportunity and Phillipines who doesn’t have any of those. People in western countries doesn’t have to migrate to other lower economy countries which has less money while people in Phillipines who wants more money and opportunities for their family of course the migration rate will spike up.

  32. Dorothy Ann Bohulano
    Dorothy Ann Bohulano

    Bohulano, Dorothy Ann P. COM181

    Why do couples often resort to long distance relationships? If they want to keep on their relationship and really have trusted,understand and care for each other, the couples really often resort on having an LDR, it may take time to overcome due to the struggles on long distance relationships, but having those love with each other, it will be worth it.

    Have you experienced LDR? No, I dont think I wouldn’t resort on having LDR, because even tho I can be independent for myself, I’m really emotional inside, just thinking your love one is on the other side of the world just make things on the disadvantage side.

    LDR is usually a result of one party’s migration, why do you think the migration rate of Filipinos are bigger as compared to western countries?
    As we all know, filipinos doesnt have decent job here in the country, also the income are much higher, the standard of living is different than in our country and Filipinos can easily adapt the culture of other country. That’s why our country have higher migration rate than western countries.

  33. Long Distance Relationship is a geographical seperated to each other.

    I experience this with my Father. My father is working abroad to earn a big salary just to provide for our family’s necessities. Like education, food, bills and other thing that need in our daily life. And another person in my life that also involve in this kind of situation is my love one. We apply to ourself of having a strong faith and trust to each other. Sometimes we argue but still we understand each other feeling behind of having a bad mood.

    Here in our country, many families experience on having this kind of situation. Like parents who work abroud to earn enough salary to provide for ther necessities in daily life. They sacrifice just to give their children a better future.

  34. I experience this with my Father. My father is working abroad to earn a big salary just to provide for our family’s necessities. Like education, food, bills and other thing that need in our daily life. And another person in my life that also involve in this kind of situation is my love one. We apply to ourself of having a strong faith and trust to each other. Sometimes we argue but still we understand each other feeling behind of having a bad mood.

    Here in our country, many families experience on having this kind of situation. Like parents who work abroud to earn enough salary to provide for ther necessities in daily lifeý. They sacrifice just to give their children a better future.

  35. I don’t have any experience about LDR because many people believe that long distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously, in case you get your heart broken. But for me “If you want to live together, you first need to learn how to live apart.” Trust, patience, and genuine love.

  36. Im afraid to take risk about LDR because many people believe that long distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously, in case you get your heart broken. But for me “If you want to live together, you first need to learn how to live apart.” Trust, patience, and genuine love.

  37. LDR – People ever get themselves into long-distance relationships on purpose. Typically, what ends up happening is that couples become victim of circumstance, where one partner finds themselves needing to relocate. Another way that long-distance relationships get facilitated is when one person ends up spending a lot of time in a different state or city for either work or leisure, and forms a connection with someone there.

  38. LDR is indeed a challenge to the lovers. People in this relationship often resort to this because simply they are in love. Like what many people say, “Love conquers all”, in which, I think is the reason people are taking risk. Like what’s written above, there’s only 2 out of 10 in this relationship works. People think that even if the chance is small, still, it is a chance. Also, why not try if somehow, it is worth it? It may be a risk but they won’t be regretting someday. I never experienced LDR and I don’t know if I will ever be. I believe knew that this kind of relationship is hard and believe that in the end, it will only led to nothing. But maybe I will resort to this kind of relationship if it is worth it. Well, I’m not really sure. Love can change anything after all. I think migration rate in the Philippines is bigger because Filipinos tried to find job abroad. They think that it is better outside the country so they migrate. Overall, this article is an eye opener to those who are in LDR. Hope for them to be stronger because with love, everything is possible.

  39. LDR 3 words the same with I love you easy to say but its diffficult to show. That’s how LDR works and you can’t control the situation whether you like it or not my point is the situation of your relationship is destined to be what kind of it if you love each other truly no matter what the distance and circumstances you are truly honest and faithful to each other and you are not the one controlling the life of your love ones it is a choice because you are not doing it for yourself only maybe you are doing it for your relationship to have a better future.

    But this is only my opinion and in my entire life I didn’t engage myself in this kind of relationship. I don’t know the answer if i will resort in LDR status unless if i try it. As I’ve mentioned if you love each other truly no matter what the distance and circumstances you are truly honest and faithful to each other and you are not the one controlling the life of your love ones it is a choice because you are not doing it for yourself only maybe you are doing it for your relationship to have a better future. Understand each other and respect each other desicion don’t be selfish because you never know if she/he is the right person to you but when you survive this kind of relationship it means you are destined to each other. Sometimes we need to accept the outcome because in life everything you want is not in your favor even if you do everything meaning you CAN’T GET WHAT YOU WANT BECAUSE WHAT YOU WANT IS NOT RIGHT FOR YOU. Im saying this because the more you expect is the more disappointment you will feel don’t expect too much that in the future you will survive this and give everything to your relationship be understandful to each other and be wise in the present have a plan then decide.

    Poverty , income and bigger opportunity to survive is the main reason why we filipinos are eager to leave the country and prefer to work abroad. You are prepared to leave your love ones not to go vacation in abroad but to live and work there because you are thinking not only for your future but for the future of your love ones too.

  40. Miguel Carlo Vito
    Miguel Carlo Vito

    First of all, relationships led to Long distance relationships because of migrations to other countries. Maybe because of family issues of oppurtunities in the said country but it is a test of faith, loyalty, love, and other elements if a relationship.

    I never experienced this kind of relationship because If I was given a chance this kind of relationship I wouldn’t want it. Because there is no physical contact and of course being away from the one you love is really hard. I cannot bear to have a relationship being awau from your partner. I am a clingy person so I want to be in contact with her.

    Filipinos often migrate because of the job offers. Them getting their family from the philippines because they promise to give them a good life in the states. Main reason is that the salary their is much bigger compared to here. They always think that they have a brighter future or their family would have a better future living in there.

  41. Other couples resort to long distance relationships because there are some positive effects in having some distance from each other. One positive effect is is to have some time for yourself. Always make time in doing things you do alone. It will give you some time apart with your significant other, but at least you will have some new things to talk about and something to look forward in meeting each other again and would also serve as a breather.

  42. To love is to sacrifice, is what I always hear from other people.

    Long distance relationships are matter of fact the test of time, patience, resilience, love, faith, and trust for the couple. In this kind of relationship it will not always going to be rainbows and butterflies, considering you’re miles and miles away away from the person whom is really dear for you – well that could suck sometimes. In my opinion couples who resort to long distance relationship didn’t really mean to choose that, its like putting both of yourself into a latter and taking a part in to what is inevitable that is really going to take a toll on your relationship with each other. Understanding and lots of compromising is what it needs to make it work. Though being apart is not they really chose, the mentality of being practical and thinking what is best for both of you contribute to if as a main factor.

    I don’t have nor have ever experienced being on a relationship with someone neither be on a long distance relationship. Being that is not my priority plus I can’t really imagine myself being in a relationship with someone. They say to love someone is like sharing something that is very precious to you to another person, then the same with long distance relationship- there is no love is there is no sacrifice, there is no calm after the storm, and probably there will be no joy and triumph without pain and hardships. What i mean by that, is if ever (only if) the inevitable happens you have to accept the fact and think that it is only a matter of time and space(give it some time and you’ll get use to it).

    Reasons why some couples have to suffer from this might be something to do with globalization. Many Filipinos migrate in order to have a more comfortable and triumphant life. We often believe that going outside our country will give us chances and lots of doors to open for opportunities. This kind of perspective often leads us to consider options like this thinking that it may help us or it is better compared to any other options. Going back to long distance relationship, it’s not always going to work if only one exerts effort. In any relationship, couples must work it out together. Having this of commitment to someone is like a relay, its hard but it might be worth it one day. Being associated with this is like entering a war zone, full of uncertainties with only faith and hope being your only battle to anyone. Let me just have a little rerun about what is said a while ago that kind of serve as a reminder to everyone: To love someone is to be willing to sacrifice everything with no doubt and second guessing.

  43. Prince Warren Pujeda
    Prince Warren Pujeda

    The type of relationship that is most common among teenagers is long distance relationships. It is because many teenagers fall in love so quickly and are “marupok”, they will never let their partners leave them even though they may have to separate. I am one of many people that find it difficult to stay in a long distance relationship for a very long time yet it depends on the lovers I think. Long distance relationships in my opinion are the hardest relationship to keep unbroken than other relationships.

    Yep. I’ve experienced long distance relationship. Of course, if you really love someone, you want to stay with them no matter what. There are lots of problems with communication and loyalty that can crop up, and distance can prove challenging for even the married couples. And as you have no eyes around him, you’ll doubt your partner. I am scared that he might lie or he might end up in another relationship because we’re apart. It is strange because although you’re committed to someone emotionally, you don’t actually have physically interaction with your partner on a daily basis. Its just everything is uncertain.

    How wealthy you think is the Philippines? That is the brief answer for that question. Western countries have low rates in migration because there’s a lot of opportunities in the country they live in so they don’t need to go abroad to find better opportunities better their country itself have lots of it.

  44. People resort to Long Distance Relationships (LDR) because maybe more often its for work or school location decisions or maybe family’s decision to move to other places and many other circumstances that may have to result to living to another place.

    I also had encountered Long Distance Relationship in my life, its not a relationship between a partner but the relationship between my parents – they are both working abroad and only get a chance to see them once a year sometimes every other year.

    I think the reason why the migration rate of Filipinos are bigger compared to other western countries is because we Filipino often want to work overseas and outside the country for we all know that the salary and job offerings are way much better than our country.

  45. Long Distance Relationship or simply referred to us as LDR,
    It is a state where two couples are separated to each other while their relationship exist or on-going.

    I don’t have any experience yet in this kind of situation,But for me having a Long Distance Relationship is probably a big NO for me,
    Because when you’re far away from someone, We come to the point that we feel a bit of jealousy and feel suspicious on your partner’s side
    If ever I have a girlfriend (like for example). I will always keep an eye on her, on everything she does, to reassure that she is NOT cheating on me or hiding something I want to become the supportive one and at the same a STRICT boyfriend to my future girl and discipline her a lot.
    but not to point where I want to become an OVERPROTECTIVE one.like most parents do. Most girls need some space, needs some time for their family and mostly importantly their goals in life.
    In order to have a good relationship..You must see each other frequently to avoid any potholes on your foundation. And trust me, your relationship will work and last a lifetime.

    Most Filipinos prefer to Migrate not because they want to temporarily get free from the crutches that their partner have. But to put a relationship to a test through the test of time. In that way. A person is obligated to keep focus on one one thing..and that is the love of their life.

  46. It’s no secret that long distance relationships are difficult. They tend to collapse under the weight of constant Skyping. Lots of them also fail for the same reasons no-distance relationships fail. Sure, there are couples who make long distance work, but they are rare. Being in a long distance relationship is obviously a terrifying idea, and clearly is not ideal. Usually, LDR occurs when a one person in a couple follows its course where there is a great opportunity e.g. (work, universities etc.) and the other has nothing to do about it but to support their partner. I have experienced LDR recently and tbh this article made me cry a little lalo na dun sa part na “display faith” lol going back, at first it was so damn hard to adjust to everything
    and it made me realize that LDR is notoriously hard to maintain. It can’t help drifting apart when we’re not constantly reinforcing our feelings. Relationships are cemented by a couple doing things together, building memories and close communication. Now that we’re apart for a long period of time with only phone calls or Skype to keep us close, other interests can interfere. And yes unfortunately it failed, he realizes that sometimes it’s easier to break up than to even contemplate a separation for a long time :<

    Well it is very obvious why the rate of migration of Filipinos rapidly increased because of the following reasons— limited employment opportunities in the Philippines encourage Filipinos to pursue a brighter future abroad. Apart from the financial incentives, Filipinos migrate for their desire to live abroad, personal development and many other reasons. The economy of the western countries lile US, Spain, Canada etc is somehow uplift than ours that is why there are least ppl that choose to migrate.
    LOURDES TESADO
    DEN183

  47. Kyla Dann Fadera
    Kyla Dann Fadera

    LDR nowadays are very common, due to the fact that their partner needs to go in different place for them to sustain the needs of their family. Some LDR cases are experience by the students who studied in different Universities and took different course. As we all know, some Filipino have a long distance relationship because their partner came from different countries and they just communicate through social media.

    I myself experience that kind of relationship because my father work overseas. But when it comes to my love life I didn’t experience it because I don’t have a special someone yet. We have our own priorities in life before we meet our partner, we have purposes why we need to be far from our loved ones, just like what my Father did. He sacrifice to work abroad for us to have a good life. We have to accept that we will go through this kind of relationship.

    The Filipinos intended to work abroad for them to have a high income and for them to sustain the needs of their families. Philippines are facing economical problem and with that Filipinos can find good opportunities in abroad.

    Fadera, Kyla Dann
    COM181

  48. Being in a relationship can be romantic and all but it can be hard and can be even harder for people being in a long distance relationship or LDR. There are just instances that couples have to be far away from each other and their reasons vary from the situations there are in. Maybe one of them have to leave because of family reason, studies or work.

