Five Ways to Understanding Yourself

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Understanding Yourself

What’s the point of knowing yourself? What happens next if you do? Will you change for the better?

There has been a lot of science regarding understanding one’s self. From biological science to social science, the concept has enticed a number of philosophers across time. And it has both eluded and enlightened them.

Here are five ways for us to understand ourselves better:

I. Reflect.


Reflect. You’ve probably been self-aware for years now, but you would need physical data to go with some basic analysis. Write a blog or a journal. Writing helps record changes within you that go unnoticed. The small details matter. Having actual evidence helps in justifying the change you undergo. As they say, the best person to notice changes within you is yourself. So start writing.

II. Communicate.


Not all of us have the time to record every slightest detail that happens. Heck, we can’t even be bothered to stop and jot notes even on our daily commute. Talk to a friend. Have him/her analyze you. That friend doesn’t have to be present in every big event in your life. It is actually encouraged that you talk to someone who you haven’t seen for a while. It makes analyzing you more deliberate and obvious (for their part).

III. Know Your Likes and Dislikes.

Likes and Dislikes

Scrutinize your current preference. Why do you suddenly like listening to songs by Silverchair or Adelle? When did you stop drinking milk? Being aware of the choices you make and its repercussions make for a very good case study. Every likes and dislikes are little puzzles that define who we are. Start building that puzzle.

IV. Take Risks.

take risks

We will never know our full potential, or even limits if we won’t take risks. Taking a gamble provides us with an idea of our threshold. This threshold will be our savepoint. We must continually try to take risks to know ourselves better. You wouldn’t realize how much you will actually like that spicy chicken biriyani or that awful smelling shawarma unless you try.

V. Have a goal.

Have a goal

Setting a goal will allow you to have a definite direction. It may come as a career goal or even a daily goal you can pursue on short periods of time. Start working on that novel you keep neglecting. Be a bae and continue studying the Korean language. Setting a clear objective will give us focus – focus you will need to analyze what is it you really want and who you really want to be.

You can never fully define who you are even when you are 80, much more when you are 18. But having an idea of who you are, what you can become and who you must be will provide you time and space to focus on what truly matters to you.


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Ellen Mae Bootan

1. Evaluate your strengths and weaknesses
2. Willing to take responsibilities
3. Willing to feel pain
4. Learn from your mistakes
5. Examine your priorities

George Abayari

1. Know your strengths and weaknesses
2. Share yourself to others.
3. Take a risk.
4. Learn from your mistakes.
5. Aim a dream/goal.

Jeuz Renzel Abella

1. Reflecting upon myself
2. Knowing my strengths, weaknesses, and limitations
3. Contemplating about my failures and short-comings
4. Finding and learning my priorities
5. Taking risks

Jolius Ace Sison

1. Love yourself
2. Do not dwell on the past too much
3. Willing to learn
4. Accept some criticism
5. Be humble

Christian Randy Maranan

1. Find what makes you trully happy while scrutinizing your vulnerabilty as well your forte.

2. Share your thoughts and emotions to trully find your true self. Make companions to be your guides.

3. Accept the pains and sorrow of life to be able to be anew.

4. Master thyself and sharpen the character. Start forging the new from the old. Aim high and be the master of your own.

5. Once anew, set a path in your life where your truest happiness awaits. Always have Tenacity as your weapon.

John Carlos Rael
John Carlos Rael

1. Find your self
2. Be true to your self
3. Find what you really want
4. Take Risks
5. Explore

Dboy Baguisi

1. always think what is your really goal in life everyone thinks their goal in life but not always they give up immediately and leads to doing other things that will became a barrier to know what their really goal in life, this is important because having a goal in life is another word for having a meaningful life. 2. be a mistake. some people said that they know all and they are perfect but for me its a bad idea and it sadden me because being a perfect person is like you dont need to gain information and grow… Read more »

Fhillip Bagsic

1. Let go of what you want be and embrace who and what you are
2. Discover your passions and make use of it
3. Find contentment in your life
4. Have a vision of your future self and commit to your dreams
5. Do what pleases you, not everyone else

