(Find Time To) Break Up With Yourself

Posted on April 5, 2017, by Kora Kaaghaz
Find Time To Break Up With Yourself

You might have been in many relationships in your life. However, there’s none more dysfunctional, depressing, agonizing and sometimes, more harmonious, then the one between your head and your heart!

We all have those quiet times when we sit alone, with broken pieces of memories and despair has crystal cleaned our soul of any hope. It is only then we realize that the true enemy is no longer outside our self.

From then on begins a series of games we play with people who don’t even know they even had a small part to play in it. We try to outmaneuver the figment of our own imaginations until we give up to settle for a loss, and realize that for a person who’s destroyed from the inside won’t even try to imagine having a glimpse of triumph. That person becomes obsessed with the war between the head and the heart.

We know the truth; we know it exists. But we keep on drowning ourselves to such a state of powerlessness that we find it hard to even breathe a sigh of fresh air – which at times is the only thing we need to recover again. We victimize our hearts so much by listening to our devilish brains that we end up loosing control on ourselves.

The Head continues to question every move, and the Heart just continues to get hurt with every move.

The Head just obsesses doing everything, filling our Heart with regrets and forcing us to sink in the pool of our own regrets.

When done, the Head blames the Heart for being such a loser and not being able to handle the pressure, which breaks it into pieces.

The Head Blames the heart, Blames you, me, and every other fictional character it can conjure up to blame for the growing pain we are suffering.

If you try to run away from their war, you’ll end up running nowhere. They might ceasefire for a while, but they’ll start again, at their will, when they find it suitable. They’ll wait for you like a predator. They are way more patient than you can ever imagine being. You can’t avoid it. It’s like a slow poison traveling through your body, killing you by the second. There’s no way to escape from it.

The only aid you can get for yourself: “Dude..we really need to talk it out before you eat me up!”

For them, it really doesn’t matter who broke up with whom, the head and the heart can’t live without each other. That’s the sole reason behind the whole drama. In the meanwhile, the head can think and do all the miraculous random stuff it does and the heart will never stop to amaze us by loving all the different kinds of things and people and weather and moments and chats. They will eventually grow back to being together, just like they were before the war broke out.

Head and the heart have the ability to be the most fierce combination that helps one survive the most difficult of times. They are like twitter and #hash tags. You can try, but you can’t separate them for long.

And they are the most amazing things to come out from mother nature..but not for now. Not for me.

At present, my head and my heart are on a break. And that too, a voluntary one! I know it was time to break up with myself. What about you? How do you manage to break away from yourself? Do you have a favorite destination that you go to in order to find solace? Is your heart at peace with your head after a Snickers chocolate and a can of your favorite drink?

Tell me about your way of getting away from all the hassles of life and giving your heart and your mind a break to sort things out. We all need to have a break.

 

By Immad Uddin Khan

Korakaaghaz 

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  1. “The Head continues to question every move, and the Heart just continues to get hurt with every move.

    The Head just obsesses doing everything, filling our Heart with regrets and forcing us to sink in the pool of our own regrets.

    When done, the Head blames the Heart for being such a loser and not being able to handle the pressure, which breaks it into pieces.”

    Breaking up with yourself is when you head and your heart disagrees together, but our head and heart can’t live without the other whatever happens. Whatever the head thinks, the heart feels and they will be always connected to each other either it’s good or bad.

    The Three Parts of Soul according to Plato are rational, appetitive and the spirited. The part that correlates with the article is the appetitive and the rational. The head do everything to think rationally while the heart feels appetitively. They might contradicts but for me, it is good to be more logical because we discerns what is real and not merely apparent , judges what is true and false and wisely makes just decisions in accordance with its love for goodness. If that happens, the heart won’t feel pain that much

    Camielle Brucal
    ACT 185

  2. You will feel to have a break from your self in the part that your mind and your heart was not connected to things that you wanted, To the situation that you want to happen but half of you was not into it.

    The parts of the soul according to Plato are are rational, appetite and the spirited. But this article belong to rational which the person was not in complete decision to his self.

    Fatima Mae Mendoza
    ACT 185

  3. The writer portrayed one self who had contradicting head and heart, but now decided to “break up with himself/herself” by doing the things both his/her head and heart desired. The author meant breaking up the forces or factors that kept the head and heart out of sync. It meant leaning on the things that his/her head thinks about and his/her heart approved of.

    This article is a great example of Plato’s three parts of soul as this described the desire of the heart, the challenges that comes with the desire, and the head or mind that controls the challenges– by deciding to breaking up with himself/herself– that makes the head and heart stabilized and in sync.

    –Christelle Mae Misperos, ACT185

  4. It was all about the heart and the head/mind. “break up with himself/herself” is all about the breaking upon with his unbalanced decision whether it as right or wrong for his heart and mind, and having this breaking up, now, he can start all over to decide if it is now perfectly okay with his heart and mind.