    I haven’t been in a long distance relationship and I think if ever I will be in that kind of relationship it will be a big adjustment for us most especially for me. I don’t think it is not impossible for me and my boyfriend (if I do have) to be far from each other for a long period of time. we do have our separate lives, we are not always in control with each other’s decision, we don’t own their lives. we are just there to show that we love them and will always be there whatever the outcomes of each decisions made will be.

    As I said, it is not impossible for a couple to be in a long distance relationship with various reasons but in the Philippines, the reason is mostly for work. I think it is because migrating in other countries and working there can have more salary than working in the Philippines and with this they can give a better lives for their lover and even for their family.

  49. Jonathan Danniel Siaw
    Jonathan Danniel Siaw

    LDR it is not an easy relationship because if you are in long distance relationship there some circumstances that will be limited. If there is a problem it is one of the hardest things to do because you are far from your love one. So you must earn your trusts each other and be faithful. Also show your efforts as a couple because this is one of the responsible things that the couples must do.

  50. Being in a relationship with someone can be tricky when there’s a whole heap of kilometers between you. I think why couple resort to Long Distance Relationship is that they wanted to test their capabilities of Love, how they are strong and true to loving someone even though they are far away and your moment won’t meet and just rely to each others trust. Being in a long-distance relationship is no one’s ideal situation. All the things that you would typically do with the person you love feel painfully out of reach. You can’t go on dates, or grab a drink after a particularly hard day at work. You can’t sleep in together and get brunch on weekends.

    I experience this kind of relationship with my Father. My father is working abroad to earn a big salary just to provide for our family’s necessities. Like education, food, bills and other thing that we need in our daily life. The migration rate of Filipinos are bigger as compared to western countries because they don’t have a choice but to work abroad just to sustain their family needs. We should accept the fact that we can get more income in other countries. As far as i know most of couples nowadays are from online or social media, they first meet each other from messenger something like that. So definitely that’s the start of having a long distance relationship because you can interact far from your location. But this article really show some tips that need to take note everyone having a long distance relationship.

  51. Marizze Mendoza
    Marizze Mendoza

    Week 5 Blog
    Long distance relationships are intimidating to many people. many couples are unsure whether they can stick together while they are far apart. With dedication and a few reconnecting techniques, however, a true romance can survive no matter how many miles may separate. In today’s technological society of free cell phone calls, unlimited email, text messaging, phone cameras, and chat rooms, it may seem easy to overcome the obstacles of a long distance commitment. In fact, the latest affordable technology is video phone software. While nothing can replace the magic of just being there, with video calling you can at least see as well as hear the person you’re talking to, which makes the connection more personal.

    The trend of migration for temporary work is nothing new in the Philippines; during the Marcos era the Philippines sent large numbers of workers to the middle east amidst the oil boom in the 1970s. The post-Marcos era saw high unemployment rates continue, and the government worked to both facilitate overseas work contracts that were safe for its citizens while at the same time trying to address the unemployment problems at home. No easy task, by any means. The impact of migration/labor export in the Philippines, however, is not just economic. It seems like every family you talk to has someone living abroad. The advantage for them is of course that those individuals almost always send money home. But this type of system, when it occurs on such a large scale, also can breed dependence, and a sense of hopelessness prevails with relation to the future and any effort to improve one’s own country. Resentment, frustration, and despair are surprisingly evident, especially concerning a nation known for its happy, relaxed people. This is not to say that people aren’t happy in the Philippines; rather, it is just to note that the effect of migration is a double edged sword.

  52. Rommel Urbano Jr.
    Rommel Urbano Jr.

    I myself haven’t experienced Long Distance Relationships, yet i do know people who HAVE TO resort to the relationship due to them having to move towns, having to go abroad to support their respective families. They have to resort to LDR due to the far distances that seperate them to each other. I for one however, would prefer to meet the person personally, and have a relationship, and would rather not resort to LDR due to circumstance. If i needed to, if i really need to, and if that person is truly THE PERSON, i would gladly resort to LDR for the sake of the relationship. Filipinos nowadays seek job opportunities outside the country, as it gives more pay to be honest, and also the vast opportunities it holds. Comparison to the Philippines, well, i guess its safe to say that its the opposite of what the other side has to offer. People leaving for the sake of their families, pushes them to have LDR’s, which is a good thing now since we have technology to back us up, but if we look in the past and have LDR through letters? it will be one heck of a painful relationship, a very sweet one though when you finally meet him/her after a few years

  53. Honestly, I am still looking for an answer of “why do people often resort to long distance relationship?” Maybe, just to test out the trust and loyalty of the partner. Maybe, to test out the patience. Or maybe, they have no choice about it, yet both couple still managed to have a communication for the best of their relationship.

    I’ve been in a long distance relationship before, and Alall I could say that long distance relationship is tough especially when we’re having a rendezvous but it will come to a point that many unexpected things will come and our planned meeting will be cancelled. I don’t want to give false hope though I thought I was free but I wasn’t. (Maybe, there’s also a big factor in terms of the strictness of my parents. He’s only the one who’s working to make this relationship move). It’s difficult because whenever you needed him to vent out your problems, he’s too far to comfort you; there’s no intimacy. It’s difficult because loyalty and trust were tested. But despite of our situation, we both fought for it; maybe this time isn’t for ours because there are hindrances that we both thought we can make it. I believe that there are some things that need to settle first rather than that, and would still rely in God’s plan. It hurts, but even though we both seperated our ways, he would always have a place of my heart.

    And to the question, “why do you think the migration rate of Filipinos are bigger as compared to western countries”, I think there are greater opportunity from the other country because of the advancement of sources. To think that most of thing that they need in their daily living is all there.

  54. Couples resort to this kind of commitment maybe because they want to measure how strong the love and trust they have for each other. Maybe they want to test how firm their relationship will be even on their hardest times. I still don’t have any experiences about this kind of commitment but I want to experience it. In my case, I’m honestly not in favor in long distance relationship, but I think love is enough to make me believe with it.

    Filipinos have the biggest migration rate because almost everyone of us knows the struggle when it comes to income here in the Philippines. Because of that, we have no choice but to migrate to other countries because we know that they can give us a higher income that can sustain family’s needs.

  55. There is no easy way to be in a long distance relationship. Being in this kind of relationship is only a matter of deciding if it is worth pursuing or if it is wiser for the couple to part ways and move on. Some couples resort to long distance relationships because they are separated from one another and yet, they don’t want the love they have to last just because of distance. I haven’t experienced long distance relationship. But I think, I can resort this kind of relationship because I believe that distance will not matter. Long distance relationships prove that love has no boundaries. They prove that it can happen and it is possible for two people far away from each other.

    Migration rate of Filipinos are bigger as compared to western countries because the Philippines cannot afford to pay the workers a higher salary due to our country’s economical problems. Aside from that, many Filipinas marry a lot of foreigners which causes for the Filipino women to migrate. Most western countries are considered as developed countries that’s why they do not need to migrate anymore. Especially that they are perceived as the land of economic opportunity.

  56. I think couples often resort LDR because they want to test how strong their relationships are. Moreover, they can test their faithfulness to each other.

    No, I never had this kind of relationship. But, I think i will depends on our situation. If we really have to(because of job or something like that), then I and my partner will.

    Filipinos has a bigger migration than western countries because of the needs like foods, house and etc. Some Filipinos are not satisfied on the salaries that they get here in the Philippines, that’s why LDR happens in married couples / partners. One will have to go to other place/country and one will gonna stay.

  57. Kathleen Nolasco
    Kathleen Nolasco

    1. I think couples can stop think about negatives sides besides they show up the love, cares, and even the time for their love ones even if there are in a situation of long distance relationship. They came up with plans and remember their goal.
    2. Yes, I already experienced long distance relationship until now. Based on my own experience d long distance relationshop is not an easy situation. It is hard for all when it comes to time, distance, trust, and also we are prone to over think about what they do or where he is. I may not sure about our relationship, but one thing we can do is to trust you partner and put God in our relationship.
    3. Filipino migrate in other countries because of lack in financial needs. Many Filipino wants to experienced the life in abroad even if they are far away from they’re partner (boyfriend) and also for their families. They need money to sustain their life and to have a better life.

    KATHLEEN G. NOLASCO
    DEN183

  58. I see LDR (Long Distance Relationship) as a commitment between two individuals having a strong faith between partners despite being apart. Some couple may have this kind of relationship considering their situation abiding LDR due to many reasons like working abroad, having different nationality/country, different residency, and many other possible directions. To be straightforward, I only see these in movies or series. ‘Cause I had never been into a romantic relationship with someone. So there’s not much for me to say. Anyway, I would think if this kind of relationship would happen to me. I would take risk depending on how a person can give even without being next to each other and not having an intimate relationship to bond for as much there are faith and communication there can still be a connection and love. Somehow it’s a challenge on how strong your love is, on how long you can wait, and how far you can precede. Though, I’ve read that most LDR doesn’t work at all and that it’s dreadful since you only get to see each other through gadgets or barely meet that the eagerness may fade and closeness may take away. But it may still be worthy when your distance became an inch.
    I think that the reason why most Filipinos has the most long distance relationships or foreign partners is… frankly, the first thing that came in my mind is on how some Filipinas use technology or media. Lots of Filipinas sought on having a foreigner boyfriend just as much they believe that the partner will take them away from poverty and that’s not good to hear (but it’s true), Filipinos has LDR basically to support our loved ones financial needs, like the OFW (Overseas Filipino Workers). And of course generally, it is because the Filipinos dare to take risk, give trust, and love.
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  59. Couples deal to have a long distance relationship not just to build more strong relationship, to love is to sacrifice holding trust and believe for each other. I never been in a relationship, and yes I will resort into a long distance relationship because I know myself as giving my full commitment to the person I love, and devote to that person. It is not taking a risk, it is building up a strong relationship and trust for the both of us. There might be encountering of a lot of challenges there might be some temptations but we must know the promise we are holding. The migration rate of Filipinos are nigger than western because of the economic status of a country, Filipinos prefer to migrate or live permanently where can make their life healthier.

  60. Surviving Long Distance Relationship is a tough one because for me it is hard and in this case, it has more disadvantages rather than advantages if you have this kind of relationship at first that you know that you love your partner so much don’t give up if you really love your partner but in the other hand, if you have this kind of relationship but you want to stop it, it is a choice for you if want it or not and make first your final decision before you will quit in this relationship. This article is an inspiring one and most of all have this kind of relationship. The author’s advice is a suitable advice for some couples that experiencing this kind of relationship. Couples often resort to long distance relationships because at first they have a trust and loyalty to each other and they know that their partners have a strong trust to you and they know that their relationship will last longer just like the ordinary relationships. I didn’t experience the long distance relationship, because I know that if I will have that kind of relationship I think that it will not work even though that you have a trust with each other there are times that you will fall into some problems that this kind of relationship has. I think that Filipinos has much more rate of migration than western countries, because the Filipinos think that if they are in other countries they will invest more money than in the Philippines and there are a lot of population here in the Philippines and also because of the economical problems that the Philippines experienced. In western countries they have a few population here and it has a lot of opportunities in this countries than in the Philippines.

  61. Patrick Calilung
    Patrick Calilung

    I’ve never experience LDR because i don’t think it will work. Long distance relationship is People have distance physically in their relationships on purpose. Usually, what ends up happening is that couples become victim of circumstance, where one partner finds themselves needing to relocate. Another way that long-distance relationships get facilitated is when one person ends up spending a lot of time in a different state or city for either work or leisure, and forms a connection with someone there.

  62. ANGELES, ANGELIC L.
    BSCS-ML COM 181

    1. LDR or Long Distance Relationships happens when you have relationship between partners who aren’t able to see each other personally. Couples often resort to long distance relationships due to work, education, geographically separated, financial purposes to sustain their families needs and most Filipinos work abroad that’s why their families also migrate on the country they’ve been working. We have so many Overseas Filipino Workers (OFWs) due to unemployment and it is hard to find a decent and permanent job here in the Philippines.
    2. I haven’t experienced an LDR but my mom and dad used to have a long distance relationship since my dad needed to go abroad in Kuwait to sustain our financial needs. Sadly, it didn’t work out and my mom caught my dad cheating on him. Ever since, as early as a 6 year old girl I gain some trust issues especially to men, even my uncles. I witnessed how they have broken hearts. Even if they are not in a long distance relationship, they will cheat. So, I cannot handle getting into a long distance kind of relationship due to these tragic experiences.
    3. The migration rate of Filipinos is greater compare to the other countries because we live in a country where the poverty rate is also high. The lack of economic opportunities such as employment which will help people to have higher and stable incomes. There are more chances of getting financially stable on foreign countries compare here in the Philippines. Also, the inequitable system of the enterprises and insufficient well-paying job opportunities for the Filipinos. And most Filipinos, cannot afford to be educated that’s why they are provided low levels of education. The government needs to focus more on the education system in the Philippines to uplift the economic status of our country and prevent Filipinos from working abroad.

