Finding perspective that matters to us
Victim is a tricky word. It has implications. Just because something happens, doesn’t make us a victim necessarily. Victim is a mindset. Yes, technically, if something happens to us not of our choosing we might be a victim, but then, one could say, we are all victims of life in one form of another. Victims of hunger for instance.
Victim is usually associated with pity, sympathy, compassion and so on. I know people that experienced the most horrendous happenings in their lives, and because they did not have a victim mentality, they transformed that unpleasantness into Positivity. Some of them now say it’s the best thing that ever happened to them, unpleasant or horrendous though it was at the time.
In some cases their lives were actually saved by the horrid happening. Just as the lives of perpetrators were ruined. The issue is how we deal with what happens, now what has happened. Life happens. How we deal with what happens is the issue. Mostly “victims” leverage the events into trauma, and use that trauma for sympathy and pity, they use it to make themselves “special,” turning what was unpleasant into an ongoing perpetuation. And thus they become victims of themselves, of their ego and self-importance.
We have to look carefully at these kinds of happenings. Look with discernment, look deeper, look without expectations, look without conformity to the usual, to convention, look with total Honesty and Integrity. And yes, it sucks, at the time, but, I know of many whose lives were transformed for the better, who, if they have to do it all over, would choose to endure that suck again to get to that place of personal evolution they have come to. It’s a matter of Awareness and Perspective. When we zoom out, and look at these matters from a Universal long-term Perspective, it all changes.
Developing the ability to be able to stand up and express a Perspective that is contrary to the prevailing “Supposed to be;” is one of the major values in all of this. Because in that contrariness, that is how our thinking and beliefs evolve. Just think of those that stood up and spoke out against all the false and ridiculous beliefs that were commonplace in the past.
When we really really look closely at what happened, and look at it from the perspective that it HAS TO Make Sense in some way or another, then we find it actually *Does* Make Sense, because we find that Sense, sense for us personally. There is a greater logic at play in our personal circumstances and happenings. And that Logic, that Perspective, from which our lives, our life circumstances, and what we come into contact with, in all the ways that impact our Awareness, that logic of how all of it in some way to us personally Makes Sense, is: the Development and Enhancement of our Personal Awareness. And thus of our Personal Evolution.
Sometimes we can become stuck in a dead-end of Being. From an Overview Perspective, this is unacceptable. Being in a perpetual loop of stagnated-being is no good at all. Sometimes it needs something drastic to break us out of that living death. When we look at our Personal lives, and our personal circumstances, and how they affected us personally, and keep it personal, and not assume that the same applies to everyone, then much is made clear, then we see how it is all magically and intimately personally incredible in how it is all just right for us.
We can choose how we wish to learn, the hard way, or the Joyful way. It’s all in the Perspective. Insisting that it all Does Make Sense, in some way, even though we can’t see all of the Sense yet, that insistence, that Unrelenting Positivity, that makes all the difference. It re-frames how we see life, and thus how we Live life. We can CHOOSE. Choose to be victims of life or choose to be incredibly blessed. Our choice, and ours alone. And… when we look this closely, this deeply at our lives, we even come to the perspective that just maybe WE are the ones that chose it all to be the way it is, chose the circumstances of or lives for the lessons they contain, lessons just for us. It is a most radical notion, but, it seems, there is a part of us that knows, and a part that needs to know, and life is about bringing them together.
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