Jesnhile Sarmiento

1. Be vulnerable. Exposing yourself into failures and pain isn’t bad at all. There are things that you cannot see in light, like stars on the skies. Our vulnerabilities are what makes growth possible. 2. Explore. Getting out of your comfort-zones allows you to expand your possibilities; chances are you are more capable than you ever thought, you just have to try. Challenging our limitations are good to better understand yourself and reach your potential to becoming limitless. 3. Open yourself. Sometimes, we are too frightened to open-up ourselves. But we should bear in mind that having someone to talk… Read more »

Dominic Abanes
Dominic Abanes

1. be who you are open to the people who is here for you
3. accepting what is the reality
4. follow your dreams
5. do what you love and set a goal to achieve it

CeeGee Bee

1. ACCEPT YOURSELF BE YOURSELF. These are knowing your strenghth and weakness, finding your flaws or imperfections, and discovering or knowing the things that makes you who are. It is the first step to understand yourself. Because you can able to know why you do such things you like or dislike. Accepting yourself is also a way of accepting other people. 2. BE READY FOR EVERYTHING. Always be read in strunggles or challenges and changes. Everything that will happen to your life is a lesson. Be ready for what the life will hit you. Be ready for the people will… Read more »

Ronnel Balanay

1. The way of behavior and feelings
2. The way of physical instincts
3. The way of peace of mind
4. The way of subjective or objective experiences
5. The way of nurturing positive works

Kenneth Pacifico

1. I’m going to look at how I’ve changed.
2. Examine my priorities.
3. Evaluate my strengths and weaknesses.
4. Face my Problems and Fears.
5. Wisdom.

Dan Domingo

1. Recognize yourSELF. First yourself because no one can discover it but yourself only. Friends, family members, and other people are just part but it can never be the whole of yourSELF. 2. Uncover your excitement and mold it. Once you already recognized yourSELF, this is the time that challenges will appear and your skills and talents and even personality will help you to unveil what excites you as yourself. You just need to enhance it in order to recognize not by others but yourself. 3. Accept failures and disappointments of the SELF. Challenges not always a success but also… Read more »

Mary Joy Antivo

1. Accept Failures
2. Learn from your mistakes.
3. Stay Positive
4. Learn to let go
5. Be Happy

Abigail Capio

1. Know Myself
2. Having Vision
3. Nurture Positive Works
4.Face the Problems and Fears
5. Connect with others

Harvy Bolivar

1.) Think outside the box, your perception for one thing can be reflected on you as an individual. 2.) Learn to live the life that you have, not anyone else’ around. 3.) Move up, grow up, and cheer up, no matter what brings you down. 4.) There’s no such thing as accurate, as well as perfect but practice the good values and focus on consistency rather than perfection. 5.) Dare to do, to be something different, unique, doesn’t mean isolating yourself from the usual routines of the crowd. They might not be able to understand but it’s not your responsibility,… Read more »

Maye Herrera

1. Contemplate about the things happened, the events that happened in the past whether it’s a good or bad. Think of the things you’ve done and understand the pros and cons of that decision. There’s always a reason why certain things happened. Sometimes jotting down ideas, events and memories are helping us realize our changes and the things we learned. It’s not bad to look back especially when those decisions made us a better person. 2. Interact, exchange conversation with others. It doesn’t really need a lot of people sometimes one is enough. Someone who’ll listen. It’s helpful if we… Read more »

kweky kwek

1. Be who you are. Accept your flaws, you’re awesome in your way Don’t change yourself so that the world accept you. Be the best version of you. 2. Live your life to rhe fullest. When you found your Happiness you will found your purpose. 3. Take a risk. You can’t be better if you don’t want to take a risk. Things are all worth of take a risk its up to you on how you will see or apply the result. 4. Follow your dreams. 5. Explore. the earth is big, it is good to know new things. By… Read more »