  63. 1. Why do couples often resort to long distance relationships?
    – Because, on some way it is more convenient for example, your appearance is not accepted by the freakin girls in your country most likely you’re going to find attention on other places, thus LDR is convenient in some way..

    2. Have you experienced LDR? First-hand or as told? If yes, how did you feel about it? If no, do you think you would ever resort to this kind of relationship?
    – Yes, I experienced it and also yes, it is First-hand. The only thing that I can say is it’s painful.

    3. LDR is usually a result of one party’s migration, why do you think the migration rate of Filipinos are bigger as compared to western countries?
    – Because in other country you are more likely to be like plus the place there is so clean; though some of the places there is scary.

  64. 1. There are a lot of possible reason why couples resort with having an LDR. First, maybe the girl/guy experience something from the past that lead them to become afraid of creating memories with their partner. I personally know someone who have this kind of perception. She specifically want to find someone online who lives far from her because she’s scared of having a lot of memories with his partner. Second, maybe there’s something happened that force them to become apart from each other. Perhaps, an unexpected problem that force either one of the couple to go in a place that is far. However, they think that their love from each other can’t be hindered. Another, maybe because the couple built a romantic relationship online they live far from each other even before they met and now that they fell from each other they don’t have a choice but to keep their long distance relationship. Lastly, maybe the couple really don’t have a choice but to be far from each other because of being born in an unfortunate family.
    2. Well, at my age I haven’t been in a relationship with anyone (romantically). But base on the experiences of the people around me I think being in this kind of relationship is kind of hard. Based on what I have observe only few people lasts in this kind of relationship. And I don’t think I can stay and be one of them. Especially, my father is an overseas worker and I saw how my parents relationship went haywire. I saw how they fight over things, how they don’t understand each other anymore etc. Well, I know love is powerful it can lasts for a long time. However, it depends on the people who experience it, it depends on their personality, their trust from each other and how they communicate with each other.
    3. As part of globalization barrier free in exchanging of goods and services from country to countries are happening. And as a Filipino we know what’s separate us apart from other countries and that is manpower. Due to lack of better opportunities our countrymen are force to go abroad just to sustain their family’s needs. We have a huge migration rate because Philippines is a third world country and people can’t think of better ways on how fo make their family’s way of living to become somehow light but to go overseas and work despite of the thought of being away from their love ones. Unlike in western countries being a college graduate graduate is not a norm but a choice. That’s why they have more opportunities, better government that wouldn’t made them think of migrating.
    Psy184

  65. The term LDR or Long distance relationship is not new to us anymore since there are a lot of people (couples) dealing with this kind of case everyday, not just in present time but also in the past. I think this word doesn’t just connotes for ‘difficult’ hence this may also be synonymous to ‘risk’ & ‘sacrifice’. There are a lot of things to be sacrifice and to risk for, yet couples are still willing to be in a long distance relationship with their partners. It was a tough decision to make but both parties have their reasons. Some rare cases about LDR happened when they found out that they needed space and time and they both need to ‘cool-off’ for a while and that’s one of the reason to belong in an ldr. But most of the time couples are just a victim of circumstances in which both or one of them needs to relocate for work purposes or one needed to study in a University far away from their love one.
    So why stay in that kind of set up (relationshi) if you’re not sure if it will work or not? Because of love, haha not sure but I think it is the main reason. You will just settle with your set up because you don’t want to be totally separated (break-up) with him/her. You will endure the longing and pain. Your work, studies and your love one are all important to you so why would you choose one if you can choose both?

    Yes, I’ve experience LDR (lol) and it’s never been easy. You need to double your effort, your trust, understanding as well as the dose of your patience. It was hard to deal with everyday because we can’t deny how much we miss that person every single time. But if you really think that he/she is so much important to you and he/she is worth the risk then it will lessen your longing and each and everyday won’t be as hard as what it is before.

    Just like couples having their own reasons why they engage in an ldr, Filipinos migrating also have their own reasons why they did that and we really can’t blame them. Various reasons such as poverty (main reason), lack of job opportunities, low wages and a lot more. The thing is it’s not easy to be oceans away from our love ones but if you have the faith, hope and patience with you then it will lessen the pain and longing. You just gotta believe that one day you’ll be back in their arms again and you will never get separated again.

  66. Clifford James D. Abenir
    Com 181
    -Couples resort ti an LDR or Long Distance Relationship, is because they love each other or they knew that they can handle it and survive it as an adult. And not only that, it’s because they knew that it can make them mature enough to make decisions.
    -As for me I have experienced LDR and for me i felt so anxious and I overthink alot because of the fact that people are different and unpredictable, they can do things that others can think of.
    -The migration rate here at the Philippines is higher than western countries because of the salary here in PH. And sometimes it’s because of their life style. Some Filipino citizens go overseas because of their family.

    That’s why when your love one’s are still here be sure to cherish them and support them through and beyond, never give up on them just trust and believe, because your affection can be a big impact to them.

  67. I think couples often resort LDR because they want to test how strong their relationships are. Moreover, they can test their faithfulness to each other.

    No, I never had this kind of relationship. But, I think i will depends on our situation. If we really have to(because of job or something like that), then I and my partner will.

    Filipinos has a bigger migration than western countries because of the needs like foods, house and etc. Some Filipinos are not satisfied on the salaries that they get here in the Philippines, that’s why LDR happens in married couples / partners. One will have to go to other place/country and one will gonna stay.

  68. LDR- relationship of the couples which test their trust and faith to each other. Why do couple resort long distance relation? its because their mindset is, the time they were together will be wasted if one of them give up to their relationship because one of them are going abroad or places that is far from each other. Actually i didn’t experience this kind of relationship, if ever i think i cant resort that kind of relationship because even if you like someone you cant ignore the fact that you need her/him with you at least once a week or months, thats my opinion. Those kind of relationship are often see in the our country (Philippines) why? because almost every professional and even non professional are seeking to work abroad for them to gain enough income or money to sustain their family that in our country can’t give that much.

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  69. LDR- a relationship that test the faith and trust of the couple. Why do couples often resort LDR? because the mindset of the couple is that their time that they spend together will be wasted if one of them quits or give up to the relationship. Actually I didn’t experience this relationship, i think i can’t resort that relation because you can’t ignore the fact that you need someone with you at least one or two times once a week or a month thats for my opinon. We often see this relationship in our country (Philippines) why? because almost every porfessionals and even non professionals are seeking to work abroad for them to gain money or income to sustain the needs and wants of their family that in our country cant give that much.

    Den 183

  70. Long Distance Relationship (LDR) is very difficult. Couples often resort to a long distance relationship because of their responsibility and obligation at work. For me, work is the top contributory factor as to why long distance relationships fail because either your partner or you are being assigned in different places. Since you are an employee, it is your duty to follow the given work for you, which can either be in a local or an international setting. The second contributory factor of LDR is either one of you will be studying in the another school or sent abroad. As a teenager, you can’t do anything if one of you will move to another place especially if it’s your parent’s decision to migrate.

    For me, I haven’t experienced a long distance relationship and I know that being in a long distance relationship is difficult because you need to give your full trust to your partner. As for me, I think I can handle being in a long distance relationship as long as we have trust and faith in each other. Trusting your partner even though you’re apart is important. Trusting each other is one of the biggest part of being in a relationship that keeps you both on going. Being faithful to your partner is required in a long distance relationship because once you’re faithful to your partner, you can go through trials and hardships.

    Migration rate of Filipinos is higher than western countries because the cost of living here in the Philippines is high and having a job with low salary is difficult, especially if you have to sustain your family’s needs. We should accept the fact that if one will work abroad, they can get more income. That’s why they tend to have long distance relationship.

    Dela Pena, Angela V.
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  71. Couple take this situation which is long distance relationships of having no personal communication, just with their gadgets and snail mails. They do this because of a reason of life decisions that they need to do for their future. In this situation, it is very hard especially on priority, trust and honesty. An LDR relationship between couples must be mature on choosing priorities in your life, hobbies, work and self. Next is trust that couples must plant trust to each other on how will they trust on your partner if rather he is cheating on you or not, not saying the truth on the things that is happening to the partner and trust on keeping relationship as solid as a boulder. The finally honesty on the feelings, things that you do in your life and especially on your communication with each other that you talk to your partner with your 100% honesty level.
    I have experienced LDR back then, we did not last long like from 2 months because of the lack of the 3 things is said earlier which is we lack on the priorities on what we do in life because we are not that mature enough. We also lack of trust that we let ourselves free that we don’t check on ourselves because of lack on time, busyness and mostly distractions in the life we live in so we don’t have time to earn trust between each other. Mostly honesty, we were not honest to ourselves because yet again we don’t have enough communication with each other and yet we tell lies on what we do and people who we meet.
    The migration rate in the Philippines is high because mostly in western countries have the best jobs in the world, they earn more because the prices in the Philippines is very expensive than the western countries which they have high currency rates, and mostly countries like Canada or England have the best government in the world on my opinion so that is why the migration rate of Filipino’s are high than western countries.

  72. Katreena Ann Ramos
    Katreena Ann Ramos

    A long distance relationship can have many meanings and experiences may be very different from one person to another. For some people, living a long distance from a loved one may be a normal routine in life, while for some people the occasional distance can be difficult and challenging. A long distance relationship can be for a few days, years, or months can occur over a few days, months. For other people, long distance relationship is just like something normal in their family structure, and other people it is like a new experience. What makes a long distance work is continuous communication, using other means of communication such as Skype and Facebook. The couple needs to keep the romance alive so that neither partner should not feel that he or she have some who does not care, and not making things be too personal in the relation.

  73. Jem Cirene Villamin
    Jem Cirene Villamin

    Couples experience long distance relationships maybe because of their work, studies, dreams, goals, move place and etc. For the couples, the challenging part is to get far away from your partner because their will always be a problems like jealousy, insecurity, being open to change, lack of physical intimacy, challenges in communication, sharing responsibilities and etc so it is difficult to maintain. And two out of ten couples can only survive the long distance relationship. Long distance relationship is full of sacrifices and requires a trust and patience.

    No, I have not experienced it yet. But if I will be in a relationship and it will be a LDR, I not give up my relationship just because it will be a long distance relationship, because if you really love the person you will sacrifice and not just give up easily the relationship that you’ve have. I will still accept the LDR even if it is hard and difficult because if you really love the person you are willing to take a risk even if you didn’t know what happens next or it will be work or not, the important is you did your part. For me, the long distance relationship is the most amazing and best relationship. You will see the patient hearts that are willing to wait. It will all be worth it in the end.

    For me, the Filipinos are more emotional and dramatic when it comes to relationship, mostly the young ones because they are not mature enough so they easily get hurt even in little things. Filipinos easily in touch or adopt the characteristics. And because of the internet it has a big impact for us to react easily of what we are seeing. The couples who survived this LDR is mostly the married ones because they matured enough.

  74. Mariechelle Alden Cua
    Mariechelle Alden Cua

    Psy184 CUA MARIECHELLE ALDEN R.

    While reading the article above, there is this one sentence that capture my interest, “the probability of this relationship is more to fail than triumph.” with that sentece alone, i become more interested to know. People are aware of this fact but stills continue to risk their heart to this geographical challenge. Maybe one of the reason why people endure this challenge because they have no choice but to let distance be part of tgeir relationship, maybe because of work and such as that.

    I have never been in this kind of relationship before, in fact, I have never been in a relation before. But people ask me often, that if I have given a chance, would I risk my heart to enter long distnace relationship. I said yes, its sweet to see two hearts patiently waiting for eachother because they thought it’s worth it anyway. My mother once said that “Love is immeasurable, it can conquer and reach across distance. As long as you are both under the same sky, breathing the same air, it will work.” and that it one of the reason why I think I will be willing to give LDR a chance. Because, i believe that even two you are miles away, two souls hear each other, even in the most silent place.

    “Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.” this the quote that I have read earlier and I keep thinking about this while readung the article.So one one the reason why LDR occur because of migration of one in party of relationship. But why they choose to migrate than to stay? Maybe because they think they will have a better life outside our country because of bigger chances of work. Many filipino are outside the country and choose to work abroad because they will have a better future if they work in other country becaise it gives higher pay. As you can notice our rate of migration is higher than western countries, maybe the reason is pull and push factor. Where either filipino think it is better to live in western environment or they have no choice because of our country’s high unemployment rates.

  75. Couples involved in a long distance relationship may need to resort to special tactics to keep their communication alive. Since the element of physicality is, for all practical purposes, eliminated during day-to-day life, this important aspect must be simulated using other means. I never experienced to have any long distance relationship even by first-hand or as told but If their is I would ever try to resort for this kind of relationship.

    LDR is usually a result of one party’s migration and totally I agree with that and its true that the migration rate of Filipinos are bigger as compared to western countries. Why, this is because many well-educated Filipinos are flocking out of the country to seek better wages than they can find at home. People find more lucrative work in Dubai, Singapore, Taiwan, and a number of other countries and I think that is the main reason why we Filipinos have a higher migration rate than the western countries.

