Don’t Try to Fix Me

Published by Pasithea Chan on

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In an era of information, ignorance is a choice. Emotional IQ is important to avoid ignorance. It comes at the cost of dignity, rejection, misunderstanding, and of course the feeling of loneliness. You might mean well to loved ones, siblings, or friends; but in the end, they can’t be fixed. Every person has his or her own perception, pace, perspective, and most importantly, priorities. Priorities aren’t just goals, they can be hurt’s measuring units. What does hurt you might not hurt others. Then again, what means the world to you might not exist to others. People are strange but minds are stranger than fiction.

They say love of all sorts
changes love’s consorts.
But they never say
it’s a conditional stay.

Hope’s boat hardly floats
Help is a bay of hay
anchoring in delay
lit with dismay.

You can pour your heart
but words only spill trust.
You can express thought
but emotions spell bust.
And that’s how souls rust
as love decays in time’s dust.

Life is harsh for a mush
who cares too much.
The harder you push
the sooner your ambush.

It hurts when regret
is the best you can get.
It stings, it stinks
when fix sticks
hurt like a needle that pricks.

You try to understand
hoping to be understood.
But try is a hood
covering unrequited love
with insult as truth.

Cares are fallen hairs
from a heart that bears
loneliness’ flares
in love’s fairs.

People are lonely stairs
with attitudes for chairs.
Pull one out & it’ll break
under you then break
you to remind you:

You can’t fix people
with advice, because
change is strange
when you’re out of range.

I won’t try to fix you
so don’t try to fix me.
I’ll be me, you’ll be you
that’s the best for you & me.

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Impressionist who enjoys writing poetry in symbolism laced with philosophy. https://twitter.com/RogueMalachite

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Princess Mae Paray
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present

kamiela
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“You can’t fix people
with advice, because
change is strange
when you’re out of range.

I won’t try to fix you
so don’t try to fix me.
I’ll be me, you’ll be you
that’s the best for you & me.”

Grace!

Cyrus Sabinay
Member

present

Krishia Joy Delarmente
Member
Krishia Joy Delarmente

The poem is true, we can’t fix everyone even if it’s our own family and friends, same goes to me. Only I can’t fix myself, other people may contribute to it but the final decision will always depend on me.

Anabel Adecer
Member

We all want to conform with one another not knowing that we are different with one another, we have different perceptions and opinions regarding our personal matters. Most of the time people wants to comfort and be comforted but the truth is, only ourselves can understand us and fix us from the damage that has been caused by circumstances and maybe other people.

Eljoy Bacay
Member

It is true that no one in this world can fix ourselves because we are the only one who can fix ourselves. Ourselves is the one who can understand us and the one who we can trust in a situation that other people don’t understand and trust us. Ourselves is our only ally who can fix us in a world that no one will help us.

Lyster D.
Member

To comfort is to support, not to change him/her on he/she wants to do in life.

MIkaela Marie Ducut
Member

Everyone has their own perception in life, which is why we don’t help others so that we can change them completely, but we help them so that they can become a better person. The same things goes within ourselves, because others can’t change who we are like how we can’t change them.

Present

Keannah Rose DG. Solitario
Member

Yes, we can’t change anyone but we can do it on ourselves. All of us have different perspectives in life all we need to do is to accept and not to judge.

Present!

Khianna Demela Ello
Member

What means the world to you might not exist to others, means don’t expect something in return when you gave something to someone . Love is not what you always think it can betray you and the other person involved. You can’t change someone else and no one can change you, a meaningful sentence that means for me that you’re the controller of your own life. You can change for the best or bad, it depends to you.

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Leyvi Ann Soriano
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Leyvi Ann Soriano

We all people don’t have to change ourselves for others because it will not help us. We just have to stay on who we are and stand on who really are and what we really wants. We don’t have to fix others because we have differences that instead of fixing them we may just broke them and put things not in order.

Vann Rhyme
Member

Present.- Reina Meneses

Roxxane Mae Macrol
Member

We have a personal opinion and perception to our life. So you have a mind and knowledge if you are going influence by others. Action without words are misleading.

Present Sir😉 ACT185

Princess Mae Paray
Member

You can’t fix others if you can’t fix yourself. So if you want to fix other people start fixing yourself first.

ACT 185 PRESENT

Hershey Silva
Member

Always remember that at the end of the day, nothing else but only you and people who truly know you will save you. You’re the one who really know who you are.

Present.

Hanna Jane Padua
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Anne Danielle Pariñas
Member

The way we view things is different for every people. We shouldn’t change ourselves for other people but we should do it for ourselves. We also can’t force other people to change so that they can live up to our expectations rather we should just help and support them when they decided to change.

Sergei Yue Vinzel Dait
Member

Present

Zarena Malay
Member

We must need to focus to fix ourselves first before others so that when the time comes, you can help to fix others.

-ACT185(Present)

Fatima Mae Mendoza
Member

We don’t need to change our self in order to accept by other. We can show who we are. Some people out there well accept your flows. Don’t fix your self just to fit in. Love your self.❤️

Chila Prado
Member

Only you, yourself, is capable of bringing change into your own life. You think you can change other people but you really can’t, and that is the truth that you must accept.

Chila Prado
ACT 184

Raymond Del Rosario
Member

The thing is that, people tend to ask for other people’s advice just to have someone they can vent out with; not because they want to get fixed but rather have someone by their side in times of need.

Claire Cadorna
Member

ACT182
Acceptance is the key. We should learn that we can advice others, but we can’t fix them. We all have differences.