Shia Domingo

1. Be the best version of yourself. In Anythjng that you do you will judge so be true to yourself. You will never know that maybe someone the bus or you’re riding someone adore you, maybe in the mall someones deeply inlove with you, maybe in the restaurant someones wants to be you. You will never know. Accept your flaws, you only see yourself ugly when you look at the mirror, you didn’t see yourself when your favorite food is coming , when you smile in a little things, you didn’t see how you laugh or how your eyes shines… Read more »

Esteven Esteves

1.follow you dreams what you love
3.accept failures
4.stay positive happy all the time

Kaycee Kate Ferrer

1. Let yourself engage in deep thinking or sudden self-realization. It can happen while you are taking a shower, riding a bus, or when you are still awake in the middle of the night, just staring at the ceiling. All the important points in life will suddenly pops up whether it is good or bad. At these moments we should learn to evaluate the events even if it contain the negative aspects we want to forget. Sometimes people tend to avoid thinking deeply and engage their selves in these sudden realization just because it involves their bad memories. But not… Read more »

Camille Fabia

1. Dream. To know what you want, and know what you need contributes much into understanding yourself. When we delve into the deepest part of ourselves it is only then that we recognize our wants in life. Knowing our wants helps us determine our passions, desires and goals which will eventually lead us into striving in the present for the future. On the other hand, our needs balances us in every aspect for our own necessity. 2. List self-affirmations. One of the things I have done countless times before is to answer questions that would develop my views. Recognizing our… Read more »

Justin Macki Julhusin

My own version of ways to better understand yourself: 1. Self-discovery. Seek the potentials buried within you. Sometimes, being afraid to do things that you don’t usually do locks you up in a box that hinders you from growing and learning things that will make you realize your full potential. 2. Reflect on yourself. Reflecting can never disappoint you. It will help you in assessing yourself and knowing what and who you have become over time. 3. Be Brave. Knowing our inner selves is hard because sometimes, we are afraid that we might disappoint ourselves. However, knowing your inner self… Read more »

Sherwin Menor

1. Accept Failures
2. Never give up
3. Focus on your dreams in life
4. Never let the past define you
5. Always think positive

Cee Jhei Agra

1. Know your Limitations.
2. know what makes you happy.
3. You should trust yourself.
4. Be Inspired.
5. Be open.

Christian Harvey Gonzales

1. Find what really makes you happy.
2. Let go the past and embrace the present.
3. Set your goals to become a successful one.
4. Love and reflect your self.
5. No pain, no gain. More pain, more possible positive outcomes.

Denise Amurao

1. Comprehend your strengs and weaknesses
2. Communicate and make some memories with your love ones
3. Explore and take risks in life
4. Know and love who you really are
5. Be a dreamer, aim a goal

Denise Alicias

Alicias, Denise A.

Here are my own five ways to understand myself better:

1. Self-love.
2. Embrace changes, take risks.
3. Accept criticisms for improvement.
4. Know my priorities.
5. Do what I love and follow my dreams.


Mary Frances Gayeta

1.Be true to yourself
2.Accept The Reality
3.Never Give Up
4.Learn taking risks
5.Continue Dreaming

Ralph Darryl Oliva

1. Be authentic. Remove all the doubts that’s trying to become a hindrance for being who you are and what you want to be, we must have our own version of SELF. 2. Explore things around you. What you see isn’t always what you’ll be getting, because life will not always give us everything we wanted to have. Learn to explore and appreciate more things around you, we’ll never know what life has prepared for our journey. We will not always get to choose the best but learn to choose wisely. 3. Patience, patience and Patience. It really takes a… Read more »

Jilleana Aramo

1. Know your strengths and weakneses.
2. Accept the things you can and can not do.
3. Take risks.
4. Achieve your goals.
5. Be yourself.

Cristelle Casapao

1. Accept the reality
2.Self Reflect
3. Taking Risk
4. Know my strength and weaknesses
5. Sort out my dream career path

Mhar Alfred

1. Always be yourself.
2. Don’t let other bother you too much.
3. Enjoy life and always seize your day.
4. Forgive and learn from your mistakes.
5. Strive to achieve your dreams and goals in life.