  76. Couples involved in a long distance relationship may need to resort to special tactics to keep their communication alive. Since the element of physicality is, for all practical purposes, eliminated during day-to-day life, this important aspect must be simulated using other means. I never experienced to have any long distance relationship even by first-hand or as told but If their is I would ever try to resort for this kind of relationship.

    LDR is usually a result of one party’s migration and totally I agree with that and its true that the migration rate of Filipinos are bigger as compared to western countries. Why, this is because many well-educated Filipinos are flocking out of the country to seek better wages than they can find at home. People find more lucrative work in Dubai, Singapore, Taiwan, and a number of other countries and I think that is the main reason why we Filipinos have a higher migration rate than the western countries.

  77. Kieya Jade Galerio
    Kieya Jade Galerio

    Long distance relationships or LDR requires a bit of creativity as well as a sense of play if couples are to survive unhealthy criticism from friends or even relatives. There are a lot of reasons why couples often resort to a long distance relationship either because of work, studies or family (migration). Long Distance relationship is quite difficult to every couple especially when the time zone is different like when your partner is in the European part country.

    I have never experienced Long Distance Relationship but if you are going to ask me if i should resort to this kind of relationship, I will depend it on the situation. LDR is not as easy as we think, we all know that! I have seen a lot of couples who are also in long distance relationship right now and I salute them for being strong despite of the challenges or problems that comes along their way as long distance relationship couples. But yeah, if you really love that person no matter how many miles you are apart to each other, distance is not a hinder.

    in my own opinion, migration rate of Filipinos are bigger than Western Countries because of the poverty that our country is experiencing. Aside from this, the salary is much bigger there than here and there are a lot of bigger opportunities that are coming along your way when you are outside the country especially in part of the USA.

  78. People go through even if it is hard because if you love a person you will accept all the struggles and the challenges that comes to the them but it defends on the person on how they handle their relationship. Yes, I experience when my boyfriend trained for a month to finish his final requirements, when he leave my mind thinks for “what i will do if he’s not with me? “ , “ What will happened to me now? “ Every single day i think of him i cry because im not used to be alone same with him but we have communication like video call and chat that why we less our emotions for being missed each other. For me migration of Filipino are bigger because some of us work abroad for our family or relatives even if its hard for us we will do it for the sake of our love ones some of us are not used to be alone but we need it thats why people resort to that situation.

  79. Reyes, Lloyd Lois Antonie S.
    COM181

    Long distance relationships are a rather strange thing to human beings because we have been taught that we need the physical intimacy in a romantic relationship in order for it to work. This is one of the biggest misconceptions in long distance relationships ever. Intimacy is not just the physical, it is the emotional. It is feeling safe to expose your vulnerabilities and become authentic, genuine and true to yourself and your partner.

    For me I don’t have experienced long distance relationships because it is hard, and I wouldn’t ready for this kind of relationship for my becoming love ones. It’s virtually impossible to maintain a meaningful long distance relationship indefinitely. It requires too much energy, and it prevents you from having any kind of life outside of the relationship. It’s a lot of work for very little reward. There needs to be an end in sight, where the two of you can live near each other and work on your relationship in person.

    The impact of migration/labor export in the Philippines, however, is not just economic. It seems like every family you talk to has someone living abroad. The advantage for them is of course that those individuals almost always send money home. But this type of system, when it occurs on such a large scale, also can breed dependence, and a sense of hopelessness prevails with relation to the future and any effort to improve one’s own country.

  80. 1 – Our generation often refers to it as ‘a test of faith’. They see it as a challenge to both parties and believe that if they can go through it they’ll be stronger and be more tougher for years to come.

    2 – I have experienced it first – hand. The feeling is really nerve – wracking since you’re troubled mind can’t stop overthinking about what would happen to him/her.

    3 – The reason for this is that Filipinos migrate out of the country because they look for bigger opportunities at western countries. They feel like their work here in the Philippines are not being paid enough compared to other countries in the western region.

  81. Long distance relationship for me it’s a big test of faithfulness, trust and patience for couples. Some couples still resort to this kind of relationship because if you really love someone distance becomes nothing when the person you love is your everything. I never experience long distance relationship. But if I ever experience this kind of situation, I will be patient and faithful to our relationship and I will trust him/her because when you truly love a person you will do everything to keep him/her and learn to understand what’s good for the both of you. The migration rate of Filipinos is bigger as compared to western countries because Filipinos believe that we can get a better and bigger income and more wages that can provide the needs of their own and their family.

  82. Being in love is the best feeling, we always wants them to be their on our side and we want them to see everyday.
    But what about the lovers who are in a long distance relationship?.
    One of the reason why lovers got separated because of their career, they want to have a better future so that they need to sacrifice their time to their love ones.
    I don’t experience long distance relationship but I know a person who does, and she is my sister she work abroad while her boyfriend stays here in Philippines for work also.
    But even they are in a long distance relationship they still have a connection they use media to get connected such as Facebook, Skype, Ig etc.
    They spend time together every time my sister come home and if we have a family outing or dinner they always came.
    They always exert time together, they make plans, and they make sure that every moment they are together is memorable.
    They proved that long distance relationship needs a patience, trust and faith.
    I think the reason why Filipinos choose to work abroad because of the high salary and they want to try something new or to travel, and that is the reason why my sister wants to work abroad because she wants get high salary and also to travel.

  83. Shaina Dela Cruz
    Shaina Dela Cruz

    Long distance relationship is a test in every couple because they seldom meet face to face, they can’t show their affection to each other often, and they missed their partner so much. Every couples didn’t want to experience that kind of relationship, because it’s like their relationship is in the edge of a cliff, where in every action may end what is going on around them. Those who experienced and still experiencing this, isn’t their choice to be in that kind of situation. it’s just that it is destined, it’s their faith because of priorities. And every couple who wager in LDR is trying to be stronger than usual, to trust each other more, and to stay faithful to their partner because temptations are everywhere.

    Years ago, I’m in a Long-Distance relationship. For me it’s not that hard once you build everything together before you experienced this situation like trust, love, acceptance, being faithful etc. Adjustments is the hardest thing you may encounter. because you may not often see each other like usual, you missed each other a lot and not being able to do what other relationship can do. everything is new and limited. It’s going to be painful once the foundation of your relationship is infirm. Long distance relationship may arise Emotional and physical need for each other that can lead too much frustrations and internal damage. Arguments may also arise because long distance communication is more valued than face to face communication, it means there is more misunderstanding that may occur. So, building love and sharing ideas together on how to move the relations ahead is the key.

    as i said LDR occur because of priorities that’s why Migration rate of Filipinos are bigger than western countries because of:
    1.) Bigger opportunities
    2.) Good education
    3.) Higher paid (workers)
    4.) Easy to get decent jobs
    5.) To enhance career

  84. Shaina Dela Cruz
    Shaina Dela Cruz

    Long distance relationship is a test in every couple because they seldom meet face to face, they can’t show their affection to each other often, and they missed their partner so much. Every couples didn’t want to experience that kind of relationship, because it’s like their relationship is in the edge of a cliff, where in every action may end what is going on around them. Those who experienced and still experiencing this, isn’t their choice to be in that kind of situation. it’s just that it is destined, it’s their faith because of priorities
    Years ago, I’m in a Long-Distance relationship. Adjustments is the hardest thing you may encounter. because you may not often see each other like usual, you missed each other a lot and not being able to do what other relationship can do. everything is new and limited. It’s going to be painful once the foundation of your relationship is infirm. Long distance relationship may arise Emotional and physical need for each other that can lead too much frustrations and internal damage. Arguments may also arise because long distance communication is more valued than face to face communication, it means there is more misunderstanding that may occur. So, building love and sharing ideas together on how to move the relations ahead is the key.

    Migration rate of Filipinos are bigger than western countries because of:
    1.) Bigger opportunities
    2.) Good education
    3.) Higher paid (workers)
    4.) Easy to get decent jobs
    5.) To enhance career

  85. Why do couples experienced LDR or Long Distance Relationship? Well some people got introduced on social media or they first meeting is on some events like convention, seminar, contest or even vacation before they become couple so at first they literally have a LDR or other couples have to migrate on other country or places so they have no choice. I don’t actually experienced long distance relationship based on the article above reffering to couple LDR. Well among family, I do, I only have Christmas and Vacation to meet them its hard but I chose this situation for my studies and for my dreams so I am on the stage of being independent one, well i remembered those days that I cried at night because I really missed them so much but I really need this.However, their are so many Filipinos who migrate on another country because they found our place as nonprogressive country so living on other country make them experienced better life with stable job, good sallary and abundant place. Western country have less migration rate is because they can found all good qualities on their country so why should they have to transfer to other country that they are not sure if they can survive.

  86. Why do couples experienced LDR or Long Distance Relationship? Well some people got introduced on social media or they first meeting is on some events like convention, seminar, contest or even vacation before they become couple so at first they literally have a LDR or other couples have to migrate on other country or places so they have no choice. I don’t actually experienced long distance relationship based on the article above reffering to couple LDR. Well among family, I do, I only have Christmas and Vacation to meet them its hard but I chose this situation for my studies and for my dreams so I am on the stage of being independent one, well i remembered those days that I cried at night because I really missed them so much but I really need this.However, their are so many Filipinos who migrate on another country because they found our place as nonprogressive country so living on other country make them experienced better life with stable job, good sallary and abundant place. Western country have less migration rate is because they can found all good qualities on their country so why should they have to transfer to other country that they are not sure if they can survive.

  87. Alyssa Macawile
    Alyssa Macawile

    Based on what I observed, I guess most people didn’t choose to be in a long distance relationship, but it just happens that when you finally met that girl or guy in social media that is far from you, and you like his/her, you spend most of your time and finally you just fell in love with that person and it doesn’t matter if you are far from that person as long you love each other everything will be alright. Also, sometimes because of school and work some people need to migrate, so suddenly there’s no choice but to endure this long distance relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend. For me, I haven’t experienced this, and I wouldn’t try to, but in some cases like I mentioned above that if it’s about work or for the future of the two of you, literally it will need a lot of trust, love, and loyalty to make your relationship last regardless of the distance.

  88. Nikki Quintos
    COM181
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    Love is the most powerful thing in this world, being able to love and be loved is the happiest feeling in the world. But of course in any relationship there will be situations that would test their love for each other and how strong they are as a couple, how they would deal with such situations and how they would come up with a solution. One of the factors that the Couples often resort to LDR because of their different career, one needs to work abroad to fulfill his/her dreams or save for the couples future, and this often result to a complicated relationship since the communication between them is not present all the time.
    Most of my close friends is or have been in a LDR, their stories amazed me when the couple is positive over things and at the same time makes me sad if a couple is facing a conflict in their relationship just because they don’t have a proper communication. I think that it will be hard for me in the future to have a long distance relationship because for me communication and being able to express how I feel towards that person is something very precious.
    I think the migration rate of the Filipinos is higher than the other countries is because the man/woman needs to work abroad to be able to save for their future and provide what they need. I’m not saying that it is the reason but what I’m saying that it is the common reason why our migration rate is higher than the other countries.

  89. Tala Felicidario
    Tala Felicidario

    Long Distance Relationship

    A long-distance relationship (LDR) is an intimate relationship between partners who are geographically separated from one another. Partners in LDRs face geographic separation and lack of face-to-face contact.

    Couples who have been in a long distance relationship adapt the feelings they may feel as time goes by. The reason is that missing someone who is far away is painful, especially when you love him so much. Every little thing reminds you of him and the way he makes you feel.

    I have no experience in ldr yet but I think, that I can resort to this kind of relationship as long as we have an extreme love for each other to conquer the distance, always have faith and trust even when we don’t have much time to talk, we are responsible for our actions, and we are strong and willing to keep our relationship in a long-term relationship.

    Filipino’s are very emotional and easily attached to anyone especially when someone cannot fulfill their needs, It is also because Filipinos are the ones who are going to another country to have someone or something good, unlike western people, as a result, there is always a third party in a relationship and cause to damaged a family.

    “Love, Understanding, Faith and Time management is the most important thing ever in a relationship.

  90. Morgia, Gabriel Jake S. | COM181

    Most of the time, couples resort to a “Long Distance Relationship(LDR)” because of migration due to work or studies. I have experienced Long Distance Relationships. They don’t end well most of the time. As mentioned in the article, lots of factors come in to play in determining the success of a LDR. A lot of trepidation may come into play as people look into the morrow, but it has been proven by many that trepidation will only lead to the fall of the relationship. I do think that in a LD relationship, a couple must have the patience, trust, faith, and constant appreciation for each other. The emotion called “Love” is a very powerful thing and a lot of people tend to take it lightly nowadays. A couple will most definitely face a lot of temptations in a LDR but the key to it is always try to remember that love that you have for the other person. While people delve into discourse regarding this topic, I do believe that there is no definite answer or a perfect formula when dealing with a Long Distance Relationship. I might go on and on and say anything I want here but the answer will always vary with every relationship. With that said, there are still guidelines that would help a couple through a Long Distance Relationship. One golden rule that I always abide is to always “do unto others what you want others to do unto you”. Don’t do shit that you don’t want your partner to do. On the other hand, You can expect your partner to return that same love you are giving. We are all different people and as such, we love differently. A lot of people don’t seem to comprehend that part but nevertheless, it is still an essential mindset that a couple must always keep in mind. As mentioned earlier, I could go on and on but there will never be a definite answer. I guess people should be more honest and be more faithful? I really don’t know. I’m not a love guru Sir Roel. Don’t ask me hihi.
    The migration rate of Filipinos is bigger as compared to western countries because it is common knowledge that the Philippines is a third world country or to be more precise, it is dirt poor. Filipinos love migrating because the country aint givin enough financially resulting to the migration of our Filipino brothas and sistas thereby adding reasons as to why families and/or relationships fall apart.