SHAN ARVIE LEDESMA
Member
SHAN ARVIE LEDESMA

(ACT184) You cannot fix other people because it’s their own job to fix themselves.

Peachy Galera
Member

ACT 182

Based on my interpretation, we have different personalities, attitude, perception and mind-setting. Maybe my beautiful to me is ugly to others. There will be an instances that we accidentally came up with a decision that doesn’t satisfy others. So, we are all allowed to disagree one’s decision but make sure do it with respect.

Isiah David Dones
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Dones, Isiah David (ACT182)

There are a lot of people that can contribute to you, but at the end of the day the only thing who can fix you is no other than yourself.

Ashley Angelique M. Asinas
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Ashley Angelique M. Asinas

There is no one who can fix us but ourselves, and it is better to be true in every aspect of life

Karen Dayle
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Karen Dayle

Just don’t depend on other just be yourself and don’t let others change you. I don’t believe that others can’t change us because change is a choice. If we want to changes ourselves base on what other want it’s possible and it’s our choice.

elianar dela Pena
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Elianar dela Peña
Act 182

We should learn how to fix ourselves and not to rely this kind of obligation to others.

Keycie Ann Arevalo
Member

Arevalo, Keycie Ann S.
ACT-182

Prioritizing yourself is a must for you to build as an individual. Knowing that you’re trust and love for yourself is already enough is the best time to fix others because we all need to remember that broken holes needs to be fixed first before fixing another hole.

Clarisse Anne Salipot
Member
Clarisse Anne Salipot

We can’t fix others especially when they dont want to.

Act182

She Mercado
Member

To the author of this article, It’s okay to let the pain through, because as what they said, “that’s the thing about pain, it demands to be felt.” It requires you to be fully consumed by the hurt, to be bothered by the cause, and to be submerged in the agony. Because that’s how it should be—that’s how you deal with the ache that isn’t event welcome in the first place, the ache that breaks every part of you, the very same ache that stings sharply and exhaustively. Let the pain remind you that you’re only human: bound to feel… Read more »

Erika Yvette Lopez
Member
Erika Yvette Lopez

Change for yourself to be better. Don’t change because others told you to do so. Love yourself.
-Lopez, Erika Yvette B.
ACT 184

Mary Erica G. Gregorio
Member
Mary Erica G. Gregorio

It is not your obligation to fix others but it is your obligation to fix yourself when you are loosing in the process.

ACT184
Gregorio, Mary Erica

Jonathan Arcayna
Member

Change what you cannot accept and accept what you cannot change. We are unique in so many ways, choices is one of them. We choose differently because we don’t have similar destination in life. Priority is even invented because we all have it but just different.
ACT182- Jonathan B. Arcayna

Dianna Faye L. Cabungcal
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Dianna Faye L. Cabungcal

Dianna Faye Cabungcal
ACT-182

There are people who’s willing to help us but at the end of the day, the decisions will depend on ourselves and on how we will cope up with the situation. It is only me who can fix myself but I know that I still need people who will be with me all throughout the journey.

Gail Benedicto Arciaga
Member

Present

Jolinah O. Manalo
Member

We cannot fix other people but we can make a way to make them feel better. Every person is responsible for his/her feelings and actions so it is his/her obligation to fix his/her own problem.

Manalo, Jolinah O.
ACT- 184

April Ann Moselina
Member
April Ann Moselina

People are not used to see something new about you when you suddenly changed. Sometimes it’s better for you to be genuine.

ACT184

Princess Juan
Member

I agree. Nice article!
PRINCESS MARIE A JUAN ACT184

Macnell Joseph Panlaqui
Member
Macnell Joseph Panlaqui

It’s not your job to fix others unless they want to. Always remember that you, yourself can only fix your own life.

alcyra santos
Member

The problem with us people is that when we are loosing ourselves in the process, we intend to find other people who can fix us. Thats why when they fucked up, we are lost. Also, a lot of people thinks that its a charity work to fix other people and get abused in return. Always remember that its not your job to fix them, but its your job to protect yourself.

MA. ALCYRA AIRA M. SANTOS
ACT 184

CYRILLE ANN DAPPIT
Member

You can’t just say anything to anyone that makes them change, you can’t fixed anyone by a words and you can’t accept changes when you are not fix.

CYRILLE ANN DAPPIT ACT 184

Felisse Morabe
Member

sometimes the only person you can truly depend on is yourself. If ever things in life gets messed it should be you who is going to fix you.

Princess Leah Banoy
Member

Princess leah Banoy
ACT 184
As humans, part of our nature is making choices, whether we will let other people to change us or not or it is us who will change them and let us. But at the end of the day it is our choices that will lead and define who we will be in the future, and it is our lives that is in our control. Make a change, make a difference, but even before you do that, you need to have that first in yourself!

Joshua Bautista
Member

We cannot change people’s beliefs easily. Sometimes it is what hurts us. Things never go with how we picture them because just like what the author implied that minds are strange and unpredictable. Maybe what we really need in order to feel contentment is not to change other people but to start the change in ourselves.

ashley nhicollete dela rosa
Member

“When you try to solve people’s problems for them, you rob them of the most valuable teacher there is: discomfort.”

Dela Rosa, Ashley Nhicollete G.
ACT184

Xtian Vera
Member

you can get support, opinions, influences from other people around you, but no one can truly help us but ourselves, ourselves is the only thing who can change us from where we are right now coz everything may understand us but not as deeply as we can understand ourselves.

ACT 184

Andrea Fernandez
Member
Andrea Fernandez

Change in every person will just happen if that person him/herself will start and do a step to make that change. You can’t change someone, and vice versa, other people can’t also change you.