Gerdan Narvasa

1. Allowing yourself to know WHO you are
2. Connect with others you may acquire about YOURSELF
3. ENVISION whats good, REVISION whats bad
4. OVERTAKE or UNDERTAKE challenges you may confront
5. PRODUCE a limit and come up with an ENTHUSIASM

Cj Dizon

1. Have an alone time
2. Learn from your mistakes and others experiences
3. Reflect everyday.
4. Remind self that is better to have room for self improvement
5. Be positive but not ignorant.

Kyla Jose

1. Don’t let others dictate you and don’t let their harsh judgement changed you.
2. Believe in yourself and your capabilities to achieve your goals.
3. Surrender your expectations and conditional relationship.
4. Find yourself.
5. And lastly, don’t be afraid to take risks and explore new things.

Mary Rose Abariento

1. Know your strengths and weaknesses
2. Share yourself to others.
3. Take a risk.
4. Learn from your mistakes.
5. Aim a dream/goal.

Reiven L

1. Know yorself
2. Transparency
3. Be aware to yourself
4. Being brave
5. Achieve what you want

Riven Dave Enverga
Riven Dave Enverga

Dave Lorenz Enverga

Being self aware is important because when we have a better understanding, we are able to experience ourselves as different and unique individuals.
1. Know your strengths and weaknesses
2. Share and express feelings
3. Learn from your mistakes
4. Stay positive
5. Focus on priorities

Alyssa Nicole Ungos

1. Learn from your mistakes. We all make mistakes, but it doesn’t matter how many times we fail. What matters most is how you will learn from it and how it’ll improve yourself. 2. Have fun. Enjoy life. No matter how stressed you are, don’t forget to have fun. Having fun makes us feel better whenever we have problems. It also helps our mind to think properly especially when making decisions. 3. Dream. It makes our life meaningful. It also makes us motivated in everything we do in order to achieve our goals in life. 4. TRY AND TRY. It… Read more »

Emma Reyes

1. Know your goal
2. Work hard
3. Choose people who are true to you
4. Free yourself from hatred
5. Be happy

Darel Reyes

MED183 Reflect, as what is written in the article, it is important for us to be aware of ourselves, also how I see myself will reflect and have an effect on how I present myself in our society. Evaluating strength and weaknesses, so we will know what things we need to improve to our self. Knowing/Setting Priorities, it is important to know what we truly need and what things we just really want for our self. Socializing, “No man is an island” it is essential to interact with other people to know what they think about me. Taking risk, challenges,… Read more »

Cherry Teraytay

1. Accept yourself
2. Love yourself
3. Face your fears
4. Stay positive
5. Follow your heart and your dreams

Patricia Victoria Buo

Five ways to understanding yourself better: MED183 ? 1.) Contemplate and realize There are a lot of things we don’t know of yet, that includes ourselves. It might be an easy feat for others to know themselves but sometimes, we need a little pondering and realization. We sometimes ignore the little things in our life that we fail to see some things. 2.) Try new things We won’t know things if we don’t try them, so do new things and try new things. Might be baffling at first, but you’ll/we’ll manage. 3.)Learn to connect/interact with others As we all know,… Read more »

Nicko Jan Butanas

1. Contemplate in a peaceful place
2. Document your everyday life
3. Love yourself
4. Dream limitless
5. Live to the fullest

Cris Coloma

1. Take risk with precautions
2. Live your life to the fullest
3. Focus what is needed and dont be distract by those wants
4. Be kind
5. Learn to be independent

Floriza Real

Here are my own five ways to understand myself better:

1. Know your strengths and weaknesses.
2. Discover your passion.
3. Accept your flaws
4. Know your priorities.
5. Explore life.

Floriza Roni Real -MED183

Kathleen Chan

Five Ways to Understanding Myself
1.Learn from the past experiences
2. Love myself and love people
3. Know my Ability
4. Set Priorities and Goals
5. Try new things

Daniella Lejarde

1. Communicate with others.
2. Take risks.
3. Reflect from your mistakes.

4. Set a goal for yourself.

5. It is okay to make mistakes.