  91. Karla Magne Abat
    Karla Magne Abat

    Long distance relationship is difficult and yet people often resort to this kind of relationship intentionally or not. LDR is sometimes inevitable especially if one of the parties lives afar or if one really needs to migrate. To make this relationship a little better, here are few things on why LDR is workable. The commitment becomes a beautiful thing. The couple begins to be communication experts and time management becomes an easy thing.

    I have seen few of my relatives in a long distance relationship and they were able to survive through it. Sure, it is scary, but trust is just one of the many ingredients that need to be developed. Long distance relationship isn’t for everyone because it takes a lot of trust, patience, and understanding. If done right, LDR lasts. To be guided by my relatives who experienced LDR, I think I would be able to survive LDR if someday I will be faced with this kind of relationship.

    A huge number of Filipinos migrate to other countries mainly because of the economical problems in the Philippines. The Philippines can’t afford to pay the workers a lot of money due to their economical problems. In Western countries, their people need not to go other countries to earn a lot. Some of their citizens migrate due to work deployment or the workers are assigned to other countries for certain period of time.

  92. Kimberly Anne Balajadia
    Kimberly Anne Balajadia

    To be in a Long Distance Relationship is definitely one of the main reasons why couples, nowadays, would separate. In a relationship you must feel that you are being loved by someone you love because you must consider that being intimate to your significant other can deepen your love to them and they feel secured that you cannot cheat on him/her. Imagine that you can’t feel the intimacy between the two of you is hard even if you are just block away, what more if the two of you are very far away? Some couples are suffering from the fact that they need to separate for a while because one of them needs to work abroad. They need to accept that being in a Long Distance Relationship are their only and last resort (but not all couples) to have a good and promising future for them. Even if it means that their relationship will be in danger.

    Being in a LDR is very hard because there are a lot of factors you need to consider for your relationship to work. You need to have a lot of patience, maturity, honesty, loyalty, trust, and of course a brave heart to be able to survive. I never imagine myself being in this kind of relationship because for a fact that it is very risky and you cannot do anything to be able to see your partner every single day because you two are far from each other. Being in this complex kind of relationship, I can say that the two of you needs to be more understanding and to have a listening heart for you to be able to communicate even if it’s hard still, try to be more open and transparent to each other because when you pass through it, you will feel nothing but pure bliss.

    The main reason why couples tend to have a LDR here in the Philippines is that we have a high cost of living (unlike to the western country) that our only and last resort is to go to another country to have a job that promises good salary to make their living comfortable. Even if it means sacrificing the happiness that you will feel when there’s a special occasion and you cannot do anything about it because you need to work for your family. That’s why I am so proud for every Filipino citizen who are suffering from LDR because of their family and believing that time will come they will be together in the end. After all, Love can move two mountains.

  93. Michelle de Mesa
    Michelle de Mesa

    LDR can also mean long drastic road. Once couple decided to live far from each other, extreme and inevitable changes and moments must be anticipated, if not, they will both suffer from their own trouble minds along the way. There are many reasons as to why couples resort to this kind of relationship, but most of the time it is because of their dreams and career. Maybe one of them wants to finish study somewhere else or one must work abroad to earn money better than they do in their hometown. Looking at how great our technology is now, we will not miss many stories of couples who met online through facebook, dating apps, IG, twitter, and even other social networking sites and judging why and how they get there is another story. But if you consider these things, you will understand why people resort to long distance relationship. While technology produces lots of LDRs, it also helps those in LDR to survive the daily struggle. But as for me who have never been in this kind of daring relationship, I don’t think I would ever resort to an overseas kind of love. First is because, I want intimacy in a way that the person is there after a tiresome day and even on my free day, I don’t want to waste time out of our short lives spending it apart. And another thing, as much as possible I won’t settle for someone who isn’t yet financially stable, who thinks working abroad is the key, it is not just for my own benifit but also for us, to be practical. Filipinos’ migration rate is bigger than other western countries can indicate a lot. Possible reasons are, many of us are xenocentric by heart, we love to travel outside country, and we are well aware of the fact that other countries offer higher wages than our country do, even in education, obviously, we degrade our educational system from the government down to our very own teachers. We, Filipinos see more opportunities abroad and sometimes we forgot to love and promote our country, but these are not only the reasons why we.

  94. -Couples often resort to long distance relationships because it is worth it. Distance does not matter if you really love the person, what matters most is your honesty and trust for that relationship to work.

    -I dont have any experience but for me long distance last because distance is temporary but love is permanent.

    MAGBANUA, Neil Anthony A.
    Den-183

  95. Since it’s the word surviving, loving in a long distance way is not that actually hard when you know that you are both trusting each other. Long distance relationship needs a lot of patience and trust. It is also a fact that, one should not be bothered with some things without his partner. Yes, I experienced long distance relationship before and I do admit that it was hard but the way to do it in an easier way is to make sure that you are both communicating well. Don’t make your partner feel anxious about you or in any thing that you do because it will just lead the both of you in to a painful separation. What matters is you are both doing well whether you do don’t see each other every day, and time will come that in a day you are both seeing each other with no screen attached, that’s the power of trust and patience. Adjusting in a long distance relationship is indeed a hard way to cope up but it is never too impossible to make it real when you both have faith with each other, and it is never impossible to make both of your dreams come true in the future. About the migration, we know that Philippines is the third world and we tend to think that american culture is more efficient than living here in the Philippines. Of course, some people also think that migrating is the solution to improve or enhance their way of living. But yes, some people also migrate there because they miss their families or loved ones who live abroad.

    So in order to survive long distance relationship, I suggest that we should keep on communicating with them, update and have faith with each other. And that no matter what kind of ways of affection for each other that you are both feeling, still, remember that you will both cut the screen off and see face to face as long as there is trust, patience and faith, and also acceptance for better chance of surviving.

    CATALAN, MARY ANDREA C.
    DEN183

  96. Couples do often resort to long distance relationship simply because when you fell in love with someone you just cant rub the feeling off, so basically their mindset is that they don’t care about the distance, it doesn’t really matter to them. So here’s a poem just to expand my answer,

    He says
    I am sorry I am not an easy person to want
    Who said I wanted easy
    I don’t crave easy
    I crave goddamn difficult

    -Rupi Kaur (Milk and Honey)

    So I just wanted to share my favorite book to read whenever I am bored, Milk and Honey by Rupi Kaur it’s a collection of poetry and prose and there are four parts in the book, The hurting, The loving, The breaking and The healing so basically it is about survival. My point here, it is indeed that pain and love coexist together, one cannot live without another. Long distance Relationship is like to love and feel the heaven when you are with him, but it hurts like hell when he or she left.

    Yes I had experienced LDR when I was in third year college, and also my parents since my mom left us when I was only 6 or 7 years old, not sure. She needed to go abroad to provide our needs especially my financial need for school. My family is not perfect, I’ll admit that there are lot of quarrel happened between my parents that time, and the rest is history. That’s also the start of me, having trust issues. So now let me share my story, yes I was in a relationship four years ago, I live in Nova, Quezon city and he live in Ermita, Manila but when we were in third year highschool he needed to transfer at my school in Quezon city because of his problem with his family, I helped him with that I became his superwoman, lol so that problem is resolved so there’s no reason for him to stay, but before he go back to manila and continue his last year of junior highschool there I really insists and want to break up with him because I’ve seen how distance can break a relationship, having trust issues is not easy. I consider this as LDR because that time it’s not easy for us to travel to each other places just to be with each other, we tried to save our relationship but in the end we just become a memory of each other because I can’t tolerate liars and cheaters. That relationship taught me a lot of things, it’s really hard if your partner is far away from you. I think video calls, sms, phone calls, messenger is not enough to really be connected with your partner and express your love, presence and affection is needed unless if the couples really follow the pointers in this article, that can last the relationship but I doubt it, just like what she said, two out of ten survived with this kind of relationship, I also concur with what the author said that this type of relationship is not flowers and butterflies, it is going to be a war and unsure of winning after all, to love is to sacrifice giving all you have without thinking about yourself. It is also to love is to suffer, and suffer is to live without the person you love.

    Migration rate of Filipinos are bigger as compared to western countries because of employment opportunities and and maybe also because some consider the safety of the place/environment or community. Globalization take a role here because it affects our country. Back to our main topic, people move out of country and migrate another country in order to have a better life. Taking the risk and sacrifice leaving their family that results LDR. I’m gonna share something, someone said that we Filipinos are really emotionally attached to our partners we are more into intimate relationship we demand the affection and presence to feel loved and special that’s why most of us don’t settle for a long distance relationship, we need to be with our loved ones compare to western culture in terms of relationship, that assurance and security like if you tell them you love them and give what they want, that is enough for them.

  97. Mangaring Angelica
    Mangaring Angelica

    Every relationship requires hard work, but a long distance relationship suffers problems that you might not have to face in a regular relationship. At first, it’s hard to commit in long distance relationship because everything is different. In my past relationship I experienced long distance relationship. Our relationship is stable when we we’re with each other but when we we’re apart struggle is real. Communication and trust is the key to long distance relationship and I believe in that. Eventually, we broke up because we fought several times and we cannot fix it and because of his study he said. And I just can’t accept his reason to end our relationship. However, I’ll give tips on how to avoid ending your relationship.

    1.Miscommunication, how to fix this: Ask questions, stay calm and breathe. 3 things to keep in mind when you read a response that you don’t understand. If he/she says something that could be either a joke or a serious comment, then just ask, “sorry babe, what did you mean by that?” It’s the most effective and simple way to communicate without misinterpreting. TIP: respond, don’t react. The more your relationship develop and the more time you spend “together” the more you will understand your partner’s communications style. Are they sarcastic 90% of the time? Are they sensitive? The more you learn, the more you will know what to take lightly and what to take seriously. In terms of language barriers, have patience! Explain that what they said is interpreted like this, then they will know what to say and avoid in the future.

    2.Putting Your Life on Hold, Don’t fixate on your video call or spend every free minute talking on the phone. Organize your time so that you can speak to your partner but also, have a life. Spending time with friends and family is an important part to keeping you sane and also distracting you from the person you miss so much.Do things that make you feel happy, smart and fit. Also, it is okay to do things alone. You can still get out in the fresh air, read and participate in activities. It is important to invest as much love in yourself as you do in your partner.

    3.Growing apart, The most serious problem in an LDR. While you spend that time apart from each other you are both experiencing new things as individuals. Before the drifting even happens, discuss beforehand what you should do if one or both of you start to feel that you are drifting apart. Here are some tips on preventing this from happening. Have a light at the end of the tunnel. Meaning, have a goal that you are both working towards that will eventually stop the distance. No one wants to be in a distance relationship forever. In the meantime, regular visits in both directions. Work hard on keeping good, regular communication where you can continue to learn and grow together even while apart. Dream and aspire together.

    4. Too Busy to Talk, On the flip side of the problem of talking too much, there is also the serious problem of being too busy or too tired to talk. If you are too busy to video call every day then agree of “Video call” at least once a week so that you can dedicate sufficient time to talk about more things that just how your day was! If you normally talk every day, then maybe cut back a little bit until you have recharged your batteries. Communicate with your partner that you need to catch up on sleep or have some busy days coming up and you can focus on a good talk in a couple days’ time.

    5.Jealousy, Control your jealousy before it starts to control you. Find out what is triggering this emotion and why you feel this way. There are ways that you and your partner can manage jealousy. Being honest and open about things is the most obvious way. Look at my overcoming jealous blog for more information.

    6.Possessiveness, If you notice you are looking possessive or if your partner has said it to you, then have a little talk to yourself and figure out why you are feeling and acting this way. This might be a hard thing to do initially, so before you understand why you are like this, then the first thing you can do is act less controlling. Is your partner leaving in you in the dark every single time he/she leaves the house? Are they never around when you want to talk to them? Check with your partner if they are being accessible and reasonable to you, then work on something together that is making you feel so possessive. They might not even realize that they are not helping the situation by letting you know little details. If you partner is smothering you, tell them. Don’t make it worse by ignoring them, just let them know gently and work on making them less anxious. Explain that you do not like the way they act possessive and how you would prefer to interact together.

    Also, I think Filipinos migrates in Western countries for very obvious reasons, those Filipinos who choose to migrate are faced with a certain degree of reality that nothing is good that’ll come out of their current situation, either they are employed or unemployed. For the better part, Filipinos migrated because their loved ones are permanent residents of their hosts countries.