    This article is belongs to Appetitive. Desires, can be your greatest enemy and it can also be your weapon because you have it for your happiness. Having a desires in life is a good thing, but how can you achieve it, by doing something that your mind wants not your heart, or vice versa. Simply, by having desires in your life is having a good decision making before you do a step to get it, because when you didn’t decide carefully, your heart and head may start to be asynchronous one.

    LYSTER DECENA
    ACT185

  5. ACT 185

    Often times, our mind and heart will be contradicting one another. In this article, by stating ‘breaking up with yourself’, the writer meant to do fun things which will be in favor for the both of our own mind and heart, to have that peace in our own self once in a while.

    Relating it into Plato’s Three Parts of the Soul, there is this one component which balances everything. We have this spirit, which conveys the challenges we face in our life; the appetite, which conveys our desires in life; and the mind, which balances the two.

  6. The writer means about ‘breaking up with youself’ is that he needs some time to find peace because of hassles in life. He needs a break from problems that made her heart and mind confuse.

    This article relates to Plato’s three part of the soul. The rational, appetitive and spirited. Where it belongs to appetitive because we all have desires that are needed to have peace of mind.

  7. For me break up with youself is somehow connected with plato’s 3 parts of the soul because it states there how the mind controls us as a human. And that the relation of the heart and mind is inseparable.

    Xamantha Caacbay
    Act 185

  8. It only shows that we need to relax ourselves. Our mind, heart and everything related to our selves. Because once our heart and mind contradict each other we won’t be able to think right. Just like the three parts of soul of Plato. The two souls have different use and while the other one makes everything balance.

  9. All of us have struggles in our lives and by that, our mind and heart are in opposite way of how we can deal and handle the hassles of life. One example of breaking up with yourself is having regrets in life that you don’t even try if those things will work out and if it will make you happy.

    By means of relating it with Plato’s 3 parts of the soul, first, the appetite is if there is something that you want to have with yourself and the heart and mind are contradicting. Second is in spirit where we need to balance the decisions of our mind and heart to face different problems we encounter. And lastly, there are times that our mind says the right thing that corrects the wrong feelings of the heart.

    -ACT185

  10. The writer means about “breaking up with yourself” was you need to have free time for yourself. Your mind, heart and your whole body need some time for relaxation. There our times that our heart and mind contradict with each other because of that we don’t know what’s the right already because we can’t think right. That’s we need some peaceful time and place with yourself.
    This article relates to Plato’s three part of the soul. The rational, appetitive and spirited. The articles belongs to appetitive because we have the desires that we needed peace of mind and everything that would make us stress free.

  11. Each and every one of us has our own experiences in life. Experiences that always taught us different lessons in life.

    In this article, it only shows that sometimes we need time to relax. Our body, mind, heart and soul are connected with one another therefore it must function well everyday. There are instances in life that it contradicts with one another, that’s why it didn’t function well.

    Just like in the 3 parts of the soul of the theologian PLATO,the two souls have different use and while the other one makes everything balance.

  12. Breaking up with yourself means our head which has control with our mind and heart that controls our emotions disagree with each other. It happens most of the time when we think of something we desire but our heart knows that it is not good for us, we choose either the head or heart.
    In relation with Plato’s 3 parts of the soul that consist rational, appetitive and sprited, the head is rational amd rhe heart is appetitive. The head make the decisions while the heart shows the emotion.
    ACT185

  13. In the end, sometimes the most dysfunctional relationship is the one between your head and your heart.
    In those quiet broken moments when the obsession is still and the despair has picked your soul clean of hope, the enemy is no longer outside yourself. There we play the games with people who don’t even know they are participating. Outsmarting, outmaneuvering, outwitting the figment of our obsession until we’ve resigned to the loss, because triumph never lasts long in the imagination of a person destroyed.
    Even when we’ve seen the truth – the compassion, and the regret, and the powerlessness to stop the bus they just threw us under, we demonize, we victimize, we terrorize the drowning pieces inside of us that just need a scratch of air to recover.
    It is related with the Plato’s three parts of soul of because our head helps us to think rationally. And our heart and head balances our life. Not all the time our head is superior rather than our heart because we might lead in being heartless person, and not all the time heart is superior than our head.

    Apple Mae Uy Baldemoro

    ACT-185

  14. For the author “Breaking Up with Yourself” means giving yourself a break or getting away from the all the struggles and short-comings that a person can experience. The article implies that sometimes, we have to give our hearts and minds a break in order to achieve inner peace. People need to break up with themselves because sometimes the battle lives in ourselves. That we become confused and lost due to the things happening in our lives. So in order for us to understand ourselves and sort things out, we really need to break up with ourselves every once in a while.

    From Plato’s Three Part of the Soul the following are
    Appetite:
    In the article the example of appetite is the desire to have a break. It is the part where the author decided to give her heart and mind a break to sort everything out.

    Spirit:
    In the article the example of spirit as part of the soul are the struggles and short comings that the person can experience everyday. It is the part where the author fights with herself. It is the part where her heart and mind is fighting.

    Mind:
    In the article the example of mind as part of the soul is when the author said “Dude..we really need to talk it out before you eat me up!” It is the part of herself that she analyzed the situation and sorted things out in her head.