  98. I assumed that one of the reason why most people resort to Long Distance Relationship is that, they trust their partner that this kind of relationship will work even though there are lots of disadvantage on it. Actually, with the right thinking, the right tips and the right expectations, you can have a long- term relationship that grows stronger and stronger over time.
    I have not yet experience Long Distance Relationship, but in some point in the future I would take the risks of having Long Distance Relationship. Trust and Faith, are the reason that I will resort of Long Distance Relationship. Trusting your partner is one of the hardest thing because of the past relationships, But if you love enough your partner trust them. Having faith in your relationship, and believing that you will help each other deal with whatever life takes you, is a great way of making your love life better.
    I expected why many filipinos migrated to other countries compared to western countries, Is that philippines is a third world country and the Salary of most people are not enough to sustain their daily needs. For western countries, I guessed the reason they migrate to other country is that they want to achieve their dreams and be successful.
    Good relationships are difficult. You must realize that not every day or interaction will be good. You must also tolerate the fact that neither you nor your partner are perfect, so that you give each other a place to be yourself.

  99. I assumed that why most people resort in Long Distance Relationship , because they trust their partner that this kind of relationship will work despite of disadvantages of it. For many people, long- term relationships are intimidating. Without the fundamental physical side of a relationship- no cuddles, hugs and kisses, or winks. many couples are uncertain whether they can stick together while distant. However, with dedication looking for alternative techniques, a true romance can survive regardless of how many miles the couple can separate.
    I have not yet experienced long distance relationship but if some cirumstances in the future I will definitely take the risks of long distance relationship. I have trust and faith in our relationship, since we overcome every problems that we had. Having faith in your relationship and trusting that you help one another deal with whatever life give you, is a great way to improve your love life.
    Most filipino migrate to other countries because of the lack of salary, it is not enough to sustain their daily needs. These reasons why Long distance relationship occurs especially on family. Compared to western countries, I guessed they migrate to other countries not because of the lack of salary, it is their dream and wanted to become a succesful person.
    Good relationships are difficult. You must realize that not every day or interaction will be good. You must also tolerate the fact that neither you nor your partner are perfect, so that you give each other a place to be human.

  100. I didn’t encounter this sort of relationship yet I think it is really hard, it is much the same as when your folks are going to abroad.

    It is hard for us not to see them, their essence that is a propensity for us to see. We don’t comprehend what they do regular in their area despite the fact that we speak with them utilizing internet based life.

    Long distance relationships are challenging. Much of the joy that we find in our relationships comes from the activities we can do together in person.Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it.

  101. Some couples resorting to LDR is sometimes because of one having to work abroad for their future. Having a LDR is very hard because it tests their faith, patience, and trust with one another. Migration rate is bigger in the Philippines compared to western countries because job opportunities are much better abroad compared to our own country.

  102. Nobody wants to be away with their loved ones, that’s why even though it is hard being in a LDR, they take it as their last option to be with their partner. They see it as a way that even when they are away with each other, they are still connected and they can still let their partner feel their love for them.

    I can say that I experience LDR, not with a partner but with my father. As he is currently working abroad, our only communication is through internet. I admit that it’s hard not being able to see him close but we don’t have any other choice because he’s there for us.

    I have some acquaintances that migrated to Canada from here in the Philippines. And they all have something in common, they want a brighter and more secure life.
    I think Filipinos migration rate is bigger than Western countries is because of lack of opportunities, such as job, Filipinos are struggling finding a decent job with a nice salary. While in abroad, they can work and get paid with a high salary. Migration of Filipinos also happen when an OFW become a citizen of the country where she/he works and he/she will get his family because clearly, he wants a more peaceful and nice life for them that our country can’t provide right now.

    Hannah Jezyl Diaz
    Den 183

  103. for me, it is very hard to survive a long distance relationship since it is very important for us to receive a physical/personal affection from our significant other, family, friends etc. I believe that on our generation nowadays many of us can’t survive to be in a long distance relationship since they’ve been longing for each other, for me personally i don’t have experiences that involves long distance relationship but i do have a friend who experience it and i know that it is very hard to have a love ones shows there love and affection virtually by the help of the technologies nowadays. There are a lot of Filipinos who are currently experiencing this kind of problems since they chose to work abroad for them to have a brighter future on the other hand they sacrifice their sadness and happiness to be with their love ones. They become emotionally detached because of longing and sadness yet some people were able to survive it and some people don’t. But for us Filipinos majority of us survive because we all have faith and trust with each other.

  104. Yna Rose Ignacio Alberto
    Yna Rose Ignacio Alberto

    1. Couples often resort to Long distance relationship because they dont have any choice but to be in a ldr. Various resons why they in a ldr because of studies and sometimes because of work. Some instances of a ldr is that when a couple meet at a dating app and they are far away from each other.
    2. I haven’t experienced ldr, I think it depends on a situation because If my boyfriend need to go to a far place and if it is important then I don’t have a choice.
    3. Many Filipinos migrate because of work in other countries, more income, more money for their family. Sometimes they migrate because they want to study abroad and some will marry a foreigner.

    This article is very helpful for those couples who are in a long distance relationship and I think this can be helpful for me too in the future.

  105. Long distance relationship is hard work, but anything in life that is good does not come easy. It requires investment of time and attention, Succeeding in it demands a keen sense of assurance and security and the reason some people resort to this kind of set up is because circumstances told them to do so.

    Personally, I have never experience LDR and if ever I’ve been in a situation like this since LDR can sometimes be inevitable, making a stand and showing courage is the first thing that I would do. The courage to believe that in time everything will fall into places combined with love, patience, understanding and most importantly trust. And whether you feel like acknowledging it or not, distance has a definite impact on the dynamics of a relationship. With the right kind of attitude and how things are handled it can work for love will thrive beyond the doubts.

    The rapid migration of the Filipinos is not only to find work but to have a totally different life from the one they have in the Philippines. Filipinos who take the risk and leave the country have made a personal decision to change their life in the hopes of having a better future. The most conventional reason is that more jobs await them with better wages which our country cannot afford to due to economical problems that it’s facing. Unlike western countries who don’t need to earn much to be able to survive.

  106. They say that “Long Distance Relationship” is a very hard kind of relationship you will ever encounter because you will sacrifice everything you have in the relationship. When you are in a “matured relationship” you need to understand and fulfill those things that will help to strengthen the relationship. The love you feel, the affection you need to have, the trust and time you will invest and the like. As I grew up I realized that you need to be optimistic in the relationship, you should be the one to support your partner whatever she or he wants to do in her or his life. Also, always appreciate those little things she or he had done for you to make you smile. Most importantly, I think that the three major factors that will help to conquer that kind of relationship are the a) continues of communication. No matter how busy you are, you will always find ways just to talk to your special someone. Just like the Filipino quote saying, “Kung may ayaw may dahilan, kung gusto maraming paraan.” It sounds annoying when someone defends himself or herself that he or she has no time to talk to his or her partner, because I believe that you will do anything for your loved one. b) Trust. The trust is also important because aside you are not being a nagger partner you also helps him or her to boost his or her self-esteem and making him or her realize that honesty is the best policy. You will surpass all the problems if you are honest with your partner or loved ones. c) Effort. The effort makes the relationship be still in flame. Effort is better than material things that can give by your partner. Nowadays, couples choose to have so-called “quality time” than giving material things to each other.

    I think why Filipino relationships have a higher rate of migration than the Western relationships is that Filipinos want to have a better life and always want to reach their goal even if they need to sacrifice their relationships.

  107. Camille Evangelista
    Camille Evangelista

    Couples often resort to long distance because they have no choice. Everyone want to be with someone but if the distance is the hindrance they have no choice to think that this relationship will work as long as LOVE is there. Love will always the reason and answer to the problems of their relationship. No matter how far the distance as long as this man/woman feels you that your important you can wait for the right time. Right time to see each other without limitations.Couples in a successful LDR are more in touch with each other, emotionally and mentally, than those who don’t have to do the long distance thing, because the physical distance sort of forces them to communicate more. But, no matter how you slice it, being in a long-distance relationship presents a whole new set of challenges.
    I haven’t been in a LDR but for me, I will never resort to this kind of relationship. Why? Because when you are in a long distance relationship, you might find yourself in a situation where you will force feelings that might not be real. It sometimes becomes disastrous because you do not know what is happening to your partner’s life. Another problem comes when he/she is expecting something from you and for some reason you failed to stand up to his or her expectation. And lastly, the most common reasons for a fight in- between couple is lack of trust like for instance your partner’s having picture with someone this may lead to most LDR couples break-up. It may take a challenge for thwm but it may also lead to many relationships break up.
    I think the migration rate of Filipinos are bigger compared to western countries just because there are lot of Overseas Filipino Workers (OFW) who are working in other countries because of the salary they were receiving. The salaries are bigger than the salaries in yhe Philippines. That’s why Filipinos are sacrificing to go to other countries for the sake of their love ones to live.

  108. Long distance relationship is really a challenge. Given the fact that a couple must have their trust to their partners. In a everyday living, you aren’t able to see, kiss and hug your partner. When you’re sad, you just need his/her presence but she/he’s not there. But for a mature couple, they’ll understand why this is happening for them. They have to sacrifice.

    Many couples have to sacrifice their relationship in order for them to achieved their goals in life. It is very difficult for them to break their lovers heart or gave up their dream. But it is a blessing to have an opportunity abroad. Not all have the path to go there and work. Maybe that’s one of the reasons why people choose to have a long distance relationship. They are torn between career or their love. In my side, I never experienced this kind of relationship. Maybe in some cases of my friends, some result to a break up. Some continue what they’ve started and they always tell me that the secret is trust—pure trust.

  109. Prior to the different places they’re into. Maybe the reason why couples often resort into long distance relationship because they wanted to prove that no matter how far they are with each other their love is real. And also to establish trust and a great bond to each other and prove that distances can never become a barrier to separate the two souls who really aspire to meet.

    Personally, I haven’t experienced long distance relationship. And if ever I would resort into that kind of relationship? Yes, but I also think that it will depend on us couple. Through LDR, we can test our love for each other and maybe prove that nothing can hinder two people that are destined for each other.

    There are many reasons why many Filipinos want or need to work abroad. Some of these reasons are personal, others are financial, and etc. Maybe, migration rate in the Philippines is higher than other western countries is due to the unstable economic condition and high unemployment rate here in the Philippines and also the higher salary income abroad.

  110. Long distance relationships are demanding, because it requires a lot of effort, time, faithfulness, understanding and trust in order to work. Effort, because being distant to your significant other is difficult you need to exert an effort to assure that you won’t leave them. Lack of effort might cause misunderstanding and could lead to break up. Time, when you’re in a long distance relationship making time for your loved ones is important, telling them how your day went makes them feel more valuable and special. Faithfulness, being far to your partner is not easy, you should be faitful to prevent any presumption and doubts. Understanding, for me this is the most challenging part in ldr, you need to understand everything, you need to accept the fact that your partner is not always available for you even if he/she wants to, you need to widen your understanding about you and your partner’s situation. And lastly trust, this one will tested your love and loyalty. If you really love someone you should be willing to give your trust no matter how hard the situation is.

    Given the fact that long distance is a challenge, I think why do couples often resort to this kind of relationship is because they want to conquer all the trials in their relationship. It’s a battle that worth fighting for, you need to be strong and nourish the foundation of your relationship which is love and trust. Keep holding one another, because everything is just temporary. In my personal life, I haven’t experienced being involved in long distance relationship, but if time comes and I would be involve in this kind of relationship I would also choose to resort, because being faraway to your partner is nothing as long as you have the assurance on each other.

    I think why the migration rate of Filipinos are bigger as compared to western countries, is because of opportunities around the world. They choose to be distant to their loved ones just to earn enough living. It is the saddest part in our country we offer a lot of jobs, but it’s not enough to sustain the needs of every Filipinos that’s why they take risk in other places in order to supply their necessities and demands. On the other hand, other countries offer high salaries and stable jobs compared to our country.

  111. Long Distance Relationship can gave you bliss and if you want to try LDR you need to trust your partner because if you don’t have enogh trust it can cause your relationship into breaking up, and if you want to have an LDR be sure that you have a communication beacuse it’s the only way to have interaction to your love ones and don’t rush things that can cause conflict to your relationship to the both of you and the no. 1 rule being in a Long Distance Realationship is you need to be faithful so that your partner will trust you and love you even more

  112. Couples often resort to long distance relationship because of their chosen job. One of them needs to go overseas or abroad to support their living.

    I haven’t experience LDR yet, I don’t know if I can go with that set up because I’m such a clingy person and it feels hard to have a partner far away from me. But if we don’t have a choice, well maybe I can but it takes a lot of adjustment. I know that its not so easy at all. Every first time is thrilling and exciting, but as time goes by, you’ll feel sad, homesick, then happy again, then sad. Its a rollercoaster ride of feelings! One day you will miss him and you can do nothing about it so you’ll just wait for his text or call. One day you’re overflowing with happiness because finally you were able to see him via video call. I must say communication and consistency are they key for surviving long term relationship. As well as trust and being strong.

    We, Filipinos are very fond of migrating. We think that going abroad will resolve all our financial issues here. Our economy is far different from western countries. A 15k pesos monthly salary of a father for a family of five is not enough compared to 3,000US Dollars monthly salary if you worked abroad. I guess thats why they chose to migrate, for the future of their family.

  113. Long distance relationship is a molding pace for the couple experiencing that kind of struggle. Communication is important, is the key to strengthen the relationship because evryone needs a validation in their couple, we need to feel how important to us to them and vice versa. I don’t have experience about long distance relationship, I think I can resort to this kind of relationship because that is not a hindrance if both of you love each other, yes, many possibilities may occur but it depends on the couple how they handle the problem. I think our migration rate is bigger than the western countries because of the equivalent of our money compare to the western countries, that’s why we migrate to another country especially in western countries because if we convert their money in the philippines the worth of it is triple.

  114. Helena Tolentino
    Helena Tolentino

    A lot of couples end up with a long distance relationship for many various reasons. First is probably work reasons. People have to move places because they need to work in different places. Some are immigrating for family reasons and a lot more. I know that this kind of relationship set up is really hard to surpass but if the two of you have the same mindset of going beyond these challenges despite of million miles away then, walking on the same path with the same person is not hard to do. No matter how far a person you love would go, until you hold your dreams with him then thats what is being measured.

    As for me, i have not experienced this kind of situation. If this kind of scenario ever happen to me i would be able to surpass the loneliness that i would feel being away from the person that i adore most. Because its just that we are far apart but distance means so little if you means so much to me. I can guarantee you my faith, loyalty and also i can endure all the pain and heartaches for being away from you.

    I would advice to those people who experience long distance relationship is to be patient, trusting and trustworthy at the same time. Because with all of these aspects, you would be able to maintain a long lasting relationship that each and everyone of us deserve.

    TOLENTINO DEN183

  115. Mente, CJ C.
    PSY184

    SURVIVING LDR
    Every one of us is made and nurture in Love. A thing that molds us to be a whole persona, according to Merriam-Webster that love is a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person. : Attraction that includes sexual desire: the strong affection felt by people who have a romantic relationship. : A person you love in a romantic way.

    1. Why do couples often resort to long distance relationship?
    Lovers receives some challenges to make their relationships grow and stay even they are in a long distance relationship a.k.a LDR. LDR is a romantic relationship between two people who live far apart and so are unable to meet on a frequent basis according to internet. With this, some partners often resort to this kind of setup.
    There some reasons why they resort to LDR but let me share my possible reasons, maybe because of the:
    Passion/Career:
    They came to the point of making their relationship a part of the place because of the dream they want to be. Even it is hard to have an LDR with this reason, they have to do it because of their passion and maybe for the future.
    Online dating app:
    This one is a trending and millennial reason why couples resort to this relationship. A person who you met on online dating app is one common factor these days. For example, a relationship of different races lives in a different places/country and they meet online only.
    State:
    Some relationship is like a teleserye, one is rich and the other one is poor that’s why their parent won’t let their relationship to continue. And their love stories come up to LDR because they must not meet and reveal their relationship because of the fear of some reasons (send the rich one to other for them to keep apart or ones’ is in danger)
    2. Have you ever experienced LDR? First-hand or as told? If yes, how did you feel about it? If no, do you think you would ever resort to this kind of relationship?
    No, I have not experienced LDR because I’m proud to say that I’m NGSB (No girlfriend since birth) “walang nilandi” that’s why I conducted a simple survey to my friends regarding to this question and gladly they all answered it with shock, mad and sad feelings that make the concept of “Not contented and not very easy as they expect but they keep a strong relationship to each other”. Fortunately, according to them their relationships are stayed strong and firm because of their optimistic view to their partner. One of them says, “If you wanted to keep your partner in life and to be your life stop acting like praning just be positive and trust to your love”
    3. LDR is usually a result of one party’s migration, why do you think the migration rates of Filipinos are bigger as compared to Western countries?
    As what I have mentioned earlier, one the reason why do couples resort to LDR it is because of their passion/career that they wanted to reached for their future or family. Migration is one of best solution to do their desired life maybe because they wanted to solve the financial crisis of their family despite of having LDR to their love ones.
    Let’s not pretend that we don’t know the reasons why Filipinos are more likely to migrate to another country compared to Western countries; let’s stop acting like a hypocrite people, we all know that the value of current in other country especially in Western are more higher than in Philippines and of course it’s because Filipinos are so practical when it comes to financial needs. Look, why do western people migrate here to have a job despite of Filipinos haven’t opportunities to get a job here because of lacking of jobs, educational attainment, social status and gender? What I am trying to point is Western country most likely to migrate because of business partnership, travel trip around other country or speculative view of having lovers here.
    In addition, even I have not experienced to have LDR but I believe, having an LDR was not a great obstacle to do your part as a partner, all you need to do is to have everyone’s trust and understanding to make your relationship successful.

    References:
    https://www.google.com/search?source=hp&ei=s-brW_eODNDT-QaZoIbYDQ&q=love&oq=love&gs_l=psy-ab.3…3882.4085.0.5145.6.3.0.0.0.0.0.0..0.0….0…1c.1.64.psy-ab..6.0.0.0…0.TVgE-9Zwu5k
    https://www.google.com/search?ei=nejrW4jcCI7mwQONuaqYAQ&q=long+distance+relationship+meaning&oq=long+distance+relationship+mea&gs_l=psy-ab.1.0.0l5j0i22i30k1l5.4907.9585.0.11902.4.4.0.0.0.0.312.616.3-2.2.0….0…1c.1.64.psy-ab..2.2.613…0i67k1.0.aPrmwnOYFbw

  116. Kimberly Anne Balajadia
    Kimberly Anne Balajadia

    Long Distance Relationship is probably one of the most difficult relationship that a person could ever have. There are a lot of reasons why people experience this kind of relationship is possibly work reasons, their hometown are far away from each other, etc.

    Being in this kind of relationship needs to have a lot of patience and communication, sacrifice, trust, and faithfulness. People often resort to break ups because let’s face it, we need physical intimacy for us to be able to feel that we are loved and secured that they can never easily replace us. But sometimes i cannot help but to wonder what if he’s cheating on me while we are together or he is seeing someone because of our set up and would latter result to break up, and this would be the start of my misery. It’s hard for me being in this kind of situation because i cannot help myself but to overthink things when i shouldn’t and ended up being angry at him when he isn’t doing anything. It’s not like i don’t trust him but there’s something in me that i cannot pinpoint that drives me crazy. I cannot imagine myself being in this situation before but now here i am might as well accept after all its my decision.

    I can feel now LDR couples who are enduring the hardship of being together apart because they are working abroad. Here in the Philippines, we lack of job opportunity that’s why Filipino citizen choose to work abroad because of the big opportunity and big salary. Once they decided to work abroad and enter the world of adulting, they have now bigger and different priorities that causes to miscommunicate and misunderstood each other.  That’s why being in a LDR is one of the factors that couples tend to break up because of miscommunication and they are lacking on it ended up drowning in their own misery. There are a lot of reasons why they miscommunicate but for now, i’m so thankful because every time he feels that i’m in a deep misery because of my own fault he would calm me down and would give assurance that we can overcome together our situation. 

  117. What helps to keep the distance, I think it is first the honesty of the relationship and the mutual trust. I know, it’s speech but it’s true. We must be sure that his couple is worth all these sacrifices and not be too jealous. I would like to add that I think it is important to take your time and think carefully about this type of decision. Even if we want to speed things up because the distance is hard to manage, I think we have to move forward when we are ready. I did’nt experience this kind of relationship because it is very hard, i dont want this kind of relationship. hilippines is largely a country of emigration, it also attracts some foreigners to its shores. Traditionally, the foreign population in the Philippines consists of people of Chinese origin (some 80 percent of overseas Chinese are in Southeast Asia) and some people of Indian origin who came to settle in the country years ago.

  118. John Paul Atienza
    John Paul Atienza

    “If you want to live forever, you first need to learn how to live apart.”
    Long-distance relationships are those where couples expect to continue an intact relationship, but communication opportunities are restricted because of the geographic distance between them. Career demands and Financial instability are the primary reasons of couple resorting to long distance relationship. Work also may force partners to live apart. In some case I know, Long distance relationship has resulted to break-ups and misunderstandings. Especially when that person slowly become part of your routine, slowly learning their nature, habits, smell, likes and dislikes, anything.
    A lot of people saying that distance doesn’t matter but for me, it matters a lot. Long distance relationship is hard and that is an established fact. It works differently than normal romance we see. I can’t see myself having a long-distance relationship, but if I must deal with it, I’d rather close the proximity, make everything connected with trust as the foundation.
    We can find Filipino people almost everywhere. We can find them across the globe. Filipino migrates because they want more money and opportunity that Philippines can’t sustain and has a very limited number. Philippine is a very corrupt country and unequal wealth distribution among the Filipinos make them migrate in order to find a better life abroad. Unlike western countries, they are at least supported by the government. In everything, there is a connection. Poverty results to migration. Migration results to long-distance relationship and it might result to unconnected hearts.
    Long distance relationship is not an easy task. It takes trust and patience. Things might get complicated but if both are willing to sacrifice for the betterment, I don’t think there will be a problem.

  119. Renee Abigail Besarra
    Renee Abigail Besarra

    I guess some couple really dont want to resort being in a Long distance relationship. Maybe it’s the only thing they have to do. Maybe because chances are, they are better when they are apart. I mean, they are free to be with other people to have fun with, interact, and socialize. You don’t have to cling with your partner all the time. Its not sophocating. Its balance. Whenever you got the chance to see each other, you appreciate it more, plus you are good at planning where the both of you will go.
    For me, I have never been in a long distance relationship and I guess I will never be. As a partner, Iam needy and clingy, most special physically. Being far from your partner is really sad and frustrating.. You are not sure if the distance between the two of you will strengthen your love for each other or it will tore both of you and will make you feel sad. And Im not really good at dealing with that kind of feeling. I will never survive in a long distance relationship with the type of my attitude. I may cause some fights and we may just hurt each other if ever. LDR are for those people who are strong enough to trust their partner even if they don’t see each ther casually, for those people who are brave enough to take the risk of being hurt because of loneliness you feel because you missed each other. And for those people who really trust teir partners that cheating is not in there vocabulary.
    There are many Filipinos who are working abroad to feed their family. To give them a comfortable life, a home, and to provide there needs and wants. Being away from there family is one of their way to provide there needs. They work hard and don’t mind the distance just to give them what they want. Filipinos are naturally hard worker. They always find a way to feed their families, not matter how far the distance. That’s unconditional love. They don’t mind being away for as long as their family eats 3x a day, have a comfortable life, a nice shelter, a home and they can buy the needs and wants. They settle for it because it’s the best way to have a good life.

  120. Renee Abigail Besarra
    Renee Abigail Besarra

    I guess some couple really dont want to resort being in a Long distance relationship. Maybe it’s the only thing they have to do. Maybe because chances are, they are better when they are apart. I mean, they are free to be with other people to have fun with, interact, and socialize. You don’t have to cling with your partner all the time. Its not sophocating. Its balance. Whenever you got the chance to see each other, you appreciate it more, plus you are good at planning where the both of you will go.

    For me, I have never been in a long distance relationship and I guess I will never be. As a partner, Iam needy and clingy, most special physically. Being far from your partner is really sad and frustrating.. You are not sure if the distance between the two of you will strengthen your love for each other or it will tore both of you and will make you feel sad. And Im not really good at dealing with that kind of feeling. I will never survive in a long distance relationship with the type of my attitude. I may cause some fights and we may just hurt each other if ever. LDR are for those people who are strong enough to trust their partner even if they don’t see each ther casually, for those people who are brave enough to take the risk of being hurt because of loneliness you feel because you missed each other. And for those people who really trust teir partners that cheating is not in there vocabulary.

    There are many Filipinos who are working abroad to feed their family. To give them a comfortable life, a home, and to provide there needs and wants. Being away from there family is one of their way to provide there needs. They work hard and don’t mind the distance just to give them what they want. Filipinos are naturally hard worker. They always find a way to feed their families, not matter how far the distance. That’s unconditional love. They don’t mind being away for as long as their family eats 3x a day, have a comfortable life, a nice shelter, a home and they can buy the needs and wants. They settle for it because it’s the best way to have a good life.

  121. Long distance relationship mostly happens when one of the couples work or study abroad and live far away from each other. I haven’t experienced having a long distance relationship. If ever there would be a chance of experiencing it, I will do it because for me, it is a choice. Choosing to love him/her despite being separated by seas. Yes, it would be difficult since time and trust with each other is at risk but true love conquers all. I believe that communication is the key to strengthen relationships. Due to having modern technologies now, connecting with our loved ones abroad made easy. Trust is also important part of a healthy relationship and it means you think they are reliable, you have confidence in them and you feel safe with them.