    -Hanna Jane B. Padua
    ACT185

  15. For me, what the writer means by saying “break up with yourself” is to find peace which will balance both our heart and mind by finding something that both our heart and mind desire.

    In Plato’s three parts of the Soul, the Spirit is the one that represents our competitiveness, the Appetite represents our wants and the Mind balances both. In life, our mind and heart will most of the time contradict each other that’s why we need to find something that will balance both and something that both our mind and heart will agree to.

    Anne Danielle S. Pariñas
    ACT185

  16. I think that when the writer says “breaking up with myself” it means to stop and breathe for awhile and let your sigh do the thing for a moment. It is not running away or disregarding something to help you get rid of it, but rather, getting away from all the hassles of life by giving your heart and your mind a break to sort things out. There is nothing wrong in weighing whether what should you flow your heart or your head. Either of the two, you will end up the way you want the things are done or not. These two always function, you can never choose both at the same time, but you can always follow the right thing for yourself.

    In Plato’s Three Parts of Soul
    There are different possible organizations among the parts of the soul. Which reason rules, spirit is reason’s ally, and appetite is suppressed. When the parts are so organized, they are in “harmony.” Just like in the article, the writer was happened to be pressured in some hassles in life which includes his mind and heart. With the line, “Head and the heart have the ability to be the most fierce combination that helps one survive the most difficult of times. They are like twitter and #hash tags. You can try, but you can’t separate them for long.” The three parts of the soul includes: appetite, spirit and mind. Wherein appetite is our desires or various pleasures, spirit is the part of us that loves to face and overcome great challenges, and the mind which means our conscious awareness about something. These three, as mentioned in the story, functions at the same time, where in we tend to have our desires in life, taking risks, and so, our conscious awareness will be active, as the writer said ” The Head just obsesses doing everything, filling our Heart with regrets and forcing us to sink in the pool of our own regrets.”these two can function at the same time but you can deal with it by compromising which is more important or maybe you can balance your heart and mind at the same time, But be prepared on where it might take you. Just remember, do not settle for less.

    -Ma. Faith A. Esquida
    ACT185

  17. Palermo, Ma. Bernadette M.
    ACT 185

    In this article “breaking up with yourself”, the author is pertaining to free yourself from everything that bothers you. Because sometimes, our mind and heart will be contradicting one another. Whenever it occurs, we can’t think properly. With having a little break with yourself, we should have take time to realize about everything that happens – for our mind and heart to function well.

    In relation to Plato’s three parts of the Soul, mind and heart are always contradicting but there is one component which balances everything. The spirit is the challenges that comes with the desire, the Appetite represents our wants and the Mind or head which balances both. We need to break free for our heart and mind to balance both.

  18. In this article (Break Up With Yourself), it shows that sometimes we need to take a rest, we need to relax. Our Mind, Soul, Heart and Body are connected each other and also it’s must functionable everyday. Then if some of their are contradicts we didn’t function well.

    Just like the three parts of soul of Plato. The two souls which is SPIRIT and APPETITE have different use and while the other one makes everything balance.

    Bryan Alcantara Dining
    ACT185

  19. ACT 185

    The line “breaking up with yourself” means that there’s a conflict happening inside of your body. The mind and the heart has a different desire with each other. This conflict results in the suffering of yourself.

    The article relates with Plato’s Three parts of the soul, specifically with the appetite. This is the desire of the self, the one that is accountable for the effortless cravings of yourself.

  20. ACT185

    I think the title “Break Up With Yourself” means take a step away from the spotlight. It basically means rest, relax and be at ease on what you are experiencing right now because we all know that all of us have a struggle that we are facing right now and we conquer that struggle by the judgement of our heart and head. Our Heart and Head are the main reason why we are here right now, living this life. These two things have its own personality and all the time they have opposing decisions which leads to a very unique path/road in our life and sometimes it can also bring us danger but ofcourse we really dont want that kind of thing. As per the author, he wants us to feel free and follow what we really desire despite of what the mind and heart is saying.

    For the three parts of the soul, I think that the mind and the heart are the ones controlling our action but we have our spirit or ourself to balance these things. Our spirit is the one who makes things work for both of them and without the other I think that we can’t function that much. So we must not forget the choices of our mind and heart and also follow our own desires.

  21. LEYVI ANN SORIANO
    ACT185

    The writer means with breaking up with yourself is having a break on all the things that been battling around your head and heart. To have a break in all the things that been messing up your head and your whole mental and emotional aspect. To just have a break with yourself or simply relax from all of the problems and overthinking.

    The story is related to the Plato’s 3 part of soul. For the mind stands for rational or reason and heart stands for spirit. It is like a battle between spirit and reason that continue to disagree with each other over and over again.

  22. Breaking up with yourself I think we need time to give ourselves a break and deal with things later on. We are all humans and we might get tired sometimes with the struggles we encounter it is just a matter of relaxation to give ourselves a freedom to have a break and escape reality for a while.
    Christian Jay Dl. Villanueva ACT185

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