    The migration rate of Filipinos are bigger because of the economical problems we face here in our country. Western countries have many opportunities to offer with much higher salary compared here in our country that is why  OFWs rather work abroad and endure the pain of leaving their loved ones here just to provide the needs and wants of their families.

  122. Long distance relationship mostly happens when one of the couples work or study abroad and live far away from each other. I haven’t experienced having a long distance relationship. If ever there would be a chance of experiencing it, I will gladly accept it. For me, having a long distance relationship is a choice. Choosing to love and understand him/her despite being separated by seas. Yes, ot wpuld be difficult since time and trust with each other is at risk but true love conquers all. If your love is true, it will be worth fighting for and distance will never be a problem. As long as there is love, trust and communication then I guess it will work out just fine.

    The migration rate of Filipinos are bigger compared to other countries because of the economical problems we face here in our country. Western countries have more opportunities to offer with much higher salary compared here in our country that is why OFWs rather work abroad and endure the pain of leaving their loved ones just to provide the needs and wants of their families.

  123. Long distance relationship is an intimate relationship between partners who are separated geographically. It mostly happen when one of the couples work or study abroad and live far away from each other. Long distance relationship is a test in a relationship because it trains you not to depend more on your partner instead, it allows you to grow as an individual, be more mature and accept that not all the time your partner will be by your side.

    I haven’t experienced having a long distance relationship and for me, no one really wants to have a relationship like that but if ever there would be a chance of experiencing it, I will do it. For me, having a long distance relationship is a choice. Choosing to love and understand him/her despite being separated by seas. Yes, I am afraid to take risks about having a long distance relationship because according to people who have experienced having a long distance relationship, it was difficult that it did not work out. But if you really love that person then why not give it a try? I guess you’ll lose nothing in trying. Love is trial and error and It is like a garment a person will try to find out which one will fit him/her. If you really love him/her you will understand his/her situation and accept the fact that he needs to go somewhere else not only for his/her future but also for the future of the both of you. Yes, long distance relationship is difficult since time and trust with each other is at risk but true love conquers all. If your love is true, it will be worth fighting for against all odds and distance will never be a problem. I believe that communication is the key to strengthen long distance relationships. Due to having modern technologies now, connecting with our loved ones abroad made easy. If we cannot communicate with our partner,  how can we cultivate a sense of closeness and love? Trust is also important part of a healthy relationship. Trusting someone means you think they are reliable, you have confidence in them and you feel safe with them.

    I think the migration rate of Filipinos are bigger because of the economical problems we face here in our country. Western countries have many opportunities to offer with much higher salary compared here in our country that is why  OFWs rather work abroad and endure the pain of leaving their loved ones here just to provide the needs and wants of their families.

  124. Long distance relationship is an relationship that requires a lot of trust, honesty, and communication. Couples often resort to long distance relationship most commonly because of their careers and goals in life that can’t be done in the same area where their partner is. It usually comes up to partners that is opportunity takers. They are aware of the risk of entering a long distance relationship, but they tend to do so by looking forward of a great future that might come. For some, they resort to this kind if relationship because of their traditional differences and authorities.

    I haven’t experienced long distance relationship yet and i don’t even want to have this kind of relationship because affinity shouldn’t have an negative effect ones career or goals, it should be one of the key to attain the said factors. And also, I want my partner to be nearby for she may become my stress reliever and might help and cheer me up in my struggles.

    The reason why migration is one of the major result of long distance relationship is because of high income that they could get in other countries, our country has unstable economic state, and it is also an opportunity for them to travel abroad. When locals apply for a job in our country they experience discrimination, it’s one of the reasons why our country is high in unemployment rate.

  125. Carl Ivan Tiosing
    Carl Ivan Tiosing

    At the first place,, once we putted ourselves into a relationship we must know that “relationship is the way of getting be ready to a marriage” but when we are committed to our partner, the most important thing is RESPECT, TRUST and LOYALTY we can easily read those 3 words but we must know what are the deep meaning of it, they can co-relate in each other, they has a differ on each other. But the only thing may i highly suggest to the partners who are in LDR scenarios, Love them like how you treat yourself, and how do you want to love them you back

  126. Many couples have passed through this kind of relationship, tho it is risky because sometimes it may lead to a not so good result for them as a couple and sometimes the harder it is it will make the relationship stronger. I have never been in a long distance relationship and i think I cannot last on this because for me it is not healthy especially if we both haven’t yet founded a strong and deep trust to each other, it will never have a good result but i also believe that if we really love each other no matter what happened, no matter how far are we to each other the, relationship will go on, but again it is hard for me if ever i experience this. One of the reasons why people here in the Philippines were experiencing the Long distance relationship is because the migration rate of the Filipinos is because of their belief that there’s a lot of opportunities in the other country than here in the Philippines.

  127. I kinda experiencing this LDR relationship. I just want to say that when you want to survive this long distance relationship, you must to communicate regularly and creative like goodmorning text and goodnight text and send each other pictures send audios videos time to time. And lastly, avoid dangerous situation that might not you want each other like going to the club. Etc

    -vincent jonson

  128. Niño Gapuz

    Because first and foremost, life requires us to choose freely out of our circumstances and necessities. It doesn’t mean that the other person chooses to be away from the other for any reason. It means that both consented to take up the challenge and grow apart but not necessarily mean that their hearts would be too. Life is synonymous to a plant as we sow seeds, we also cultivate its harvests, but does it mean that the soil is only fertile in that yard? It is not the case. Same with our lives, we explore things outside of our comfort only to see whether it would be good or just a lesson for us to learn. Couples as separate seeds blossoms as they harvest the bounty of their own growth, but they will always remember the reason why they have sacrificed so much and to whom they owe these strong feelings from. It rooted from the trust that is as hard as a rock, dreams that are as fluid as the water that nourishes them and the scorching rays of love that warms their souls.
    I Did experience LDR, I’m currently in a relationship and it’s LDR. First week that we are apart from each other was the worst but then our current situation makes us better, we understand each other more than ever, we fight our problems together, and we value time more than ever especially when we are together.
    Migration is one reason of LDR, the salary abroad is way more than higher than Philippines, usually couples in western countries migrate together for settling in their life.

  129. For me, different path, workplace, and opportunities are the main reason where both parties resort to LDR. Though I haven’t experienced LDR first hand, I know a couple that went through this kind of relationship. As far as I can say, it didn’t went well. Well, everyone has their own story and life, speaking of which, every Filipino citizens wants a good life, better environment, and better workplace, so they seek opportunities from other countries.

  130. Being in a relationship with someone can be tricky when you’re both far from each other. There are lot of struggles that you and your partner will going to face over time, but why do couples often resort to long distance relationship? Maybe the reason is that they want to test their relationship. Like how strong their love and loyalty for each other. Some couples can survive this kind of relationship while others really can’t because of many factors that results their break up.

    I have never been into a relationship and thinking if i can resort in a long distance relationship I think I can’t. I’m the type of person who is not strong enough to be away from the person I love and also why would I resort in a relationship that I know from the very beginning that it may cause me pain in the end.

    The reason why the migration rate of Filipinos are bigger as compared to western countries is because there are lots of opportunities in other countries than here in the Philippines. Most of the time their income is not enough for their daily needs that’s why they consider migrating in other countries.

  131. Couples often resort to Long Distance Relationship is of course the cause of migration. Some are they work as Overseas Filipino Workers that’s why they tend to be away with their partners. In short, it could be for their own futures and the decision of their own families. In my own experience, I have not experienced having a Long Distance Relationship. I think I can’t stand with this kind of relationship for I am to clingy that I always want to be on the side of my partner. It is really tough and hard to survive for you are million miles apart. It will not be easy if both of you have problems wherein you cannot fix it personally. Only technologies connect you which is hard. You do not have the personal contact with each other. But for me, those who are in a LDR type of relationship, I truly salute them. It is because they are strong enough to trust and work their relationship even though they are too far from each other. One of the reasons why Filipinos migrate is that they need it for their future because of the poverty that we experience here in the Philippines. They plan and tend to work there because the income in other country is way better than how much they earn in their own country. Plus, the unemployed rate here is very high that even graduate student can’t look for a job suitable for their profession.

    CARTAS, Justine.
    DMD – DEN183

  132. Justine Capistrano
    Justine Capistrano

    In my own opinion people resort to long distance relationship because of some reasons maybe because one of them really needs to go to abroad because of their parents decisions sometimes because they decide to study abroad. I’ve never experienced a long distance relationship but if I will have a chance to experience it with my partner, it’s okay for me because long distance relationship is not a reason for you to breakup with your partner or it is not a reason for your relationship not to work. I think filipinos migrate to other countries compare to people in western countries because the quality of education in other countries is better than our country philippines and maybe because the work of their parents are in other country that’s why they need to migrate with them.

  133. People often resort to long distance relationship because of the reason that they really need to migrate or they have no choice but to accept it or maybe because of the reason that their parents decide it. And in the case if I experience this kind of relationship the answer is yes, it is hard to have a long distance relationship because first you dont have a chance to get along with her everyday second is sometimes their will be trust issues between me and her third is being in long distance relationship become the reason of our break up because she find someone else while im not with her. Lastly I think the reason why filipinos migrate to other countries because of family decision and because of low quality of education here in our country and lastly because of work, her in the philippines the salary of workers are not enough to support their family.

  134. Lalaine Dela Cruz
    Lalaine Dela Cruz

    People who tend to resort themselves into a long distance relationship are the ones who are strong enough and willing to sacrifice, with the person they are committed to. Knowing of the enormous difficulties and despite of the consequences they may be having in the future. They are willing because of love and they do trust each other. Distance deepens trust. Absence makes them grow individually and strengthen their relationship.

    I have never experienced long distance relationship. I am not quite sure if I would resort to this kind of relationship because it depends upon the situation but I think it is possible.

    Obviously, here in the Philippines, opportunities have been deprived to either professional or nonprofessional graduates. One of the reason why a member of a family went abroad, maybe because the last resort they had was to leave their country to support the needs of their family. The salaries given to Filipinos are not enough compared to the salaries from the western. Also, it is much easier to gain money from the other countries.

  135. The easiest way to end any battle to success is to give up or quit. The same goes for LDR also. A lot of times, it is very frustating to depend just on phone and internet. Even if we want badly, we can not be physically there to love and support. It can only be done virtually. Couple may get jealous and insecure on small things, since it is not possible to understand what is going on each other day to day life. The negative opinion from those from who either didnot try or give up half-way may couple more worried. There will be a lot of times, when it is about 1% chance of sticking together. That is the real test for both the partners. Be strong and have a faith like moutain in each other.

  136. Karla Magne Abat
    Karla Magne Abat

    Long distance relationship is difficult and yet people often resort to this kind of relationship intentionally or not. LDR is sometimes inevitable especially if one of the parties lives afar or if one really needs to migrate. To make this relationship a little better, here are few things on why LDR is workable. The commitment becomes a beautiful thing. The couple begins to be communication experts and time management becomes an easy thing.

    I have seen few of my relatives in a long distance relationship and they were able to survive through it. Sure, it is scary, but trust is just one of the many ingredients that need to be developed. Long distance relationship isn’t for everyone because it takes a lot of trust, patience, and understanding. If done right, LDR lasts. To be guided by my relatives who experienced LDR, I think I would be able to survive LDR if someday I will be faced with this kind of relationship.

    A huge number of Filipinos migrate to other countries mainly because of the economical problems in the Philippines. The Philippines can’t afford to pay the workers a lot of money due to their economical problems. In Western countries, their people need not to go other countries to earn a lot. Some of their citizens migrate due to work deployment or the workers are assigned to other countries for certain period of time.

  137. Long Distance Relationship invades a lot of partners in the world because of some reasons. Having this kind of relationship status is very difficult to handle as what the article stated. We all know that when you enter the love relationship, your world before when you are single is completely minimized or changed because of some factors.

    Now, why do couple often resort to LDR? As simply as, they have a strong and firm foundation of love relationship and affection. Couples cope up some challenges because of true love, right time management, firm trust, loyalty and full support to the partner and that was presicely proven according to my friend who is experiencing this kind of relationship status.

    Actually, I don’t have experience in relationship (NGSB) but I am knowledgable yet when it comes to this because some of my friend experiencing it. One of my friend had this kind of relationship and they are happy because until now they can survive their love to each other; in fact, they even missed each otger more than before that they had short distance relationship. Because of true love they believed that nothing can stop or destroy their love to each other.

    I guess, the reason why reason why Filipinos are preferred to go abroad/ migrate because of financial aspect and oppotunities. Compared to the western countries, we, Filipinos are culturally depend on what other people will choose (collectivism) while in western, they are totally depends on theirselves (individualism) that is why we relayed our destiny or life in abroad.

    CJ C. MENTE
    PSY184

    PS: Sir nirush ko nalang po di ko na po kasi makita yung gawa ko nung nakaraan eh. ??

  138. For me, couples resort to Long Distance relationship because one of them need to pursue their priority to other places, Yes i experienced long distance relationship it is hard as i expected, especially to the communication for us to be connected, Filipinos often migrate to other country than westernian because of the opportunity and high salary and benefits of filipino people there than to our own country.

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